Mobius:
Putting yourself out there for one. Sites like this help a lot, given the niche community.

But it's a lot like anything else when looking for a relationship, whether that be platonic or romantic. You strive to find a community and seek out like minded people.

Be communicative and make sure you're both on the same page about what you want. However that sort of thing takes time in order to establish a meaningful connection.

SlyFox:
Thank you so much! These are very helpful pointers

Mobius:
Hopefully that helps.

Also, and I am sure you know this. But bears saying, sometimes it can be really exciting to find someone local. Like any sort of situation exercise caution and discernment with meeting up.

Angelette:
When I first started out, I have gotten messages as usual from guys. Even if I hardly say a word. Now, it has toned down and I get messaged from people I know.

Even on my old account from 3 months back the same thing happened. Makes me wonder what happens if I switched the gender settings?

2seatsalways:
Chat helps for views but yeah I've gotten them as well. Just be careful tis the season to scam

Wowthatsbig:
Hi. Hope this gets buried in the forum. Need a place to put my thoughts and any feedback from others is welcome.

Me and this girl have been seeing each other for a while. She's a big name in the community. Pun intended.

It's been on and off for a while and everytime I think we're making progress one of us backslides in the relationship.

She lives 2 hours away.

I work 60 weeks.

She's an amazing person but she's got her own struggles.

Take her struggles and mine and it just doesn't seem to work.

But dear God I want it to work. At least I think I do. I don't know. She's such an excellent person and I've been more vulnerable and intimate with her than anyone I ever have.

I think I'm afraid it isn't working so I quit trying.

And now shes with other people while we still message and hurts.

Thanks for listening.

Munchies:
Bro, if you don't feel like it's working, and you can't handle being just friends, then move on.

What benefit does it bring either of your guys to stay in this zombie of a relationship? Just let it die. Are you so afraid to be single? Or are you terrified that you won't find another play partner?

Wowthatsbig:
Damn. Zombie of a relationship. That hit the nail on the head. I don't mind being single it's more the fear that I'm unlovable. That's not the right word but I can't think of a better one. Incompatible?

BigFox:
Anyone els getting a random influx of new profile views from new accounts?

Wowthatsbig:
Hi. Hope this gets buried in the forum. Need a place to put my thoughts and any feedback from others is welcome.

Me and this girl have been seeing each other for a while. She's a big name in the community. Pun intended.

It's been on and off for a while and everytime I think we're making progress one of us backslides in the relationship.

She lives 2 hours away.

I work 60 weeks.

She's an amazing person but she's got her own struggles.

Take her struggles and mine and it just doesn't seem to work.

But dear God I want it to work. At least I think I do. I don't know. She's such an excellent person and I've been more vulnerable and intimate with her than anyone I ever have.

I think I'm afraid it isn't working so I quit trying.

And now shes with other people while we still message and hurts.

Thanks for listening.

FatLime:
I feel like everyone is chasing size and weight, so they try to fatten up the bigger feedee. In large communities I rarely get any messages at all, let alone donations for fattening

Bv333:
It's way too common, and if they didn't have such success doing it, it wouldn't be so common. One of the biggest red flags imo is if their profile said "looking for feeders" (plural). Or if you get into a conversation and you suggest going on a date (you know, like normal fucking people do regardless of kinks and fetishes) and they suggest an online feeding to "make sure it's real" (what's more real than actually meeting each other though?). And a couple other things. It's too bad that this community is so chock full of scammers. Just gotta be careful and set your priorities.

Slip130:
Blogpost incoming since I'm frustrated about this because its hard enough to find genuine people who are not only into feederism but are open romantically as well. Then comes along a person who I have wonderful conversations with for several days and it hits off and we share pictures of each other. She's gorgeous and incredibly attractive with an enormous belly and breasts to die for. I feel like I'm starting to know this person. Pictures are deceiving I guess, I even reverse image searched these. I send them money so they can buy food for a stuffing, and all of a sudden its not enough and they need more. I was foolish and didn't get actual time stamped verification or ID from them before I sent this person 80 dollars through cashapp so I fell for it hook line and sinker. It makes it worse since I'm in school living on my own and money can be tight at times.
Is this a common or shared experience for other people trying to find someone out there? I'm not an ugly, or unattractive person either and I have success in previous relationships so it shouldn't be this hard. I suppose there is always a lot to learn for me out there moving forwards, I just hate being taken advantage because I'm a genuine person.