Ideally wait until you're on you're own. If you're constantly worried about parental friction you can't really enjoy gaining, and why do it if you can't enjoy it?

If you do need to talk to family about it, I helped one woman with that: askdrfeeder.dyndns.org/letters.html

I did help a woman who was worried about this: askdrfeeder.dyndns.org/letters.html

I don't see it on this list of paraphilias: labs.la.utexas.edu/mestonlab/

I realize some just decide to get fat and jump in with both feet. They start eating more and love it and don't look back or worry about where they're going. This is a great way to do it.

But some people are on the fence and wondering how much to gain, whether to do an experimental gain, whether to have goals or limits or both.

For those people I've often recommended an experimental gain. But I'm having second thoughts.

I'm starting to think the experimental gain is more for those whose main interest is the erotic or aesthetic aspects of gaining. They need to gain some real weight to truly understand the experience of gaining.

But if you are more focused on gluttony, on the freedom to eat all you want, the experimental gain may not be as useful. Gluttony is best if you aren't worried about your weight at all. Ideally you should have no limit, or at least a distant one.

Does this make any sense?

Didn't care? Or were you kind of proud that you'd gotten that fat and were still committed as ever?

It's all about making up your mind. If you gain 12% and you make up your mind at that point, there's no point in experimenting further.

If you're still undecided whether to gain or lose after gaining 12%, stay there until you do decide.

If you gain 12% and are undecided but HAVE decided not to lose the experimental weight, why not do another experiment? Gain another 12% and re-evaluate.

The main thing is to eat healthy food as well. You can still eat junk food, but ideally have one meal a day where you eat healthy. This will not eliminate health risks but should mitigate them some.

Gaining people have moments where they realize they can't gain much more and still do something that they used to enjoy (running, hiking, fitting in theater chairs, etc.). Have you had such moments? Did you just shrug and say "Oh well, I guess I just won't do THAT anymore" and put more butter on your bread? Or did you stop gaining? Or pause? Or try to stop and fail? Or...?

I have chatted with women who consensually gained weight for their spouses even though they weren't feedees themselves. They did love the freedom to eat all they want though. I think that's fine.

I think a proper experiment would involve gaining enough that others notice. Probably at least a 12% gain.