Curiousv:
I'm encountering a strange phenomena as a guy who is attracted to overweight women. Although weight is not the deciding thing and I can accept her at nearly any weight, there is still a factor of attraction and what I imagine being the most attractive. The strange thing is how inconsistent it is what I'd find ideal, depending on her weight.
Just a few examples:
- If she was 150 lbs, I'd wish she only gained about 10-20 lbs
- If she was 200 lbs, I'd wish she gained 100
- If she was 350 lbs, I'd wish she only gained about 10-20
- If she was 400 lbs, I'd wish she gained 100 or more.

This seems contrary to what I see most FA want: they have a maximum limit, or an ideal weight, and if their partner is below it, they wish the partner jut reaching that limit. So if someone has 500 lbs as the desired limit, they'd want both a 200 lbs and a 400 lbs partner to just grow up to 500.

But for me it's not like that. It has always been in distinct ranges, and I have a resistance of someone moving from one range to the next.

I intuitively recognize size not as a spectrum, but in zones, each with its own lifestyle and identity:

- Zone 1 (curvy/fit): active, flexible
- Zone 2 (plus-size/BBW): Some of the most active hobbies become impossible, but most of day to day life is not affected too much.
- Zone 3 (super-sized): fatter than most things are designed for, problems with navigating a world not designed for such sizes

I find each zone beautiful in its own right—but I don’t want her to cross zones lightly. I prefer gain to occur within a zone, not between them. Crossing a zone boundary feels like a loss of identity, capability, or balance.

So, for me, it's about lifestyle changes. If she is near the top of a zone, I'd only want very small gains, but if she is at the bottom of the zone, I could be comfortable for her to go all the way to the top of the zone. As these zones represent different ways of life, crossing from one zone to the next means certain activities and abilities are being lost. But if she is already inside that zone, then the lifestyle changes already happened, so there won't be too many lifestyle compromises unless she crosses into yet another zone.

Are there others who think like this?

Munchies:
Your body will tell you when it needs a break. When you start to stall despite all you efforts, that's when you need to take that break.

NoMoYoYo:
Can you elaborate on what you mean by taking a break? Do you mean eating a regular amount of calories? Eating a bit less than I do currently?

Right now I am trying to have approx 3000 cals a day. Some days I have more, some less. Most calorie calculators say I should have about 2100. Should I aim for that? 2500?

Munchies:
I mean, stop pushing yourself to eat more and, if you aren't already doing it, eat cleaner. Take a break from heavy cream. Take a break from fast food binges. Take a break from belly stuffing - all that other good jazz.

NoMoYoYo:
I do need to eat cleaner. As I've mentioned before, fast food is my weakness. I love it so much.

I wouldn't say I never eat clean. But junk and/or fast food plays a big role in my eating habits.

My hope was to reach my goal of 275 and then take it easy. I've been close for a few months now and can't get over the hump.

I think my only choice to take that break now, with the hope of not losing too much in the meantime and try again in the not too distant future.

Morbidly A Beast:
Any areas that touch for long periods like sitting at the computer for instance or driving like to fuse together and when you go to move can cause ripping or tearing of the skin unless you have big oily pours then you just get chaff discoloration

Johnxyz:
MarkSeanDavis17:
Feabie is great if you want to be flooded by dudes sending you variations of "hey" "hi" about 6 times

Feabie has a button on each profile labeled "send a flirt." This sends a Hi if you click it. I get some of these as a male. And it usually ends with a request for money. (despite my profile saying I do not send money.)

Munchies:
Your body will tell you when it needs a break. When you start to stall despite all you efforts, that's when you need to take that break.

NoMoYoYo:
Can you elaborate on what you mean by taking a break? Do you mean eating a regular amount of calories? Eating a bit less than I do currently?

Right now I am trying to have approx 3000 cals a day. Some days I have more, some less. Most calorie calculators say I should have about 2100. Should I aim for that? 2500?

MarkSeanDavis17:
Feabie is great if you want to be flooded by dudes sending you variations of "hey" "hi" about 6 times

BBWBecky:
The crease under my belly and before my fupa get ref, sore and sometimes break open..was wondering what the best product is to help with that

Masuli:
I'm surprised that no one mentioned of bringing back the real or fake meter that was working really well when speaking about abusing it.

Munchies:
I'm confused. How was it working really well if there was rampant abuse?

Masuli:
Tool to use when you didn't like someone or wanted to be mean just because of some reason.

Masuli:
I have also been part of the community for long time. I remember Dimensions weight room, weight gain stories & forum. Also I was using Dial up modem connection.

I don't really know where did this enjoying being heavier, rounder myself & liking bigger girls come from

I can remember being a young skinny child & spending a half an year with my grandma because family issues. During that time I become lazy, enjoyed my grandmas cooling + all the deserts & I gained so much WEIGHT. I did grow this big belly & moobs, started to enjoy playing with my belly. Also my grandma really loved to hug me & touch my belly while commentin that I looked much better with extra weight.

Maybe this was the start of the prefering female feeders & female fa's

There was also Fatnats, anime boards that had weight gain pictures, stories.

I also remember Fantasy Feeder inner clique mentality with moderators & certain users. Oh how we cannot forgot the controversial Real or Fake voting by the community that was used instantly against person that didn't belong to the inner clique or in other causes you were voted fake just by not living in England or America.

This fetish can be challenging if you live in a small country, less people so of course changes are smaller, especially if you are considering the rarest of them all: Female feeder.

I'm not giving up thought even if this will disappoint some users but keeping my eyes open & being open minded in the present + future.

Masuli:
I'm surprised that no one mentioned of bringing back the real or fake meter that was working really well when speaking about abusing it.