BigBallBellyGirl:
After a year of rapid gaining, I've reached a weight -- 507 lb. -- I'm quite happy with, and I've made in some cases costly accomodations to be comfortable. I've invested in clothing I can wear for occasions that call for professional attire, adapted our bathroom, and put in heavy duty grab bars in our home. I also have a recliner with a lift and recently traded my sedan for a van. In other words, my life is built for a person my size. That said, I can also feel I'd be on the cusp of losing a lot of independence if I got much heavier, and neither my partner nor I are ready to give up doing fun things

According to the Mayo Clinic 's calorie requirement calculator, an inactive, 5'3", 507lb. 29 year old woman needs 3,000 calories or so to maintain. I've currently cut back dramatically from my prior intake to about 5,000 calories a day, and I'm eating a lot of fiber to feel more full. I'm hopeful I don't have to cut back more than that, but we'll see.

Is there anybody out there in say, the 400 to 600 lb range (or who is close to someone that size) who is maintaining? I realize a lot of factors are involved, but where did your daily calorie count settle?

BigBallBellyGirl:
Last night at midnight, my kiss came with a marriage proposal!!! My partner... er, fiance... and I already knew we were in it for the long hall and that we would eventually get engaged, but I was NOT expecting it to happen last night!

Apparently, my parents knew it was coming, and my best friend helped choose the ring (which needs to be sized up *just* a little, as it's slightly snug).

We're looking at next November or early December. And if anyone's curious, I plan to maintain my current weight, since I've never felt more attractive than I do at 500!

Advice from anyone who was an SSBBW bride, who married one, or who just generally gives good advice is welcome! 😊

ForeverFFA:
I'm not a gainer, so this isn't as devastating as it might be for some people, but I was curious to hear the opinions of others like me. Does anyone else who experiences episodic or chronic conditions that result in low appetite/nausea feel that this impacts the experience of their fetish/kink?

Right now I'm going through a particularly bad spell, and even the sight of rich foods can turn my stomach. But even in general I have difficulty comprehending the gluttony-related element of this kink, because overeating seems like so much tedious work, rather than a temptation to give into!

Morbidly A Beast:
Gluttony isn’t the right word it’s voraciousness, it’s the compulsion to eat and eat a lot of food, and if you don’t have much of a appetite it might seem like a lot of work but to me it just seems like I’m eating a meal. If that makes sense. It’s not like I’m eating with an intent to stuff I am eating with an intent to get my fill.

ForeverFFA:
Fair point, and it made me realize what I wrote was a bit unclear: I wasn't saying that having a large appetite is inherently gluttonous, but that I don't get the specific appeal of gluttony as a concept. And I think it's precisely because of my own lived experience.

Morbidly A Beast:
Imagine having a hunger that persists even after a large meal or while eating. Imagine there never being quite enough.

Some people will never understand it, and that’s okay, not everyone is a glutton

ForeverFFA:
I think we're talking at cross purposes because I meant that I don't understand it in the kink way, not that I don't understand people who actually feel ravenous. Hope that clarifies?

BigBallBellyGirl:
When I sat down after my shower today in a big sleep shirt and my underwear after tempting to tuck my belly in it, the elastic popped. Guess I'm bigger than an 7XL!!

Munchies:
That is impressively wide. Are you going to keep on the gain train, or are you still trying to slow down?

BigBallBellyGirl:
Definitely slowing down now, just because I think I've hit a point where daily obstacles are rapidly feeling more pronounced. Given that I'm not super tall, I think another 100 pounds would strand me at home entirely, and I'm not ready for that.

Munchies:
Getting fat isn't as enjoyable if you can't be a person too. Good luck to you in finding your balance.

BigBallBellyGirl:
That's absolutely right. Fortunately, I have a great partner who wants to have a lot of future adventures together and would, though he loves my obese body, support me whether I wanted to be an 8XL or a size 2. So it's not like I have someone in my house who is working against me. I just have to get in the right headspace and shift some habits to maintain.

Natatat:
Whenever anyone talks about their jeans being tight or eating too much or plays with their stomach in front of me it turns me on and kinda annoys me. It makes me feel like somehow they know. I’m worried it’s obvious that I want to hear more. I’m worried it’s obvious that I want to touch their belly or feed them more.
It happens a lot. One guy friend I had I was not aware that he was doughy. He kept talking about how bloated he was and that he ate too much. He kept this while continuing to eat. He finally unbuttoned his jeans and his belly just flopped out. He rubbed it saying how much better it felt. I felt like it was so obvious that I was turned on. I think he noticed though cause he kept getting up to get more food.
We of course ended up hooking up later that month. He tended to do this a lot. He play with his belly and talk about how tight his jeans were getting. I would end up absentmindedly playing with it when I cuddled with him.

BigBallBellyGirl:
When I sat down after my shower today in a big sleep shirt and my underwear after tempting to tuck my belly in it, the elastic popped. Guess I'm bigger than an 7XL!!

Munchies:
That is impressively wide. Are you going to keep on the gain train, or are you still trying to slow down?

BigBallBellyGirl:
Definitely slowing down now, just because I think I've hit a point where daily obstacles are rapidly feeling more pronounced. Given that I'm not super tall, I think another 100 pounds would strand me at home entirely, and I'm not ready for that.

Beerbelly:
Has anyone come up with a solution to sleeve length being to long on larger size clothing? Has any one brought shirts to a tailor?

BigBallBellyGirl:
When I sat down after my shower today in a big sleep shirt and my underwear after tempting to tuck my belly in it, the elastic popped. Guess I'm bigger than an 7XL!!

LuvsChub04:
Feel like my belly keeps growing, n not sure if I need to cut back.Once again im overweight feel nervous yet turned on, at the new changes. Still odd having this hard big belly in my life. My shirts now ride up when I raise my arms,emberessing yet hot. Just not sure what the next year will bring me..

Cyberswine:
Friends have definitely frowned upon my gain, I've even had people tell me they no longer find me attractive now that I've let myself go. It freaks me out sorta but I also can't stop, nor can I wait to see what comments or teasing comes as I continue growing. It's hard not having the energy I once had, and I sorta miss the nice compliments, but I think I kinda like the fat life