Fantasy Feeder

What do you collect?

Angelette:
I used to collect anime figures. Ranging from scales to Nendoroids. But these days I'm slowing down due to lack of space and also they do cost a lot of money. Aside from that I do have a small plush collection.

My new spark-of-joy are Littlest Pet Shops. Which I used to have a large collection throughout childhood. Unfortunately, I was irresponsible and lost majority of my pets. I want to say I had about 130 in total. I even had some rare ones along with that very sought-after Savannah Reed dachshund! Ugh sometimes I wish that Mean Girls LPS show (LPS Popular) doesn't exist!

2 Years ago I did buy some lots here and there and I now have almost 100. Sadly some molds are sought after and scalpers do ruin the hobby. But I am not giving up finding good deals and I will have to accept being a late bloomer.

Here is an old photo of one of my lots.

I have a foreign currency collection. Started when my bio-dad brought me a Deutschmark home after being stationed in Germany for a time. Since then, I've collected money from several different countries on 6 continents.

1 year

Munchies

Feeder wife or else??

Swiss Gainer:
What will be the worse case scenario?

I'm asking you.

You, a non-kinkster, joined a fetish site out of fear that your wife may have that kink.

Clearly, there is something you are dreading. So, I am asking you what is your worst-case scenario. What are you dreading more than anything else?

1 year

Munchies

Feeder wife or else??

Swiss Gainer:
How I can predict any possible worse scenario including if she is a feeder if I don't know what is about to be with one? Predictions are based on information…

Yeah, but it very clearly is scaring you. So you must have a worst-case scenario in mind.

1 year

Munchies

Feeder wife or else??

Swiss Gainer:
You are blunt and polite and I appreciate this..
And yes, probably as a work as habits I want to be as much informed as I can before to face any topic.. Especially with involved people I love.

So yes You got it right, if she is a feeder I want and I suppose I have the right to understand everything even before asking or opening this topic with her.

I'm not afraid that my weight get out of hand, I can anytime back to the gym and work out, (activities that unfortunately I stopped), And probability yes, I'm more afraid that end up as a feeder, but simply because I don't know and I'm not familiar with the concept, and what you don't know make you afraid..i suppose…

Okay. What's the worst case scenario?

1 year

Munchies

Feeder wife or else??

Swiss Gainer:
Why does anyone give statements on a single quote..and have to be so rude .. at least read all the history …
no one knows her better than me … and no one loves her more than me .. and the opposite… again I'm not looking for couple therapy.. just to understand the tools to use to face a very peculiar topic that put me in a stall.

No one is being rude. We are being blunt.

We can pontificate until the cows come home. But everything we say is a stab in the dark based on whatever information you give us.

Literally the only way to know for certain is to ask.

If you want advice on how to go about doing this or understanding how feedism works, that's perfectly fine. But no one in the entire universe can tell you if your wife is a feeder or not except for your wife.

Talk to her. You are working yourself up over something you don't need to work yourself up about. Maybe she's a feeder. Maybe she isn't. You'll never know until you ask.

What are you afraid of? That she'll end up being a feeder and ask you to get fatter? Or are you afraid that she isn't and you've let your weight get out of hand? Or is it a secret third thing?

1 year

Munchies

Feeder wife or else??

Swiss Gainer:
I know that you all expect that I want to hear as an answer that she is a feeder.

but honestly “nop” my hope was for a love language of food or over-caring … now I m not worried but…

No, I want you to have a conversation with you wife about your concerns. I do not care one way or another if she's a feeder or not. I'm not the one married to her.

1 year

Munchies

Feeder wife or else??

Swiss Gainer:
To foreverFFA and Munchies
Yes, I am worried to ask ..

about 50 extra kgs in 2 years and about what you two just said, now I’m a bit worried .. I thought that was quite natural for a couple gain weight when are settled together even if I was conscious that 25 per year was just quite over the normal fluctuations..

To munchies
Why you say “I can see why you think she's a feeder”

As a female feeder myself, I've seen other feeders do these things. However, as someone from a culture where food is a valid love language, I cannot say for certain that this is what is it. You yourself mentioned that there may be a non-fetish reason for her acting like this.

You put on 50 kg in a few years. That can't be all her doing. I put about 50 kg on my partner, but he was a willing and active participant in all of this. He kept himself stuffed pretty much all day and I had to force him to eat healthier and exercise.

So it's entirely possible that she feeds you because she knows you like it but doesn't want you to feel bad about it.

That said, what are you worried about?

That said,

1 year

Munchies

Feeder wife or else??

Swiss Gainer:
I have no conclusions so far, and for that, I'm here.

considering that I have spent every day of the last 3 years, happily and deeply in love with her, I don't need to be “ Mr Gibson of criminal mind profiling”, I think I'm able to detect any slowly and slight behavioural changes in her, the same changes which made me suppose that she might have some kind of feeling towards my gain.

what is about this change and what forms, Well, I Still, don't know..

I don't like “the list” because you can't paint everyone with the same brush on the ground of the list or define someone.

However, if a list is required, I can summarize a few of those that caught my attention like exceedingly denying the evidence of my weight gain, increasingly ordering for me more and more food when I'm at work by delivery, even when I ask for for a smaller order; ordering food that she doesn't like and then offering me the food in question that supposedly she dislikes; a sort of hidden disappointment when I don't eat (nothing evident only slightly perceivable since I well know her), and kind of new recent things that she does in our intimacy all that associated with her slightly recent weight loss.

I can see why you think she's a feeder. However, if you want to confirm it, it's best to ask her.

1 year

Munchies

Feeder wife or else??

ForeverFFA:
If she has openly said that she loves your size (which is different than loving you at your size), then she has already basically admitted to being an fa.

Can I ask why you are worried it would offend her to gently ask her if she thinks she might be a feeder?

I see why you might think that and disagree with Munchies (slightly) just because most wives don't manage to put 50 extra kilos on their husbands within a few short years of marriage.

You're right. The average person won't gain 50 kilos (110 lbs) within a few years of marriage. But to gain 50 kilos in a few years requires a whole lot more that being regularly overfed. And since he didn't give his full life story, I can't say how much of his gain she's contributed to.

1 year

Munchies