May 2024 lead to bigger and better things for us all.

And for my fellow Americans, good luck this election cycle. No matter your political stance, we are all going to need it.

People's bodies change all the time. How you look now will not be how you look later.

Ever see couples that have been together 40, 50, 60 years? Specifically the ones that are still in love with each other? They put in the work to achieve that. The truth is that no matter what your partner looks like, you can lose attraction to them anytime. And telling them "I'm not attracted to you," or "I'm less attracted to you," puts the burden on them.

And unless they are doing something no reasonable person would put up with like not bathing or being obnoxious, then it's a you issue, not a them issue.

My partner loves busty women. And I am very busty. If I went down several cup sizes and he said "I'm not attracted to you anymore," or "I find you less attractive," I'd be destroyed.

You have some things you need to work through - things that are not his burden to bear. If he asks, you can tell him "I'm sorry babe. I'm working through some things. They are not your fault, and you did nothing wrong. When I'm done, I'll tell you about it."

In the mean time, ask yourself if you can find other reasons to be attracted to him. When my partner decided to lose weight, he was terrified of me losing attraction to him. That never happened. If anything, the closer we get, the more I find myself attracted to him. Some of it involves me finding different reasons to be attracted to him. Like the growing muscle in his arms or how he has really nice cheekbones I never saw before. The rest is appreciating the things that don't change like his broad shoulders or sweet smile.

It's also important to find non-sexual reasons to be attracted to your partner. For me, it's things like how he makes me feel safe or his wicked sense of humor.

If you can find it in yourself to maintain your attraction, tell him. "Babe, I was worried I'd lose my attraction to you. But after thinking things through, I realize that's not going to be a problem." If you can't then you should probably end things. If not, the relationship will wither away and become filled with resentment.

It's this weird combo of patriarchy mixed with capitalism.

To be clear, I am not talking about the gross kind of guy that expects a free wank session on a feedee's dime. I am also not talking about people who have mutually decided for the feeder to pay for the feedings.

This specific kind of ick started on TikTok. Some plus-sized woman told her followers to find feeders for an easy buck. It dehumanized men by distilling them down to just being "providers" and increased the number of scammers. I've heard of and experienced women (some were catfish) sliding into DMs demanding money for food.

It's the inverse of guys that think feedees (and women in general) exist for their sexual pleasure. It's nowhere near the same level of harm, but it is harmful.

I noticed it's been fixed as of this morning. Thanks for that.

Here's more information about water toxicity: healthline.com/health/how-much-water-can-kill-you

The easiest way is to just drink the water. However, if you are afraid of water toxicity, get some instant mashed potato flakes. Add enough water until it's a thick paste. Season it if you love yourself. Then drink as much water as you can stand.

The potatoes will absorb the water in your stomach and give you a good stretch. Plus, it will stay in your stomach longer than just drinking the water which will help stretch you out.

Just don't overdo it with the potato flakes. Start small and work your way up.

It's possible to find what you want, but you have to keep your expectations on the floor if you go looking in the fetish community. You may have better luck going outside the community and introduce them to it.

*sips tea*

My dear, if you are struggling that much, the problem is you.

Like more power to you if you want to do the traditional thing where the guy pays. But don't be out here taking advantage. Not only is that rude and heartless, but it make it harder for him to pay his bills.

Have you see the economy lately? It's hard out there even if you have a good paycheck.

Having seen his forum posts, I don't doubt it. That said, there is a better way to handle this.

Instead of making a random forum post that will eventually get buried, you can contact admin at team@fantasyfeeder.com. Please include any relevant screenshots.

I'm unsure if it's just me, but there's a recurring error message when I make a forum post. It looks a lot like the error message several users got when trying to interact with photos the other week.

This only happens when I post. The post goes through, but I still get the error message. I have to go back a few pages to see the site again.

Update. When I posted this, it went through with no issues. It seems only to happen when I hit the reply button or make an edit.

This wasn't here when I started typing my response.

I'm glad you've found a space with like-minded people. I'm sorry to hear that FF doesn't feel as gay-friendly as it used to be to you.

That said, I want to point out something important.

Fantasy Feeder is not a dating site. It's a kink site. While you can find romantic partners on here, it isn't the sole focus of the site. There are a lot of people (including gay men) who are here for the kink community. Some either have a partner or are happy being single. Some are only here to find a playmate to be kinky with.

Since there are so many reasons you can be on FF outside of finding "The One, " many people put in their bios what they do and do not want. This is helpful to you, a gay man looking for Mr. Right, because it helps you weed through things. Imagine you hit up a cute guy only to find he's straight, married, too far away, or has a kink you very much do not like. If it's in his profile, you could have avoided wasting time by never contacting him. Or, imagine you find someone you click with because you read their profile and it's nothing but green lights.

To be honest, I'm struggling to come up with a reason not to read a profile.