Enas:
The purpose of the forums is to educate, right? There could be more people seeking to educate, and to do it in an effective way. That will have some result. That's why i wrote this thread in the first place! Regardless, i hope that you'll find what you need, comrade! (:

Munchies:
You are correct that patriarchy isn't the source of all society's ills. However, it's an enormous leap from "Wow, women sure do have a hard time" to "We should abolish the system because it hurts everyone and rebuild it from the ground up."

I don't care if you are into anarchy, but how will that help systematized patriarchy? Because patriarchy has been around far longer than capitalism. Abolishing capitalism would not abolish patriarchy.

As I said before, patriarchy is both an individual and a systemic issue. Tackling one without the other is ineffective.

You are focusing on too much at once, and it's making you directionless. You are also not keeping in mind who your audience is. This is a fetish site. People come here to escape and be horny. While there's always space to discuss treating people as equals, no one wants to discuss politics or economics. Even the numerous posts discussing gender issues will only discuss them in the context of the site and fetish.

So, if you want to have these deep, complex discussions, it would be best to do it on a better platform.

Enas:
I get this! but I'm also saying that in this site there could be a place for people to learn to have, if not empathy, then at least some more basic stuff like respect and patience.
This should be done in a socialist basis, in other words, it's goal must be to be as useful as possible!
I don't think any part of what i just wrote is irrelevant to this site! I
I just wish to see that, because with that other attitude of "everyone is responsible for themselves" we're clearly not making any step at all!

FAMGM:
Social structures foster sexism.

Curiousv:
Lack of social structure fosters warlordism.

Check out any place and time on the planet where a region had no effective government. Would you want to live there?

Humans are flawed. But many humans also try to be good. No matter what kind of social structure you have or don't have, a certain percentage of humans will be assholes. If someone promised you that by breaking society apart and implementing their idea of a new system will bring out perfect utopia where every single human being will cooperate with everyone in everything without any issues, then you've been led on and you might unknowingly be serving an upstart dictatorship which will make things worse, much much worse. Several infamous systems in the past century started this way, which such promises...

Our current society (it seems almost every commenter here is from a country belonging to the "Western civilization" ), despite having some flaws we could work on to make it better, is still the civilization which gives the best quality of life and the most personal freedom to common people, across the entire human history, and it has been built up gradually over many many centuries. Anyone who denies that, denies basic reality, and shows an utter lack of knowledge about history.

If you want to completely demolish it and build something completely new out of the ashes, chances are the result will be much worse than what we have now.

FAMGM:
Social structures foster sexism.

Munchies:
Honestly, I think we should let OP speak for herself. She can say what her own desires are. We shouldn't put our own views onto her - weight loss or weight gain.

If she responds to this thread, that's fine. We shouldn't push her in one direction or another. That's for her to decide. If she doesn't reply to this thread, that's also fine. It's not our business unless she makes it our business.

Angy523:
Thank you, Munchies!
I actually do not want to gain weight, just how I said before. But I think any ex athlete can confirm that weight gain is a frequent problem, specially for the ones who did sports based on weight classes. That being said, in the past I was close to some eating disorders. So I guess all this things add up to my bf's habits of eating which influenced me lately.

Anyway, I lost already 1kg and I hope I will keep going

Jackoh1:
my girlfriend just said she would be happy to gain weight after i talked to her about it and is 1kg a week good is it bad i have no idea first time doing such a thing

Enas:
The purpose of the forums is to educate, right? There could be more people seeking to educate, and to do it in an effective way. That will have some result. That's why i wrote this thread in the first place! Regardless, i hope that you'll find what you need, comrade! (:

AaronM:
Okay, I got it! I need to add text in the about me part.

I knew it would be embarrassingly obvious!

Still curious why you don't see the dating bit. Do I need to the unlock social side of things, I wonder?

AaronM:
So I'm trying to get verified as well, but I can only seem to get my profile 97% complete.

Can someone please have a look at my profile and see if I'm missing anything?

Maybe the last 3% is just getting verified? If so I already sent a verification photo and I wait a bit.

Thanks in advance!

Munchies:
Looking at your profile, I think I see the problem. You didn't fill out the dating section. It's possible to have your profile 100% complete and not be verified. I know this because I'm not verified and my profile is at 100%.

AaronM:
Is there anything in particular that you can see? I put in zero kids, but it doesn't actually show up if you do that, so that part looks unfilled out. I tried putting in an actual number and saved it, but that didn't help either...

AaronM:
So I'm trying to get verified as well, but I can only seem to get my profile 97% complete.

Can someone please have a look at my profile and see if I'm missing anything?

Maybe the last 3% is just getting verified? If so I already sent a verification photo and I wait a bit.

Thanks in advance!

AaronM:
Well, as you said: the guys are the perpetrators and the patriarchy is the system that allows it happen for the most part. Perhaps you should address them instead of the ladies?

Not sure what women can do about it other than learn a very high level of Kung fu...