Leptine:
My weight isn't even if half yours. But in my country (family etc.) I heard comment about my weight: most of about health and fit.

I have in my family cousine who's now about 450 lbs (most of life +/- 170) and rest of family called him black sheep.

Now I'm closing 200 and trying to resist new comments. But I'm ONLY 198 😣

BigBallBellyGirl:
For some people, comments are a turn-on, but everyone is different. If anyone, family included, makes comments that make you feel uncomfortable or disrespected, you always have the right to set your boundaries.

"I know you care about my health, but I'm not comfortable with comments about my body."

"I'm going to ask you to please refrain from commenting about my weight. Thanks in advance for understanding."

"I truly am thankful for your concern, but it hurts my feelings when you criticize my weight."

"I'm happy with myself as I am."

Your weight DOES NOT make you a "black sheep", and it never will, regardless of whether you decide to gain or lose. Ignore the critics and enjoy your journey!

FatAdmirerHeHeHeHa:
I, 20M (currently 275 pounds), have been into gaining, stuffing, and fat for a long time. I did stop intentionally gaining a while ago and even started weight lifting and eating a little less. However, every day my brain instantly goes back to wanting to gain and rapidly gain.

I sometimes wonder if there is stuff I could try doing to satiate or repress these thoughts. Like doing the biggest stuffing I’ve ever done or do on and off periods of gaining. However, I am currently 275 pounds and it’s not like I’m skinny looking to try gaining, I’ve been fat and even fatter with my max being 292.

I know repression is bad, and I really really do want to go all in, but I don’t know if I just need motivation, should wait until I’m more stable in life, or try a stuffing to end all stuffings and just try to move on saying I tried.

I just feel like it’s inevitable I’ll break and gain, so I’m not sure if continuing repressing or just letting it happen is better. I mean I used to be 292 then lost to 240 in a few months than shot straight back up to 275 after a couple months.

I’m still planning on working out to keep my muscles up but I am not sure if I should just give in to fat gain. I do love it and want to try rapid gaining since I couldn’t before when I did intentionally gain.

I know a lot of us are biased, but what do you all think, and if you have any encouraging words because you think gaining is what I should go with feel free to say.

MrOverstuffed:
I don’t at all want to jeopardize my health for gaining weight in an unhealthy way. I don’t have tons of money to spend so usually I eat whatever pizza is at my workplace (it’s free) and I was considering trying to do big stuffings with McDonald’s deals, but then I got on here and saw some people talking about gaining weight healthily. Do I just find healthy foods and eat as much of them as I can? Is it ultimately the amount of calories thats important that I should eat? I’m still new to being a feedee, so literally any help I can get to ensure I have a good, fun, fast weight gain would be much appreciated

MrOverstuffed:
I kinda eat whatever I can. Reliably I have cereal every morning, and as much pizza as I can get in me every couple nights (5-6 slices). I do love to have burgers occasionally, maybe sometimes breakfast tacos. In terms of gaining weight, I love drinking gainer shakes with Serious Mass, heavy cream, peanut butter, milk and ice cream. I drink those every now and then.
If there’s something you think I should be aiming to eat more of, I’d love to know. I kinda eat just whatever I feel like having.
Sorry if that doesn’t answer your question

BigBallBellyGirl:
Much appreciated!! That second day of stuffing would not have been possible without my partner, because I wouldn't have had the physical ability to serve myself, heat things, etc. If I had to pick one word to describe how it felt, it would probably be "extreme". There was a point at about 4pm, after eating since 9:00 a.m., that I felt nauseated and needed a two and a half hour break. I actually believed I was probably done for the day, but I surprised myself by picking back up again with gusto. The nausea didn't return, but I did start to sweat profusely that night, and that's when we stopped. Would I do it again? ABSOLUTELY. Would I do 2 days in a row? Probably not. We originally we're going to go for a third day today, but that doesn't feel like a good idea or honestly, even physically possible, so I'm going to respect my body's signals and take it easy. I'm very, very bloated, and my body feels significantly heavier (because it is, by 29 pounds, from food and water weight). My balance is a bit off, but I've been trying to get some movement in this morning. I'm also not quite able to sit up properly and have to recline a bit so I can breathe. Would I recommend it to someone else into extreme stuffings? YES, but only someone with a lot of experience and a partner who respects their boundaries.

Letters And Numbers:
My guess would be that trying to learn how to communicate one-on-one with people on a fetish website is doing it on hard mode. Just get used to the idea that people get cold feet and disappear off this site, or will think you’re into weird sex shit in a different way than they’re into weird sex shit and get spooked. Or that fundamentally there are people on here because they can’t have this fetish be a part of their real life and don’t want to blur those lines. The word fantasy is right in the title.

I guess my one other tip would be that you’ve made your grief (which I’m very sorry for, I can’t even imagine) the main character across half a dozen threads this morning. That’s heavy stuff, man. Posting in the forum is fun, post more often about stuff that isn’t always so heavy. You don’t need to hide your loss but it doesn’t have to be so up front. I know it’s harder around the holidays. (You can post in the Story of the Month threads whenever you like! They’re nice!)

Estil17:
That's another thing; when people assume I'm into sexual kinds of things when I don't even care for sex at all.

Letters And Numbers:
Not trying to be rude or dismissive, but maybe a fetish website is not the right place to learn how to express yourself online. Why not start with a space that’s about hobbies or something less heavy?

Estil17:
Because I do feel passionately about my eh, special interests in my profile (I don't know if "fetish" is exactly right). I already have a couple of forums I frequent for my "normal" hobbies.

Letters And Numbers:
My guess would be that trying to learn how to communicate one-on-one with people on a fetish website is doing it on hard mode. Just get used to the idea that people get cold feet and disappear off this site, or will think you’re into weird sex shit in a different way than they’re into weird sex shit and get spooked. Or that fundamentally there are people on here because they can’t have this fetish be a part of their real life and don’t want to blur those lines. The word fantasy is right in the title.

I guess my one other tip would be that you’ve made your grief (which I’m very sorry for, I can’t even imagine) the main character across half a dozen threads this morning. That’s heavy stuff, man. Posting in the forum is fun, post more often about stuff that isn’t always so heavy. You don’t need to hide your loss but it doesn’t have to be so up front. I know it’s harder around the holidays. (You can post in the Story of the Month threads whenever you like! They’re nice!)

Munchies:
So, what is your goal? What do you want?

Estil17:
To ultimately find my Princess Charming and live happily ever after of course! No matter how long it ends up taking...

Munchies:
I have ASD and PTSD. I struggled a lot with relationships because of it. So I took a 5 year dating hiatus to work on myself. I struggled to understand social cues, so I learned what they were and how to communicate effective to smooth out misunderstandings. I have PTSD, so I learned healthy coping mechanisms as well as dealing with my trauma.

I'm not 100% better. More like 60% to 80% depending on the day. And I am always trying to improve.

It doesn't sound like you are ready to date yet. It's not because of your mental illness. Instead, it doesn't sound like you've learned to self regulate.

Estil17:
Oh I'm nowhere near the "dating" part yet...for right now I'm just trying to find to get good at the online part!

Letters And Numbers:
Therapy doesn’t just stop when you don’t click well with your therapist. That just means you need to try someone else. Give it another try.

Estil17:
I don't know what it is they could tell me that I don't already know...and I don't think they'd be much help on these kind of matters.