It's not something I'd ever want, or most would want for that matter. Actually, I wouldn't want to be at a size where independent living is no longer possible, even assuming access to modern conveniences. But that's neither here or there.

Although, I had one person describe it as essentially getting to be royalty, since suddenly it means others have to help you with even basic tasks. Perhaps some folks really like the idea of that.

Of course, reality does differ from fantasy. It's possible some of them haven't really thought it through, and won't really like that when reality sets in. But then again, some really are serious about it, as you know.

It does seem to work, though perhaps not quite in the way desired.

Imagine on the map, a radius (as the crow flies) from your location. The smallest concentric circle, a small area (say, 1 mile), will sort by last online in that small area. When the number of members in this small area is exhausted, then it'll start listing users within 2 miles, but not within 1 mile, then listing those users by activity order. Then repeat with those 3 miles away, but not within 2 miles away, and so on.

So perhaps weirdly, someone who's 1.25 miles away but online yesterday, will show up after someone only 0.9 miles away but hasn't been online in months.

Note that I don't really know what the distance/concentric circle cut-off is, and I don't think it's really 1 mile increments, but this is the behavior I've observed.

If you specify no distance requirement, then it's just last online regardless. But of course, that's of limited usefulness if you're curious about users who are only up to so far away.

I do feel like this is something to possibly change, however.

Building upon the nuts suggestion, the various different nut butters are calorie dense.

Also a lot of fluffy pastries and baked goods aren't super filling but can be loaded with calories. Why it's often easy to eat dessert after dinner, which hopefully you are doing more often than not.

The important thing is to remember there's no particular magic formula and they are just like everyone else.

The only main, significant differences I can think of, is to avoid activities that involve major, highly rigorous physical activity that most of them would not be keen on, or any place or area that may seem exceptionally, or specifically hostile to those who are larger.

The last part, I'm referring to something that's much less common than before. But if there's for example, some kind of nightclub where you know the other patrons are for the most part, hostile to those who are larger, you'd want to give that a pass. If you feel like there might be any potential doubt, because it's a place you've never been to before, maybe give it a pass anyway.

Another type of place to avoid, unless you know for a fact it's different, are restaurants with booth seating but very limited table seating, and you know it will be packed. Or any place where you think you might have to stand for hours and hours, though this too is unlikely.

Other things to remember and consider too, to avoid getting or being weird:

- The average BBW is probably, and most likely NOT into feederism.

- It's even possible she hates the way she looks and wants to lose weight, but has found it difficult to do so. It might be possible to help her overcome this, but sometimes this may just not be possible, as she may not be open to it. Imagine if someone wanted you to grow a beard, or if you have a beard, to shave it off and never have one again? Same kind of thing.

- You can offer or suggest getting more food, or a snack or whatever. But if she declines, don't push it.

- Many women, regardless of size, are reluctant or scared to eat more than her date, even if she remains hungry. Unfortunately, there's not much you can do about this, unless you are also fat and a big eater, in which case she'd be far less self-conscious. I would not recommend saying things like "It's okay if you have some more."

- In my area anyway (not applicable to all areas), nearly all BBW in relationships, I've noticed the man tends to be quite big himself. And if there's a contrast in size, it's nearly always a big man and thinner woman. I'd guess it might be because he makes similar accommodations in his personal life.

- What you'd be much more likely to find, is someone who doesn't mind her size and doesn't care if some don't like how she may have a larger appetite.

You double posted, likely accidentally so I deleted the other thread. Just letting you know about that.

Yeah, that's pretty much why. The web site hosting, income for the owner (I believe this may be his chief source of income), and other business overhead, since the amount of time to work on this is not insignificant. As someone who has an online service of his own, I have an idea of what it's like.

The thought of running ads in the past has been explored, except that most advertisers are unwilling to advertise on web site that contain adult-oriented subject matter.

But one thing I've wondered about sometimes, is if the restriction could somehow be changed from 5 message thread views a day, to 5 message thread replies a day. This would make it a lot easier to get around the problem of very low effort messages like "Hi" or "You're hot."

It's unclear what impact this may have on subscription rates. On one hand, it may reduce subscriptions if you can view however many you get. On the other hand, it could then increase subscriptions if you aren't able to write enough replies. I've also been under the impression that viewing videos and pictures is what primarily drives subscriptions but I can't be certain. That's not information I'm privy to. But I can't help but wonder if some kind of change could be made that'd be both popular and have little impact on this.

Back when I finally got the courage to do something about it, I was only around 125 lbs and that was several years ago. Yes, I know that's horribly small. Long story how that happened. Up to about 172 now as of this writing, so that's 47 more. It's certainly been easier said than done.

I definitely like the extra mass and I feel better, but I still need more. I'd really like to get up to over 202 though I don't think I wish to stop there. It sounds arbitrary but that's the point where I'd be heavier than the average American man aged 20-59, so that'd be a certain psychological satisfaction.

As of this writing, my longer term goal is either 250, or a higher weight than my future wife, or a higher BMI than my future wife, whichever is heaviest.

You don't really actually want to know what others are thinking. This very topic/trope has been explored in all sorts of science fiction stuff. Folks often think about things they have no intention of ever actually doing, and then folks often do things without really thinking much. The average person probably has a LOT of weird, strange, or even highly disturbing off-the-wall thoughts in any given day. So, just saying.

That said, I do know what you mean. I've at times wondered about this too.

There have been some rare occasions where I witness something and I just can't help but think some sort of feederism things are going on. Even if the folks involved don't know the terms for it, or that there's entire online communities about it.

But no, typically the closest thing I've noticed is someone who is obese and either doesn't mind, just likes to eat, or has accepted and resigned to being big forever.

I've been around in some form or another online, for 20+ years. I remember when SexyMic was new, when Dimensions was more than just a message board (including a page to a mod for the Sims 1 for obese sims), and even FatNats. You can even see my join date here to see how long I've been here.

I doubt I'll ever leave at this point since it's a big part of who I am. That said, there's certain observations I've made that irritate me somewhat and I'm not sure if they'd ever stop being annoying to some degree.

Disclaimer: This is not a generalization, and most users are not described by the following list.

1) Gender/sex distribution is heavily lopsided, though anything that has even a little bit to do with fetish, tends to have this problem as well. I'd guess it's the 1-2% of "keyboard warrior" users who effectively scare off a lot of potential female users. Thus, some (not all) of those who remain are more aloof, meaner, and harder to even start a conversation or make a connection. To be fair, it's hard to blame the portion of users who reacted this way, but it's unfortunate nonetheless. It also means I'm often discouraged from ever reaching out so, I often just don't. I've accepted long ago that I will most likely never meet a girlfriend or future wife this way, so I'm not bitter or angry. Fortunately I've lived in areas where obesity rates are high enough, that I figure I can find someone from the general public. Pro-Tip: Most women don't like being called a cow, piggy, fat sluts, etc. Even the ones who might, it'd only be behind closed doors and after a very high degree of trust in the relationship is establish.

2) It seems most folks I find online into this, are substantially younger than I am. At age 30+, user count seems to drop substantially. I'm just glad I'm not 40+ or 50+. I would guess that it's because in the late 90s, there weren't a lot of good online options and many out there never thought to look it up online. Also because the farther you go back in modern history, the higher the degree of anti-fat sentiment in general. There's nothing inherently wrong with this, but it does mean I may not have much in common. It's funny how something as simple as remembering pulse dialing, having used payphones, an era before GPS, mainstream smartphones, Facebook, Twitter, or even a time before Windows sometimes makes a difference.

3) Some users, particularly female, may assume I only want one thing so I'm dismissed right away. The odds of this increase, the younger the user is. I'm not interested in that sort of thing, and I'm not a "cradle robber" but they might assume anyway. If I talk to someone that young, it would be to ask questions or chat about strictly non-sexual topics. Actually, that's how I approach anyone regardless of age. If it somehow turns intimate and sexual later, cool and I'm not against that, but certainly not right away or overnight. If I might be interested in someone that way, I might try a few slight, mild hints but nothing overt, just to gauge the reaction. If she doesn't bite, no harm no foul.

4) A marked rise in beggars in recent years who just want to try being "models" and want free food or money. The pandemic exacerbated this somewhat, but it was kind of problem even before then. This is against the rules of FF by the way, but I'm talking about the community in general.

5) I almost called this reverse body-shaming but no, no "reverse" about it. The bit about denigrating someone who is very skinny. Or those who say things like how if you don't weigh at least 250 lbs, that you can't possibly be serious.

6) Related to #5... the men who assume that every woman wishes or needs to gain if she's below X weight. As nice as that might sound, it just doesn't work that way. Ultimately, she has to be on board with it and would like to do so, and some don't. Side note: It's just as wrong if it's the other way around, but this is the direction of this dynamic I'm most likely to observe.

7) Kind of related to #1 and #2, but it's a small enough niche that you're still very unlikely to meet anyone who's into this, in person. Or at least someone where you know for a fact he's into it. I don't really believe in long distance relationships for a number of reasons, but that's off-topic for this thread. I live in one of the largest metro areas of America. Even so, there's not that many users who were active and logged in sometime within the last month. Then most of those who are there, are far away from my age range or haven't been online for months. It's a little frustrating, but I've always known it's going to be mostly solitary. There's nothing that can be done about it so no point in moping.

Think I almost met a couple who were possibly into feederism but I couldn't be sure, and I only saw them once, never to be seen again. Of course, you can't just ask about this sort of thing. Still, might have been nice if I could talk