Jiggle Junkie:
...western societies define and judge women by attractiveness and sex appeal, and value them highly as sex objects. Show up to an online community as a woman and watch your message box blow up, just by existing.
BiteSize:
THIS! And it doesn’t even matter what community I am existing in. It doesn’t even have to be a kink space. Dudes will still try to flirt (at least on a kink site I’m somewhat anticipating it, but, like... on an antique toy auction group? LoL YES! True story! Dude was selling some vintage toys on a local market and tried to get a date with it)
Faithinstrangers19:
Yeah I guess that’s the reason.
And it seems to perpetuate itself...the more “scarce” women are the more desperate *some* men become which results in more inappropriate behaviour online which results in women leaving the online domain because they’re being harassed or doxxed or overwhelmed which results in a greater imbalance.
I’ve found that to be the case with dating apps so I imagine it’s even worse here.
Well actually i know it is, I’ve chatted to maybe 300 feedees over the years - 95% of them disappeared, and in the rare case that they left me a goodbye message it was often because they were being harassed or some creep had found them on social media.
Or because the social pressure on women to look fit and toned is massive. It exists for men but not to the same level. It causes most feedees I’ve chatted to to hate themselves for what they’re doing and feel as though they’re weak for giving in to their fetish so it’s like being tortured in a way.
Side note :
When I see a feedee posting daily who wants to gain 200lbs I’ll bet my car that they’ll be gone in a month.
I think being able to enjoy it in moderation is important. And not completely separating it from your own morals.
The truth is that for some this life is something to be hidden, others it is just a passing fetish and the truth is that most are just pretending because they have that right to pretend so we have to understand the neuropsychology of both sexes and how that manifests itself in this lifestyle because that lifestyle in most Western societies is seen as taboo so you will meet folks all the time and they will vanish due to how this fetish is seen by the masses. It comes with the territory. I used to be frustrated by it but the fatter that I got and understood the nature of this the women came to me because of how I changed my perspective on it.
4 years
Meepmeep:
Donovan Sharpe, Better Bachelor, Sandman on YouTube. There is a huge imbalance of men on the sight looking to have thirst quenched. Most men on here don't have the luxury of being able to market their gain the way 30-40% of women here. there is such an imbalance that guy's are willing to pay for the same attention and validation that women enjoy for free or or get paid for. IRL it's pretty much the same, why would a woman settle for a mediocre dude when she can get pumped by Chad with the consequence of being dumped after that is or have beta bucks pay her way through life. The demand that all these thirsty guys produce inflates the value of all the goods.
Anyone who doesn't like has two options, don't play the game or outplay the competition.
Well said, and those are all valid points. My anecdotal experience has shown me that in my particular situation that the more that I focused on me and gaining the more attention that I got. I have heard Donovan Sharpe even allude to just focusing on you and those that appreciate it will come around but I do agree that when you get that amount of attention that it sort of causes an imbalance
4 years
Faithinstrangers19:
Chatting to a girl recently who told me how she gets 20+ messages per day from guys despite her not being an attention whore for lack of better terms.
It made me think about just how uneven the gender ratio seems to be here.
It’s massively skewed on dating apps as well but I wonder why this kink appears to be more common among men?
Maybe a bunch of guys here don’t actually have the kink and are just hoping to get lucky in an “easier” domain?
What do you guys think?
I think that more dudes have the kink than we realize but the truth is that they miss some key points. One, they can express this fetish online but not in real life. I have come across so many dudes who don't have the ability to actualize their desires in their lives and that frustration spills over to online. Secondly, most dudes here don't have the interpersonal skills to connect because they have been told that women and men communicate the same so these guys come of too direct too early and that turns the women that are in this life off. Then, most if these dudes live in places where there isn't many fat people. When I started this path, DC was one of the fittest towns in the states but I had wanted to slow things down and move to NC and then too South Carolina and that is when I saw a whole culture that championed women fattening up males they liked. And lastly, there are more males on these types of sites because they use it like a fat persons Tinder and you can have one attractive female and she can get thirty messages out of nowhere. Hell, a close female companion used to have her profile here and she would get twenty plus messages a day from just saying hi in the chatroom. It is just what it is and I have seen how overwhelmed some ladies get because some dudes have not been taught proper social skills....
4 years
CookNFeedin:
I guess I'm the outlier here, since I actually like a thinner face. Something about the contrast of a thin face on a super fat body just works for me.
You are not an outlier; there are plenty of us who like that contrast. Most of the young lovely ladies that I have dated have that exact same contrast and they owned the fact that their obese body and fat body made them unique
4 years
thatlost1:
What sounds like you need to find a partner that embraces your eating habits and someone to cheer you up after the feasts.
HungryAndConfused:
I have a partner who is not into it. It would be for my own pleasure if I were to get fatter.
If they were into it I'd be massive I bet
WideJuan76:
Then you might have to start seeing a future with someone who is into it. That is easier said than done but your frustrations will only get worse.
HungryAndConfused:
I dont know if it's worth ruining my whole life over a fetish that I may get over one day.
CookNFeedin:
Don't think of it as ruining your life. Restructuring it maybe. There are a few things you may sacrifice, but its in pursuit of a dream and fulfillment. To that end, pretty much everyone I've heard from here and other sites has had this fetish intensify as time went on. Its highly unlikely that you'll get over it. Most people that embrace gaining find they enjoy it and their goals become loftier as time goes on or they just enjoy the indulgence so much that they naturally progress. I'm not a gainer, more and admirer/ feeder, but my preferences in the size of women have increased dramatically over the past decade or so.
My sentiments exactly. This gift as I call it effects each of us differently. I have always liked bigger women and my ex introduced me to this life. Over time, she introduced me to what if I started feeding myself like she wanted me to do for her ? So, it germinated from that and grew. This is a part of who some of us are and for some of us it is what we are but where as I work for me so gaining to oblivion can work for me but for others not so much
4 years
For most of us this is the inevitable conclusion and what happens is that eventually eating becomes your only way to get off. Unless you can find a mate to help you out; you will be stuck in a loop of constantly snacking and even super obesity
4 years
Bicepsual:
I didn't allow this fetish to dictate who I married. My wife was very skinny. I told her about being a feeder. She thought the whole thing was creepy and disgusting. She claimed she would NEVER get fat. And I left it at that - she's into things that I'm not.
But she's always been a huge foodie. And nature ran its course and here she is literally doubled her weight. She still can't get into the kink part of it. But that's OK.
I'm a firm believer that putting the bug in her ear about not caring about her weight initiated the self-fulfilling prophecy. And being a good winer and diner introducing someone to the joys of gluttony is not that hard of a thing to do in a loving natural way. Don't have to be all slimy and pushy about it.
This whole statement is spot on. Every female that I dated after I gained hated the fact of fetish and yet they partook of the food and libations and as they saw themselves as fatter they came into it organically.
4 years
WideJuan76:
We all have had those feelings and that is why most of us are fat because we surround ourselves with comfort foods and they release dopamine and serotonin so our brains just go on autopilot and we can't stop ourselves
NYCBlimp:
Good 411 regarding dopamine and serotonin as that does explain a lot along with the emotional connection to food that some experience as well.
Anytime playa, those of us who have waddled into the obese sunken place have to realize that at the core of this; we are addicts. We are addicted to the taste of food, to how the flavor sets off our neuro pathways like a drug and we love that feeling so much that being full is like overdosing but all we get from it is that we grow a fupa and we can't fit through doorways or we grow a gut that slaps our thighs when we try to walk. 🐽🐽🐽🐽🐽
4 years
thatlost1:
What sounds like you need to find a partner that embraces your eating habits and someone to cheer you up after the feasts.
HungryAndConfused:
I have a partner who is not into it. It would be for my own pleasure if I were to get fatter.
If they were into it I'd be massive I bet
WideJuan76:
Then you might have to start seeing a future with someone who is into it. That is easier said than done but your frustrations will only get worse.
HungryAndConfused:
I dont know if it's worth ruining my whole life over a fetish that I may get over one day.
You don't have to ruin your life. You are self conscious about liking fat and that is normal. If you don't want to get too fat then don't; you can always dream about it through visualizations.
4 years
We all have had those feelings and that is why most of us are fat because we surround ourselves with comfort foods and they release dopamine and serotonin so our brains just go on autopilot and we can't stop ourselves
4 years
