Munchies:
While all of this information is nice to know, I am not sure where you got this impression from. It only makes sense if you didn't read everything I said. I even explicitly mentioned that many people are happy living a 24/7 type relationship.

What I am talking about is 24/7 sado-masochism. More specifically the domme being hardcore sadistic 24/7 and the masochistic sub (Enas) enjoying that sadism 24/7. After all, this is explicitly what Enas wants.

This, and only this, is not sustainable. Not even in a TPE relationship. Human nature is not meant to be one thing all the time. And it is truly taxing mentally, emotionally, and physically, to live your life in an S&M scene 24/7.

Malvineous:
I did read the whole thread. Personally, I'm not convinced that OP meant what you suggest, since he wasn't clear about that being every aspect of his life, only the sexual dynamic. OP specifically asked how to do this in a safe way as well.

Still, my overall point was that even sadomasochism can be a matter of framing. Perhaps the aftercare is just another sadistic element, since she mixes periods of abuse and gentleness in order to confuse him and make him feel emotionally bonded to her so that it becomes even more difficult for him to break free. People can interpret things in any number of ways, so the only thing that needs to change in order to live out his fantasies within a healthy relationship is his mindset.

Munchies:
Oh, no. Not even a little. That will mess both you and your domme up mentally.

Malvineous:
While I agree with many of the points you made, I have to disagree with the overall message, as it sounds discouraging.

Dasassy420:
The stress of my job causes me to pig out. Is there anyone who pigs out due to work?

MottiF:
It’s happened to me before. I suggest you try to take a vacation of a few days. Stress could cause a lot of bad things to you.

Anon5665:
It seems like feeders always want feedees who are already fat, but I think there are a lot of people who want to take the plunge and become feedees, but are afraid to start without a feeder for encouragement and accountability.

The thought of going from skinny to fat is exciting but scary. All I want is a little hand-holding 😭

Hazelinthesun:
Hey I’m pretty new here and only found the site because I found out my boyfriend likes it and is a “feeder” and secretly fed me in the past. I didn’t know it at the time. I’m exploring the idea of doing small intentful gains for his pleasure but I am worried it could get carried away and that would make me feel uncomfortable.

What are good limits to set and has anyone had a successful submissive healthy relationship and if so how did you manage? Examples wood be helpful.

How do you limit non-consensual feeding? I don’t want surprises in my food again.

How did you measure or know she/he gained weight if the boundaries are set to only have small gains? Is it pointless to start if I don’t want big gains and will he just want more in the end?

Fatboyfeeder:
This is a very slippery slope. He already has fantasized you at 400 lbs. Food is a powerful drug and he knows how to use it.

Maxtogs:
I haven’t seen my parents since my weight gain what should I say/do

LuvsChub04:
ya I swear family can be worse then doctors.. Yet just be you n 'try' not to let there moments get to you.. why I bring a flask when I see my fataphobic mom...

ForeverFFA:
Tingling can also be caused by unhealthy amounts of pressure on the spine or a nerve. Whatever the cause, it sounds like your body is sending warning signs that it needs a break.

BigBallBellyGirl:
I have just in the past week had a bit of a reality check with myself, because I do want to remain mobile. I'm 29 and a working professional, and my partner is moderately physically active. I've been putting on 7 to 10 pounds a week lately, and obviously, that can't go on indefinitely. While I'm 403 now and still hope to get to 450, I'm going to try slowing down to see if that helps with my belly pain, bizarre tingling, and sore belly button. My partner agrees that's probably best. Maybe 2 pounds a week is more sustainable!

Munchies:
It is, but you will probably need to have gaining breaks all together of you want to let your body recover.

I also caution against stopping cold turkey. I'm a feeder that enjoys super intense stuffings, and I've been around the block a bit. If you go cold turkey, you'll struggle a lot. I find transitioning into better eating habits to be more effective. It takes about a month to do, and you'll still gain weight during this time, but you won't have such a hard time dealing with cravings.

Week 1: Eat anything you want, but don't stuff yourself.
Week 2: Eat as much as you want without stuffing yourself, but eat cleaner.
Week 3 - 4: Decrease your portion sizes over time until you have a normal amount of food during meals. Continue to eat clean.

Since you have a supportive partner, involve him in your goals. It's easier to stop/slow down when you aren't going it alone.

MottiF:
That’s seems like very good advice

Munchies:
Tried and true, baby.

BigBallBellyGirl:
I can tell my issue is going to be recognizing that I don't have the be stuffed to the absolute limit to be satisfied. Over the weekend, I had several large "normal" meals... restaurant portions... that most people wouldn't be able to finish. But I felt an intense desire to pack in more food. I think in my head, "satisfied" has started to equate "about to burst and unable to breathe". That said, I've never had a desire to be immobile, and my absolute cap is 500 pounds, so there was always going to be a big transition at some point.

Maxtogs:
I haven’t seen my parents since my weight gain what should I say/do

Munchies:
It's not their business. So unless you haven't been taking care of yourself, they don't really have a leg to stand on if they try to say something.

That said, what sort of people are your parents?

Maxtogs:
Very strict health nuts when I last saw them I was around 160 lean

Maxtogs:
I haven’t seen my parents since my weight gain what should I say/do

RobbyP:
You'd know better than any of us. In my humble experience, a general boost of mental and physical capability for one day is the free meditation called "Isha Kriya", which is about 15 minutes long on youtube channel "Sadhguru". If you're going to do it, take no breaks during and do it until the end. This is deep inner work, and is best done completely if at all. Seriously, no breaks, no ending halfway for any 15 minute practice. That's for one's own wellbeing.

Maxtogs:
I haven’t seen my parents since my weight gain what should I say/do