5HT1A:
@Munchies thank you for sharing your experiences! I've never been into BDSM so I need to learn how to do it properly, like I know he wants to be tied up, pinched painfully, slapped, but I don't know if he's into degradation or humiliation. I'll ask and make sure one way or the other.
The one thing I do know is that, for tying, you can't just use regular ropes or cuffs, but need to get special ones for the purpose that he could get out of if he wants to... right?
I'm like the "sweet and tender" empath kind of type, so to make him happy I need to learn how to act like the total opposite, lol 😆
I understand. My first feedee got me into BDSM. Didn't vibe with it beforehand.
He was a masochistic sub, and he liked it rough. I was a normie with PTSD. We went slow for my sake so I could discover what I liked, hated, and ambivalent. There were times we had to stop scenes because things got too much for me.
I'm glad he went slow for me. If he hadn't, I'd have sworn off BDSM for all my days. It also helped me to work through some of trauma.
Nothing wrong with doing things out of your comfort zone to please your partner. But don't forget to take care of your needs too.