Fantasy Feeder

Being a feeder

ChunkyPeanutButter:
It’s roughy being a feeder.

You put that tag in any profile and get asked to send money…

“You can’t be a feeder cause you won’t feed me”

I fecking hate that. Like, I can’t identify as a feeder because I won’t feed indiscriminately?

Imagine being told this by a trans person. Imagine if I told them they can’t identify as a woman because they don’t play with Barbie…. Why is it okay to tell me I don’t identify as a feeder because i want to get to know someone before I feed them…

Little bit of an apples and oranges situation. Transphobia is a big deal - lots of life ruining or life ending situations they gotta deal with. What you are going through is an inconvenience.

Being a male feeder on FF comes with its own struggles. You will get a lot of messages from women and people pretending to be women trying to take advantage of you.

You will need to be careful because the bulk of these people are scammers. They are looking for a gullible mark. It's best not to engage or take anything to heart. If you do fall for a scam, please let the site admin know. They take this stuff very seriously.

I also want you to understand that your experiences as a male feeder are going to be very, very different than a female or trans (FF only has a catchall transgender or no gender category) feeder. The most you'll typically deal with is scammers, entitled people, and the occasional horny guy who refuses to read. The other groups will be treated based on their gender first and their fetish second. And that's assuming the other person will even consider them as a feeder.

I will say that if you want a more peaceful experience, switch your designation from feeder to fat admirer. Fewer people will message you.

You may ask "Why is it that I have to deal with this at all?" Simply put, patriarchy. Men are expected to provide and take care of women. So, it makes you prime targets for scammers and entitled people. It's not fair, but that's simply how society is.

And it works. I've heard tales of many desperate, lonely men who throw will eagerly pay money to anyone who asks to be fed. They are insecure in their masculinity. As such, they will do anything that makes them feel like a man - even if it hurts them.

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Gaining as a feeder

Honestly, I think we should let OP speak for herself. She can say what her own desires are. We shouldn't put our own views onto her - weight loss or weight gain.

If she responds to this thread, that's fine. We shouldn't push her in one direction or another. That's for her to decide. If she doesn't reply to this thread, that's also fine. It's not our business unless she makes it our business.

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Dressing fat

Specksaver:
I bought a white t-shirt in xxl. It is getting rather snug, but in the souvenirshop in Amsterdam where I bought it, they didn’t have a larger one. On the front of the T-shirt there is a text: Don’t feed me ( I am on a diet). Almost everyday people reacts for that tekst on the shirt and give me sweat threads on the street. Yesterday a woman on street forced me to eat a whole role of cookies at once. Nice experience. Think I must wear this shirt more when I am in public places.

Lol, nice

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Unexpected everyday issues when getting fatter

Morbidly A Beast:
I just don’t wear mine I had the sensor removed in my truck, If I did wear it pretty sure it would dig into my ass all the time

Don't wear what? Your seat belt? Pretty sure that's a crime. Also super dangerous. I've lost loved ones that way.

Is the issue it doesn't go far enough around you? Or is the seat itself too tight to comfortably buckle?

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Unexpected everyday issues when getting fatter

FAMGM:
I was fully prepared for the fact that I’d become unfit, struggle to run or walk far, fit in chairs with arms, etc.

What I did not expect was how difficult it is to reach across my own body! I have to put my seat belt on by picking it up with the nearer hand, pulling it towards my middle, and passing it to the other hand, which buckles it.

Matthew Olney:
Huh, that's interesting I don't have that problem

All bodies are different. While you and FAMGM are about the same size, you have different shapes. Also your body composition can be different. So while you two appear to be about the same size, you can have wildly different limitations.

1 year

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Gaining as a feeder

Canderson206:
I don't get this thread.

I've dated, fed, and fattened multiple women -- one to quite a large size, and one who thought of herself as a feeder but ended up with me turning those desires around on her (which was very satisfying). It's never been an issue for me to have my own separate diet and remain fit and active. You just have to be your own person and have your partner understand that.

In your case, OP, it sounds like you genuinely enjoy gaining with your boyfriend. And he sounds like quite a feeder himself.

It also sounds to me like neither you nor your boyfriend have ever actually been honest with each other about your specific desires, and to what extent you want to take those desires. It's a boundaries issue.

You can't "hope" that things work out the way you want them to in relationships, particularly not when feedism and weight gain are involved. You need to be specific and honest.

If you really hated gaining, you probably wouldn't have done it so much thus far. But you also shouldn't do it just because you think it will help him gain. I'd argue that's manipulative and will result in both of you being unhappy.

The responses in this thread make a little more sense when read in conjunction with this thread:

fantasyfeeder.com/forum/posts

That said, I agree with all of your points.

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Approach

Luigi002:
advice on how to approach a Feedee/feeder girl for the first time

Super easy. Don't be creepy, gross, or fake. Match her pace. Most women want to get to know you a little bit just to make sure you're safe and won't waste their time. Don't try to speed run things.

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Fattening my girlfriend

ChunkyPeanutButter:
11 days ago she says, “I need to f**king diet” of course I told her I’d support her. I said I would stop asking for feeding sessions, stop buying her snacks and treats, and try to say no when she asks for food sometimes. She says, “but I like you doing those, nooooo”

I told her then, I’ll do whatever she wants for her to feel good, then said I needed to make at least one plea for her to not diet. Her main issue wasn’t getting bigger, but that she was binging on anything and everything. I said maybe this is just who she truly is and instead of being mad, embrace it. I told her how I see how happy food makes her, and she lights up when I buy her extra snacks.

The next day she buys ice cream, sends me a pic of her eating it. Wednesday she asks for McDonald’s breakfast.

Payday was Thursday, I sent her $50 to fill her gas tank and then food with what’s left, I found out later she put barely any in her tank and bought a lot of food. That night she asked for money for snacks and cigarettes. She mentioned needing to replace a box of cereal so I gave her 40. She forgot cigarettes and spent the rest on snacks..

Which clearly didn’t last long cause Friday night she goes “oink! Snacky snacks?” Which is how she asks for food, she likes it o oink for me.

Saturday she asks me to feed her pizza and breadsticks. Sunday unfortunately she dropped her phone. I sent her McDonald’s money but she never saw it and was sad. I didn’t hear from her till late.

Monday is when I found out she spent her gas money on food, because she asked me for some gas money. I then sent her $60 for food, gas, and cigarettes and she immediately ran out and spent half of it on snacks.

Tuesday she again asks for more snack money (apparently spent the rest of the 60 and ate it all already)

Today asked for breakfast and snack money, bought cigarettes and didn’t have enough for snacks after breakfast and sent me 🥹 so I sent her more for snacks, she loved it.

Unfortunately her ex husband shit her phone service off and I guess internet too so we are out of communication. She’s supposed to come over tomorrow but I won’t know till she gets here.

(She loves an hour away at her parents, she just left hubby last spring and is still on his phone plan, she sent him money but he still let it turn off and won’t turn it back in till Friday, he’s a huge asshat)

So this was how her almost last two weeks have gone since saying she’s going on a diet.

Interesting. Are you two into findom?

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In the hands of an evil feeder 😈

Miachu:
sounds hot lol

Munchies:
Oh it is. He's such a masochist that sometimes he'll rile me up just to put him through his paces.

Funneladdict:
who can resist toa female feeder? They're such treasures

Munchies:
Personally, I see myself as a feeder who happens to be a woman. And while I am a treasure, that's due to my personality.

Funneladdict:
I would love be the fattened piggy, in some feeder hands like yours. In total lost of control, only feed and stuffed till... what you decide

Munchies:
You're making this weird, man. All I wanted to do was gush about my partner.

Funneladdict:
haha. Feeding and stuffing are weird? so ok

Don't play dumb. When a person is very clearly taken, that's not a sign to starting being forward. Please stop.

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In the hands of an evil feeder 😈

Miachu:
sounds hot lol

Munchies:
Oh it is. He's such a masochist that sometimes he'll rile me up just to put him through his paces.

Funneladdict:
who can resist toa female feeder? They're such treasures

Munchies:
Personally, I see myself as a feeder who happens to be a woman. And while I am a treasure, that's due to my personality.

Funneladdict:
I would love be the fattened piggy, in some feeder hands like yours. In total lost of control, only feed and stuffed till... what you decide

You're making this weird, man. All I wanted to do was gush about my partner.

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