Feedism in movies
BigBellyBurgerBoy1:
Okay everyone, let's chat, shall we?
If there's going to be a movie where the main character gets fat (either by accident, or on purpose), what is it we're looking for?
Do we want a movie ABOUT feederism, where the characters have the fetish in question, and the plot ensues from there, or do we just want a movie with weight gain IN it, with no acknowledgement of the fetish whatsoever (save for, perhaps, behind the camera, with the director, writers, maybe even the actors)?
Personally I could go either way, beggers can't be choosers, after all. But what do you think?
Enas:
Weeeellll...
There is porn! If it was to be a feederism movie it whould basically be porn. Plus a few extras.
If you want to make an actual movie revolved around feederism ,then you trully need to look around you and see how people are suffering. Because if you trully want to make an actual movie, you should also make one of its goals, the betterment of society. Because it takes human effort and it's for other people to see.
If you want to make people dumber (in the sense that they can't think on an intellectual level) then present them with loud, empty media! And making a feederism movie whould be kinda like this! (just like the FEED - 2005 was a terrible movie!)
So yeah! Bad idea to make a movie revolved around feederism, there is little point to have it even on some corner of the film, let's say. It might be useful, but.. Who knows!
Just do a porn movie xD
Munchies:
A creative you are not.
Good media does not have to have to better society or preach a message to be good. There are plenty of examples of media that try to do that and suck. You also do not need to make porn to make a feedist story. That's a very narrow way to explore sexuality.
For example, you can make a story about a long-term feedist couple and their love story.
The two meet in early adulthood. The one is a business school graduate working as a server in a restaurant. The other is a line cook who wants to be a famous chef with a line of cookbooks. The two get together and try to make the line cook's dream a reality. The business graduate is the manager and taste tester, while the line cook crafts the recipes and makes the dishes.
They fall into a feedist relationship over time. The chef cooks and the manager eats. Food and a metaphor for love would work well here. Bonus points if the manager gets fatter the more successful the chef gets.
Bobaberry:
Honestly, I'd love a film in which the feedist aspect was more metaphorical or a subplot. Makes it easer to place it in other genres; the metaphorical route also makes it, for a lack of a better term, easier for an audience outside of the kink to digest (no pun intended).
Okay everyone, let's chat, shall we?
If there's going to be a movie where the main character gets fat (either by accident, or on purpose), what is it we're looking for?
Do we want a movie ABOUT feederism, where the characters have the fetish in question, and the plot ensues from there, or do we just want a movie with weight gain IN it, with no acknowledgement of the fetish whatsoever (save for, perhaps, behind the camera, with the director, writers, maybe even the actors)?
Personally I could go either way, beggers can't be choosers, after all. But what do you think?
Enas:
Weeeellll...
There is porn! If it was to be a feederism movie it whould basically be porn. Plus a few extras.
If you want to make an actual movie revolved around feederism ,then you trully need to look around you and see how people are suffering. Because if you trully want to make an actual movie, you should also make one of its goals, the betterment of society. Because it takes human effort and it's for other people to see.
If you want to make people dumber (in the sense that they can't think on an intellectual level) then present them with loud, empty media! And making a feederism movie whould be kinda like this! (just like the FEED - 2005 was a terrible movie!)
So yeah! Bad idea to make a movie revolved around feederism, there is little point to have it even on some corner of the film, let's say. It might be useful, but.. Who knows!
Just do a porn movie xD
Munchies:
A creative you are not.
Good media does not have to have to better society or preach a message to be good. There are plenty of examples of media that try to do that and suck. You also do not need to make porn to make a feedist story. That's a very narrow way to explore sexuality.
For example, you can make a story about a long-term feedist couple and their love story.
The two meet in early adulthood. The one is a business school graduate working as a server in a restaurant. The other is a line cook who wants to be a famous chef with a line of cookbooks. The two get together and try to make the line cook's dream a reality. The business graduate is the manager and taste tester, while the line cook crafts the recipes and makes the dishes.
They fall into a feedist relationship over time. The chef cooks and the manager eats. Food and a metaphor for love would work well here. Bonus points if the manager gets fatter the more successful the chef gets.
Bobaberry:
Honestly, I'd love a film in which the feedist aspect was more metaphorical or a subplot. Makes it easer to place it in other genres; the metaphorical route also makes it, for a lack of a better term, easier for an audience outside of the kink to digest (no pun intended).
You are 100%. Food as a metaphor for love is my go-to for feedist stuff, but other things can work too. Rejecting society to embrace your true self, exploring the subjectivity of beauty, and reclaiming power and control over your life are also good options.
1 year
Being a better ally to fat(ter) people
ForeverFFA:
Hey everyone,
I just wanted to create a thread where people can discuss experiences of being confronted for having, or preferring to have, fat(ter) partners. How did you handle these remarks, and how do you think responses could be even more constructive and kind?
I want this thread to be a respectful and judgement free zone for people to learn from their mistakes. My hope is also that anyone who is denying their preferences will come to realize that it shouldn't matter what anyone else thinks of them for it.
I've been pretty fortunate in my life to be surrounded by people who are open-minded and nonchalant about who I like and choose to date. However, I still had one family member who wouldn't stop making fat jokes about some of the guys I liked. I also had an uncomfortable experience where this same person thought it would be funny to call out my preferences to the rest of my family in the middle of a movie by saying they bet I liked one of the characters because he was chubby. Everyone else laughed and looked uncomfortable, and I was so mortified at the time that I didn't say anything. Now I know better that this person was just embarrassing themselves by being rude and invasive, and I wish I had a better comeback.
Munchies:
Except for my first and third boyfriends, I've always gone for bigger guys. No one cared, for the most part - except for my mother.
My mother is fatphobic. She called me fat when I went from 115 lbs (underweight for my height of 5'7"
to 120 (the low end of a normal weight). So she always had something to say about the actually fat people I dated.
Her one saving grace is that she never did it to their face. Instead, she'd come to me and make "jokes" or comments about their size.
I didn't really know what to do. I knew what she was doing was wrong, but I was too afraid to confront her. Plus, she was abusive to me, and I was afraid of the backlash.
For a while, I'd say, "He's sensitive about that," and left. But she'd always say something later. Then, one day, I got so fed up that I said, "Gossip is a sin."
My mom is super religious, so that startled her. But it did get an apology out of her.
Eventually, once I could stand up for myself, it was easier to stand up for my partners and love interests. Now, all I have to do is glare at her and say, "Mother."
ForeverFFA:
I'm really sorry you had that from your own mother. My parents were fatphobic in their own right but never wanted me to be unhealthily thin. They also never really concerned themselves much with who I dated, so I was off the hook in that department.
For me it was a much older sibling who was insecure and discovered early on that it was "cool" to make jokes at others' expenses. It had nothing to do with my romantic interests' weight at all and everything to do with looking for cheap laughs. That's usually what it's about imo.
Anyway, I'm glad you found the strength to stand up for yourself in the end.
Hey everyone,
I just wanted to create a thread where people can discuss experiences of being confronted for having, or preferring to have, fat(ter) partners. How did you handle these remarks, and how do you think responses could be even more constructive and kind?
I want this thread to be a respectful and judgement free zone for people to learn from their mistakes. My hope is also that anyone who is denying their preferences will come to realize that it shouldn't matter what anyone else thinks of them for it.
I've been pretty fortunate in my life to be surrounded by people who are open-minded and nonchalant about who I like and choose to date. However, I still had one family member who wouldn't stop making fat jokes about some of the guys I liked. I also had an uncomfortable experience where this same person thought it would be funny to call out my preferences to the rest of my family in the middle of a movie by saying they bet I liked one of the characters because he was chubby. Everyone else laughed and looked uncomfortable, and I was so mortified at the time that I didn't say anything. Now I know better that this person was just embarrassing themselves by being rude and invasive, and I wish I had a better comeback.
Munchies:
Except for my first and third boyfriends, I've always gone for bigger guys. No one cared, for the most part - except for my mother.
My mother is fatphobic. She called me fat when I went from 115 lbs (underweight for my height of 5'7"
to 120 (the low end of a normal weight). So she always had something to say about the actually fat people I dated.Her one saving grace is that she never did it to their face. Instead, she'd come to me and make "jokes" or comments about their size.
I didn't really know what to do. I knew what she was doing was wrong, but I was too afraid to confront her. Plus, she was abusive to me, and I was afraid of the backlash.
For a while, I'd say, "He's sensitive about that," and left. But she'd always say something later. Then, one day, I got so fed up that I said, "Gossip is a sin."
My mom is super religious, so that startled her. But it did get an apology out of her.
Eventually, once I could stand up for myself, it was easier to stand up for my partners and love interests. Now, all I have to do is glare at her and say, "Mother."
ForeverFFA:
I'm really sorry you had that from your own mother. My parents were fatphobic in their own right but never wanted me to be unhealthily thin. They also never really concerned themselves much with who I dated, so I was off the hook in that department.
For me it was a much older sibling who was insecure and discovered early on that it was "cool" to make jokes at others' expenses. It had nothing to do with my romantic interests' weight at all and everything to do with looking for cheap laughs. That's usually what it's about imo.
Anyway, I'm glad you found the strength to stand up for yourself in the end.
Thanks, love.
It was a doozy. Thankfully, that's in the past now. My mother was abusive out of a skewed view of love. So when she finally realized that she would lose me forever, she started to atone for everything she did. She's still got a ways to go, but she's a lot better than she used to be. Even gave me an apology.
1 year
Feedism in movies
BigBellyBurgerBoy1:
Okay everyone, let's chat, shall we?
If there's going to be a movie where the main character gets fat (either by accident, or on purpose), what is it we're looking for?
Do we want a movie ABOUT feederism, where the characters have the fetish in question, and the plot ensues from there, or do we just want a movie with weight gain IN it, with no acknowledgement of the fetish whatsoever (save for, perhaps, behind the camera, with the director, writers, maybe even the actors)?
Personally I could go either way, beggers can't be choosers, after all. But what do you think?
Enas:
Weeeellll...
There is porn! If it was to be a feederism movie it whould basically be porn. Plus a few extras.
If you want to make an actual movie revolved around feederism ,then you trully need to look around you and see how people are suffering. Because if you trully want to make an actual movie, you should also make one of its goals, the betterment of society. Because it takes human effort and it's for other people to see.
If you want to make people dumber (in the sense that they can't think on an intellectual level) then present them with loud, empty media! And making a feederism movie whould be kinda like this! (just like the FEED - 2005 was a terrible movie!)
So yeah! Bad idea to make a movie revolved around feederism, there is little point to have it even on some corner of the film, let's say. It might be useful, but.. Who knows!
Just do a porn movie xD
Okay everyone, let's chat, shall we?
If there's going to be a movie where the main character gets fat (either by accident, or on purpose), what is it we're looking for?
Do we want a movie ABOUT feederism, where the characters have the fetish in question, and the plot ensues from there, or do we just want a movie with weight gain IN it, with no acknowledgement of the fetish whatsoever (save for, perhaps, behind the camera, with the director, writers, maybe even the actors)?
Personally I could go either way, beggers can't be choosers, after all. But what do you think?
Enas:
Weeeellll...
There is porn! If it was to be a feederism movie it whould basically be porn. Plus a few extras.
If you want to make an actual movie revolved around feederism ,then you trully need to look around you and see how people are suffering. Because if you trully want to make an actual movie, you should also make one of its goals, the betterment of society. Because it takes human effort and it's for other people to see.
If you want to make people dumber (in the sense that they can't think on an intellectual level) then present them with loud, empty media! And making a feederism movie whould be kinda like this! (just like the FEED - 2005 was a terrible movie!)
So yeah! Bad idea to make a movie revolved around feederism, there is little point to have it even on some corner of the film, let's say. It might be useful, but.. Who knows!
Just do a porn movie xD
A creative you are not.
Good media does not have to have to better society or preach a message to be good. There are plenty of examples of media that try to do that and suck. You also do not need to make porn to make a feedist story. That's a very narrow way to explore sexuality.
For example, you can make a story about a long-term feedist couple and their love story.
The two meet in early adulthood. The one is a business school graduate working as a server in a restaurant. The other is a line cook who wants to be a famous chef with a line of cookbooks. The two get together and try to make the line cook's dream a reality. The business graduate is the manager and taste tester, while the line cook crafts the recipes and makes the dishes.
They fall into a feedist relationship over time. The chef cooks and the manager eats. Food and a metaphor for love would work well here. Bonus points if the manager gets fatter the more successful the chef gets.
1 year
Being a better ally to fat(ter) people
ForeverFFA:
Hey everyone,
I just wanted to create a thread where people can discuss experiences of being confronted for having, or preferring to have, fat(ter) partners. How did you handle these remarks, and how do you think responses could be even more constructive and kind?
I want this thread to be a respectful and judgement free zone for people to learn from their mistakes. My hope is also that anyone who is denying their preferences will come to realize that it shouldn't matter what anyone else thinks of them for it.
I've been pretty fortunate in my life to be surrounded by people who are open-minded and nonchalant about who I like and choose to date. However, I still had one family member who wouldn't stop making fat jokes about some of the guys I liked. I also had an uncomfortable experience where this same person thought it would be funny to call out my preferences to the rest of my family in the middle of a movie by saying they bet I liked one of the characters because he was chubby. Everyone else laughed and looked uncomfortable, and I was so mortified at the time that I didn't say anything. Now I know better that this person was just embarrassing themselves by being rude and invasive, and I wish I had a better comeback.
Hey everyone,
I just wanted to create a thread where people can discuss experiences of being confronted for having, or preferring to have, fat(ter) partners. How did you handle these remarks, and how do you think responses could be even more constructive and kind?
I want this thread to be a respectful and judgement free zone for people to learn from their mistakes. My hope is also that anyone who is denying their preferences will come to realize that it shouldn't matter what anyone else thinks of them for it.
I've been pretty fortunate in my life to be surrounded by people who are open-minded and nonchalant about who I like and choose to date. However, I still had one family member who wouldn't stop making fat jokes about some of the guys I liked. I also had an uncomfortable experience where this same person thought it would be funny to call out my preferences to the rest of my family in the middle of a movie by saying they bet I liked one of the characters because he was chubby. Everyone else laughed and looked uncomfortable, and I was so mortified at the time that I didn't say anything. Now I know better that this person was just embarrassing themselves by being rude and invasive, and I wish I had a better comeback.
Except for my first and third boyfriends, I've always gone for bigger guys. No one cared, for the most part - except for my mother.
My mother is fatphobic. She called me fat when I went from 115 lbs (underweight for my height of 5'7"
to 120 (the low end of a normal weight). So she always had something to say about the actually fat people I dated.Her one saving grace is that she never did it to their face. Instead, she'd come to me and make "jokes" or comments about their size.
I didn't really know what to do. I knew what she was doing was wrong, but I was too afraid to confront her. Plus, she was abusive to me, and I was afraid of the backlash.
For a while, I'd say, "He's sensitive about that," and left. But she'd always say something later. Then, one day, I got so fed up that I said, "Gossip is a sin."
My mom is super religious, so that startled her. But it did get an apology out of her.
Eventually, once I could stand up for myself, it was easier to stand up for my partners and love interests. Now, all I have to do is glare at her and say, "Mother."
1 year
