Sedantary jobs

Shydutchie28:
Is it worth it for me to change from my active job to a sedantary/WFH job if I wanna gain weight? Will it have tangible results in the long run?

SumoSized:
It'll have some tangible affect on your weight. So if you're looking for a new job it might be worth seeking out a more sedentary job, but I don't think it's worth actively seeking one out. If you're real worried about gaining weight just trying adding a few hundred calories to your diet and that will probably make up the difference

Shydutchie28:
Yeah I am definitely gonna up my diet one way or the other, just wondering if it would add some extra results slightly faster, thanks for the advice tho!

From my experience going from a working retail to working a more sedentary job at a really small warehouse. My appetite was a lot bigger when I was constantly on my feet all day, but I burned much more calories. Here I really have to struggle to eat enough calories to gain weight, but I'm not burning as many each day. I haven't been working here long enough to say what the result has been, but that's been my experience so far
4 weeks

Sedantary jobs

Shydutchie28:
Is it worth it for me to change from my active job to a sedantary/WFH job if I wanna gain weight? Will it have tangible results in the long run?

It'll have some tangible affect on your weight. So if you're looking for a new job it might be worth seeking out a more sedentary job, but I don't think it's worth actively seeking one out. If you're real worried about gaining weight just trying adding a few hundred calories to your diet and that will probably make up the difference
4 weeks

What's the most amount of weight you've put on in the shortest about of time?

Softgutgal:
Lbs113 during pregnancy. I never looked pregnant, just fat. Went from lbs119 to lbs 232 in 7 months and it took me years to go down to lbs159. Well, then my mid 40s and the pandemic came 😂

Glitter Jelly:
I find it almost impossible to lose any weight now that I'm in my mid fourties... Even with a very restrictive diet, I'm lucky if I can lose a few pounds.

Maybe at some point I'll give up and do the same as you describe in your profile.

I'm around 140 lbs now so I hope I wouldn't end up remotely close to 300 lbs, I'm only 5'1" so over 180 lbs is already obese for me.

I will say there is something freeing about finally letting go an letting yourself gain weight. I first started lurking in this community as a feeder and a total health nut myself. Then after I realized how much work it really takes to keep a 6 pack, I decided to just not worry about keeping my belly completely flat and let it do what it wanted to. I ultimately found the feeling of gaining weight so satisfying I decided I wanted to intentionally do it.
I'm not saying that'll necessarily be your experience but who knows you might surprise yourself. At the very least it may allow you to by kinder to yourself and boost your confidence
4 weeks

Seeing the cute slim guy/girl blow up


SumoSized:
They might not be thinking that hard about it but the themes are still present and it can still lead to stigmatization. I'm a feedee and I don't have a humiliation fetish, so when I hear other people's real stories or read people's fictional ones about how fat is bad and fat people are ostracized for their weight, but actually they're sexy but actually they should feel ashamed. It demotivates me from wanting to gain even just a little bit because I don't want to be humiliated.
I'm not saying this to say "we need to ban these stories because they hurt people's feelings", because a lot of people do enjoy the humiliation factor. I just think we need to be careful how we judge people who don't share this fetish and who don't want to gain weight but just have due to other circumstances. Because even though they aren't part of our circle, the way we treat and view them, affects how we treat and view feedees/gainers in our circle.

Munchies:
I think a lot of people get into the whole "Don't yuck my yum" mentality that they don't examine their yum in the first place. They have deep, conflicting feelings that they don't want to explore.

And I get that. Introspection is scary.

But I have spoken to a lot of feedees, gainers, encouragers, and feeders. A lot of them admit to seeing fat people like a dirty little secret. A lot of fat people that those that fetishize them as less than. It's really sad.

You'd think people in this community would be against fatphobia, but it's still startling to me how engrained it is. It's almost like some people are only into it because it's taboo, and so if peoples weights became more normalized, they would lose interest.
4 weeks

Seeing the cute slim guy/girl blow up



Glitter Jelly:
I've often wondered about that, since this theme is so prevalent in the stories section...

Letters And Numbers:
If I had to guess, there might be 2 things going on:

1) That kind of revenge-by-getting-fat trope is common in a lot of media, it's been around forever, and I'm sure there are quite a few people in this community today who discovered they liked weight gain (or erotic weight gain media) because of tropes like that in "straight" media -- they just liked it for a different reason than how the author intended, maybe. Maybe not.

2) A lot of the stories on this site are taking well worn tropes like this one and putting the author's own take on it, and the author might not be thinking that hard about the origin of the trope they're mimicking, because it's something they always thought was hot. They might not have seen it the way it was intended to be seen, kinda subverting a problematic trope, but maybe inexpertly making that clear. Or not. It's amateur art, though, people trying things out.

Munchies:
I think this is true in terms of surface level, individual reasons. But the popularity also speaks to feedist culture. As much as feedism is countercultural, feedist still live in a fatphobic world. I do not think a lot of feedists have interrogated these influences as a whole.

I noticed revenge weight gain stories follow a general beat. Mean person is skinny and hot. As punishment for their sins, they get fat. Society rejects them, their life is ruined, and then they get fatter. Bonus points if the mean person joins the other loser fatties or the loser fatty they bullied become skinny and hot.

Notice how this frames fat as bad and skinny as good. There are, of course, variations on an individual level, but this is how the bulk of them go. From where I sit, this suggests feeling ashamed of their kinks and fetishes. They find fat sexy (the porn part) while also negociating some level of fatphobia (the revenge part).

But I suppose it makes sense. A lot of people sexualize what they find taboo.

Letters And Numbers:
Yeah, I don’t know that a lot of people think that hard about it, they just know they like what they like. Some people are also very into the teasing/humiliation part of the fetish, which plays into stories like these, too.


They might not be thinking that hard about it but the themes are still present and it can still lead to stigmatization. I'm a feedee and I don't have a humiliation fetish, so when I hear other people's real stories or read people's fictional ones about how fat is bad and fat people are ostracized for their weight, but actually they're sexy but actually they should feel ashamed. It demotivates me from wanting to gain even just a little bit because I don't want to be humiliated.
I'm not saying this to say "we need to ban these stories because they hurt people's feelings", because a lot of people do enjoy the humiliation factor. I just think we need to be careful how we judge people who don't share this fetish and who don't want to gain weight but just have due to other circumstances. Because even though they aren't part of our circle, the way we treat and view them, affects how we treat and view feedees/gainers in our circle.
4 weeks

What mental changes have you experienced while gaining a significant amount of weight

I've talked about this in previous posts but since I started off skinny I'm not used to my body taking up space or being weighed down at all. Like when I was skinny I could easily slip through tight passages or jump real easily. Now I forget I'm bigger so I'll still try to squeeze through tighter gaps and end up getting stuck or knocking something down. And anytime I've had to jump I feel it in my knees a lot more than I have before. I have no clue if this feeling is going to get worse or if I'll just get used to it as I get bigger
1 month

23 ftm need a bestie who will gain with me and let me infodump about my hyperfixations

BlxxdyKawaii:
I’m looking for besties/net pals/whatever that I can gain with and record my progress. Clear warning, I will brainrot about Gravity Falls, Zelda, and TF2. I also accept random ass memes as a form of socialization, I’m not picky. I’ll do that too. Being able to talk on discord is a bonus.

I really need to watch gravity falls already, I've heard it's really good but I was more of a Phineas and Ferb kid rather than a gravity falls kid so I didn't watch it growing up
1 month

Your ultimate fantasy?>

My ultimate fantasy would be to have some magical potion that would allow me to gain 1,000 lbs instantly, and that it would wear off within a couple hours. I've always wanted to know what it would feel like to be that weight, but I don't have the balls or hell even the resources to commit to it
1 month

My girlfriend wants me extremely obese

Cenere:
Me and my girlfriend share the same fetish and she is the feeder and im the one who gains.
In a year I gained almost 45kg and now I weight 130kg, and my weight stalled, even though im getting visibly fatter without gaining actually weight.
She always said to me that she didn't want me to get any fatter because it would've caused many difficultues, but now she offered help in any situation.
In these days she said that she wants me to weight at least 220kg and im 187cm tall.
Should I go for that?

SumoSized:
Honestly that's some really good progress, all I can really say is do whatever feels right to you. If you're afraid of running into health complications or difficulties then don't commit to that goal, instead just take things step by step and every 25 lbs or so ask yourself "do i want to keep going or have a I reached my limit?" And go from there.

Also it's not unheard of for your body to stall, or for you to look fatter while not gaining any weight. That's currently happening to me because I've lost some muscle at the same rate that I've gained fat. Just take it as an excuse to eat more calories and you'll eventually break from it

Cenere:
Like to give you an idea of how big she wants me to be is a little bit less than how big juicy jacky is right now.

She said she would love to see me unable to climb the stairs.

If that's what you want to, by all means go for it. But you don't have to feel like you're committing to that. Just listen to your body it's not uncommon for people to set crazy high goals and run themselves into the ground and give up because their body can't cope with the crazy change
1 month

Fun reminders of your weight at work

Raven:
I noticed that my back has been hurting a bit when I bend over to vacuum at the end of my shift. I have to sit down in a chair to clock out after I clean up for the day because my lower back hurts. Today I was huffing and puffing just walking the vacuum back to the other side of the room. It felt like I had ran a bit. xD Made me happy though, that just means I'm getting fatter and out of shape since I mainly sit now at my new job.

Honestly that's so real, I've started getting out of breath from things that didn't previously wind me, which feel concerning and comforting at the same time
1 month
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