How do you deal with people's reactions when you gain??

Most of the time I draw first blood by joking about my belly, how hard I'm working for it, and referring to myself in the 3rd person, usually as "fat boy". It always gets a laugh... with, not at me.

My sister and nieces are another story. They have no qualms about making cutting remarks in front of other people. I began distancing myself from my family even before I starting gaining.
8 years

Whats it feel like to get fattened up?

I've never had a feeder, but the idea is becoming increasingly attractive.

Getting, being and looking fat feels great. I love food and I love to eat. It's becoming a goal and a challenge to get fatter. Especially with every pound or inch I increase by. It helps to envision myself bigger, and what I want to look like.
8 years

Heavy cream really works!

chubbynate:I've gotten bigger around and more bottom heavy...


I hope it has that effect on me. I would like to get more fat on my butt and hips to balance out my belly, not to mention getting more moobish.
8 years

Heavy cream really works!

Ohudidntkno:
what heavy cream do you guys use? i want to try and add this to a shake with ice cream and milk, what brand if you dont mind me asking


I use the store brand of whatever store I happen to be at.
8 years

Do you think i was wrong? (kind of long)

masabear:
Wow, sounds like these people will use anything as an excuse to take a jab at you. What a miserable bunch of jerks.

MarshmallowMinotaur:
It's bullying when you really think about it. One sister says "oh get over it" or "lighten up", the other says (proudly) that they do it to my niece (her own daughter!) too. So classy. 🙄

masabear:
That poor girl, and then they are gonna give her crap later when she has no self esteem and then if she decides to get help for that they'll attack her for getting help. smiley


The thing is that she doesn't have a lot of self esteem to begin with, never did. I might add she's always been overweight too, and recently got out of an emotionally abusive marriage with a bully. Her ex is overweight but made fun if her. She and I probably relate the best of all.

I guess I'm not stating anything new that this is the kind of prejudice and abuse we will face. Gotta take it in stride.
8 years

Heavy cream really works!

CallBR549:
Yep, heavy cream at 3200 calories per quart is hard to beat. Add some sugar to that and you have the perfect fattener!

chubbynate:
When I visit the food store I buy a quart of cream for every pound I want to gain and I consider the ice cream related calories as a bonus.


So, you'd just use up 1 or 2 quarts spread out over the week, adding it to whatever else? I've been adding about 2 oz. to a glass of whole milk to punch up the calories.
8 years

Do you think i was wrong? (kind of long)

masabear:
Wow, sounds like these people will use anything as an excuse to take a jab at you. What a miserable bunch of jerks.


It's bullying when you really think about it. One sister says "oh get over it" or "lighten up", the other says (proudly) that they do it to my niece (her own daughter!) too. So classy. 🙄
8 years

I love when people notice my gain

MarshmallowMinotaur:
I don't know about women, but I think for non-gainer guys it's a matter of "meh, who cares?"

But for me for example, today I'm wearing a button front shirt that's feeling and looking pleasantly snug. It's not ready to burst asunder but the buttons are definitely pulling when I stand, even more so when I sit. I never would have worn it with my previous fatphobia. Now, I'm hoping people are thinking "he really is getting fat". smiley

Marina:
Pics of those straining buttons? 😏


Of course!
8 years

Do you think i was wrong? (kind of long)

mrtubby:
They sound like a bunch of immature people to me. Good Lord, you're almost 60 and they treat you like a kid. Btw, your belly looks awesome!


Thanks for the compliment. smiley

See, I am the "baby of the family". I also think I was resented. It was always thrown in my face how spoiled I was, called spoiled brat, and such.

A couple of years ago at a gathering a few comments were made about my tattoo. It is molon labe ("come take", being a statement of defiance) written in ancient Greek. Someone asked about it, I explained, and was immediately made a laughing stock. This was the same day my sister made a mock bow in front of others saying "oh now you worship cows!" because I passed on a London broil.

Hey wait a minute... and I thought being mocked for being fat was bad? What WAS I thinking!? rofl
8 years

Do you think i was wrong? (kind of long)

BigCanadianBabe:
I think that you did the right thing. No need to be the family's whipping boy. They sound like a mean bunch of assholes.


Thanks. I never thought I'd think of them that way, but you are right. My eldest brother never says anything. My other brother's pet name for me is "hey lard-ass". I come back with either "oh f--- you" or "what mirror do you use?"

You'd expect to get comments and looks from coworkers or looks from people in restaurants or department stores (when a 5' 6" guy grabs 42s or 46s pants). But you don't because everyone else is fat! smiley
8 years