H203:
I’ve been on this site for a very long time, using several now-deleted accounts, and honestly, I’m getting really tired of the lack of real connections. I’ve always enjoyed sharing updates, engaging, and being part of the community, but lately, it just feels like I’m wasting my time. There are so many fake accounts and people who just want to take without giving anything back, and it’s incredibly frustrating when you put yourself out there, share personal updates, and get nothing in return.

I’m not just here for shallow play – I’m looking for something real. For me, it’s not about a fetish or kink; it’s about a genuine connection - not even romantically necessarily, even companionship and friendship would be great. I’ve always loved bigger women, not because of some fantasy, but because I find them genuinely attractive. It’s really tiring being reduced to just a stereotype or a fantasy role.

I had a really crappy experience in the last 24 hours where someone pretended to be legit and I talked sincerely to them and was warm and interested but they gave nothing back. They asked me to post some new photos of myself so I did and they just seemed to be 100% fake.

In response to this, I’ve taken down all my photos and stopped sharing publicly. Now, I only share updates with people I’m sure are real and actually want something more meaningful. But it’s getting harder and harder to find those connections.

As a guy in this community, it’s hard enough to find female companionship just because of the ratio. But it’s just extra disappointing when you put yourself out there and then it’s just someone playing games.

If you’re actually interested in something deeper and more real, then I’m open to talking. If not, I’d rather not waste my time. At the end of the day, it’s about respect and honesty – if we can’t be real here, what’s the point?

I’m just disappointed.

Canuck:
i think we may all be a little biased towards ff i love the chat room here, i love the forum format, and i love the story library. for those three elements, i think it is the best. the pics and videos are just icing on the cake, for me.

i am also on feabie and grommr. it's a different format - they are like facebook without the algorithms. posts come and go, and only have a short half-life for comments. there is more shouting into the void (kind of like the shouts used to be here, but i see them less and less, which is fine). i don't find it as engaging because, unless you are keeping tabs on it every day, several times a day, things get stale and fall out of context, which is why i prefer the forum format where you can have an ongoing exchange over time. i use feabie a few times a week, and grommr only occasionally.

dimensions requires $ to join now? really? that will kill that site, i think. i don't even know if i have a login there anymore, i haven't used it in ages (well before the pandemic). but 10 years ago it was starting to get quieter and quieter as social media platforms made forums look old fashioned, and less phone-friendly. when the site became *just* a forum and got rid of the rest of the site, that killed a lot of the interest, i think.

i have made friends on ff, feabie, and dimensions that i have gotten to know over decades now, visited in person, and care about a great deal. i think each format has its weaknesses and strengths, and people will find their preferences. i see a lot of people here, and elsewhere, complain about "other users" and "everyone just wants..." [fill in the blank] - and when i look at the profiles, posts, interactions, etc. of the people complaining, it is obvious that they have made little effort to make meaningful connections. they either expect others to do all the work ("i am not going to fill out this profile, just ask me!" why would anyone bother???) or they only spend their effort projecting their own fantasies on everyone else.

i hope ff will run for decades to come!

Munchies:
I never understood the aversion to filling out your profile. Like, why look for connection if you are adverse to doing things to facilitate connection?

Makes no sense to me.

SumoSized:
People on here also seem to come and go a lot. I was chatting with a guy on here through dm's the last couple days and randomly he just deleted his account. I've also received several messages that get deleted before I even open them or see who they're from. People can just be so fickle sometimes

SadPinkFox:
I know you are mad at me. I am sorry for suddenly leaving. I was depressed because some people ganged up on me. I hate it here.

Munchies:
Dang, what happened?

SadPinkFox:
I got upset that someone used the b-word and surprisingly people didn't agree with me. Even one woman user. I started to have a mental breakdown and decided to delete my "Kitsune" account. I vented about this website on an Autism website.

Canuck:
i think we may all be a little biased towards ff i love the chat room here, i love the forum format, and i love the story library. for those three elements, i think it is the best. the pics and videos are just icing on the cake, for me.

i am also on feabie and grommr. it's a different format - they are like facebook without the algorithms. posts come and go, and only have a short half-life for comments. there is more shouting into the void (kind of like the shouts used to be here, but i see them less and less, which is fine). i don't find it as engaging because, unless you are keeping tabs on it every day, several times a day, things get stale and fall out of context, which is why i prefer the forum format where you can have an ongoing exchange over time. i use feabie a few times a week, and grommr only occasionally.

dimensions requires $ to join now? really? that will kill that site, i think. i don't even know if i have a login there anymore, i haven't used it in ages (well before the pandemic). but 10 years ago it was starting to get quieter and quieter as social media platforms made forums look old fashioned, and less phone-friendly. when the site became *just* a forum and got rid of the rest of the site, that killed a lot of the interest, i think.

i have made friends on ff, feabie, and dimensions that i have gotten to know over decades now, visited in person, and care about a great deal. i think each format has its weaknesses and strengths, and people will find their preferences. i see a lot of people here, and elsewhere, complain about "other users" and "everyone just wants..." [fill in the blank] - and when i look at the profiles, posts, interactions, etc. of the people complaining, it is obvious that they have made little effort to make meaningful connections. they either expect others to do all the work ("i am not going to fill out this profile, just ask me!" why would anyone bother???) or they only spend their effort projecting their own fantasies on everyone else.

i hope ff will run for decades to come!

Munchies:
I never understood the aversion to filling out your profile. Like, why look for connection if you are adverse to doing things to facilitate connection?

Makes no sense to me.

SumoSized:
People on here also seem to come and go a lot. I was chatting with a guy on here through dm's the last couple days and randomly he just deleted his account. I've also received several messages that get deleted before I even open them or see who they're from. People can just be so fickle sometimes

SadPinkFox:
I know you are mad at me. I am sorry for suddenly leaving. I was depressed because some people ganged up on me. I hate it here.

Canuck:
i think we may all be a little biased towards ff i love the chat room here, i love the forum format, and i love the story library. for those three elements, i think it is the best. the pics and videos are just icing on the cake, for me.

i am also on feabie and grommr. it's a different format - they are like facebook without the algorithms. posts come and go, and only have a short half-life for comments. there is more shouting into the void (kind of like the shouts used to be here, but i see them less and less, which is fine). i don't find it as engaging because, unless you are keeping tabs on it every day, several times a day, things get stale and fall out of context, which is why i prefer the forum format where you can have an ongoing exchange over time. i use feabie a few times a week, and grommr only occasionally.

dimensions requires $ to join now? really? that will kill that site, i think. i don't even know if i have a login there anymore, i haven't used it in ages (well before the pandemic). but 10 years ago it was starting to get quieter and quieter as social media platforms made forums look old fashioned, and less phone-friendly. when the site became *just* a forum and got rid of the rest of the site, that killed a lot of the interest, i think.

i have made friends on ff, feabie, and dimensions that i have gotten to know over decades now, visited in person, and care about a great deal. i think each format has its weaknesses and strengths, and people will find their preferences. i see a lot of people here, and elsewhere, complain about "other users" and "everyone just wants..." [fill in the blank] - and when i look at the profiles, posts, interactions, etc. of the people complaining, it is obvious that they have made little effort to make meaningful connections. they either expect others to do all the work ("i am not going to fill out this profile, just ask me!" why would anyone bother???) or they only spend their effort projecting their own fantasies on everyone else.

i hope ff will run for decades to come!

Gluttony Incarnate:
I hate that all anyone over at Feabie wants to talk about is how I should give them money.

MarkSeanDavis17:
Can't say I'm really surprised at the original poster's remarks. Not because it's true, because it's all about how you carry yourself and interact with others. I got into the kink just over a month ago and have had an incredible IRL experience, as well as a handful of meaningful, and flirty DMs with others. Treat people with respect, show an interest in what they're into besides our mutual kink, and LISTEN LISTEN LISTEN. Establishing trust and clear communication go a long way. It's not enough to have a certain body type, you should also be a decent person. Anyway, my 2 cents.

DanielD:
Should I feel bad that I have been with my gf for 8 years and over that time have gained hundreds of lbs and she seems to accept that it's happened but not want me to gain anymore if that makes sense, yet I really badly want to keep gaining.

Munchies:
So you would rather have an affair over marital counseling or divorce.

You're not very smart.

Chubbywifewantadvice:
My husband is out of town so I talked to him on video chat.

I confessed to him something I did today that I'm ashamed of. I went to a different site and talked to men who like bigger women. One of those guys, because he said he lives in my city, I video chatted with him. A good-looking, younger guy. This guy wanted to hook up with me. Me and my daughters are sick with the flu, and I considered hooking up with this stranger from the internet. I actually considered for a minute about doing something that could cause me to end up being the topic of a true crime documentary.

My husband said he loves me, and he swears on our daughters that he never had an affair. But he finally admitted that he is not as attracted to me as when we first got together. He also finally admitted that he was embarrassed to introduce me to his ex. He said he knows it's stupid and shallow, but he wanted to impress his old girlfriend. He said that when he comes home tomorrow, he'll do everything in his power to fix our relationship. I promised him that I will also try to fix our relationship.

Munchies:
It is highly ironic that this is coming from a Russian, whose country is known for the October Revolution.

Olga01:
Yes, and we have had so much enough of it that we really don't want it anymore).
I think there is pretty few Germans now who are fond of Nazism.
And there was not a single attempt of republican Revolution in England after their experience with Cromwell who put to the bitter end the monarchy and the monarch under the most freedom loving slogans -!and then became much more cruel and tyrannical dictator than this monarch had been .
One such experience is more than enough.