Awhile ago I actually got a ring resized because of this. It was not cheap to do this. The good news is, it's not something you will have to do often.

Sometimes I fantasize about how that after getting married, my new wife gets me to gain so much weight the wedding ring simply won't come off, further symbolizing that I'm indeed hers forever. But I'd never do that in real life since you really don't want to lose blood circulation, as the results would be vomit-inducing gross and tragic. That's all I'm going to say about that.

Don't know if this was the first ever, but the first one I remember, I was still fairly small even by typical standards, much less feederism standards.

I was about 150 lbs at the time (hardly big by any definition), but for some reason I thought wearing an M-sized shirt that day was a good idea. Someone then joked that perhaps I've been enjoying too much fast food, then he lightly poked me in the gut. I took that as a sign that I best not wear that shirt out in public anymore, but it was nice to get some acknowledgement of my weight gain. I just let it go after that, and no one went on about it, and I didn't make any excuse for it.

It's true though, that the shirt was way too snug and tight, and would barely button. I still have that shirt though, in spite of gaining an additional 20 lbs since then and it's way, way too snug for public use now. But I digress.

Just a thought I had today, and other days too.

Ever wish there was a machine that can pick up snacks such as various pastries, baked goods, or other food and will place it in or near your mouth, while you are perhaps sitting and typing away at your desk, or while playing video games?

I kind of wish there was. I have a feeling I might eat more doughnuts and cookies if I had such a machine.

If it were 30+ years ago, this would have absolutely been the stuff of science fiction. Even 10-20 years ago, I would have expected that while potentially possible, something like this would be prohibitively expensive if possible at all.

Although nowadays, in the age of facial and image recognition software, I almost wonder if it might be at the point where someone with the right knowledge might be able to construct something like this. A machine that can pick cookies, doughnuts, or other snacks out of the package (even if not necessarily in a fixed location), and then be able to find your mouth, perhaps even being smart enough to open and pull back individual wrapping and disposing of the wrappers.

Then again, I do know that one thing that has been, and continues to be an engineering challenge are machines that can pick fruit and other produce from fields, so maybe this is still the stuff of science fiction. Still, it's nice to think about.

Maybe it's just as well no such thing exists. I have a feeling if there was, I might be well over 400 lbs by now!

It's not something I'd ever want, or most would want for that matter. Actually, I wouldn't want to be at a size where independent living is no longer possible, even assuming access to modern conveniences. But that's neither here or there.

Although, I had one person describe it as essentially getting to be royalty, since suddenly it means others have to help you with even basic tasks. Perhaps some folks really like the idea of that.

Of course, reality does differ from fantasy. It's possible some of them haven't really thought it through, and won't really like that when reality sets in. But then again, some really are serious about it, as you know.

It does seem to work, though perhaps not quite in the way desired.

Imagine on the map, a radius (as the crow flies) from your location. The smallest concentric circle, a small area (say, 1 mile), will sort by last online in that small area. When the number of members in this small area is exhausted, then it'll start listing users within 2 miles, but not within 1 mile, then listing those users by activity order. Then repeat with those 3 miles away, but not within 2 miles away, and so on.

So perhaps weirdly, someone who's 1.25 miles away but online yesterday, will show up after someone only 0.9 miles away but hasn't been online in months.

Note that I don't really know what the distance/concentric circle cut-off is, and I don't think it's really 1 mile increments, but this is the behavior I've observed.

If you specify no distance requirement, then it's just last online regardless. But of course, that's of limited usefulness if you're curious about users who are only up to so far away.

I do feel like this is something to possibly change, however.

Building upon the nuts suggestion, the various different nut butters are calorie dense.

Also a lot of fluffy pastries and baked goods aren't super filling but can be loaded with calories. Why it's often easy to eat dessert after dinner, which hopefully you are doing more often than not.

The important thing is to remember there's no particular magic formula and they are just like everyone else.

The only main, significant differences I can think of, is to avoid activities that involve major, highly rigorous physical activity that most of them would not be keen on, or any place or area that may seem exceptionally, or specifically hostile to those who are larger.

The last part, I'm referring to something that's much less common than before. But if there's for example, some kind of nightclub where you know the other patrons are for the most part, hostile to those who are larger, you'd want to give that a pass. If you feel like there might be any potential doubt, because it's a place you've never been to before, maybe give it a pass anyway.

Another type of place to avoid, unless you know for a fact it's different, are restaurants with booth seating but very limited table seating, and you know it will be packed. Or any place where you think you might have to stand for hours and hours, though this too is unlikely.

Other things to remember and consider too, to avoid getting or being weird:

- The average BBW is probably, and most likely NOT into feederism.

- It's even possible she hates the way she looks and wants to lose weight, but has found it difficult to do so. It might be possible to help her overcome this, but sometimes this may just not be possible, as she may not be open to it. Imagine if someone wanted you to grow a beard, or if you have a beard, to shave it off and never have one again? Same kind of thing.

- You can offer or suggest getting more food, or a snack or whatever. But if she declines, don't push it.

- Many women, regardless of size, are reluctant or scared to eat more than her date, even if she remains hungry. Unfortunately, there's not much you can do about this, unless you are also fat and a big eater, in which case she'd be far less self-conscious. I would not recommend saying things like "It's okay if you have some more."

- In my area anyway (not applicable to all areas), nearly all BBW in relationships, I've noticed the man tends to be quite big himself. And if there's a contrast in size, it's nearly always a big man and thinner woman. I'd guess it might be because he makes similar accommodations in his personal life.

- What you'd be much more likely to find, is someone who doesn't mind her size and doesn't care if some don't like how she may have a larger appetite.

You double posted, likely accidentally so I deleted the other thread. Just letting you know about that.