Angelette:
When I first started out, I have gotten messages as usual from guys. Even if I hardly say a word. Now, it has toned down and I get messaged from people I know.
Even on my old account from 3 months back the same thing happened. Makes me wonder what happens if I switched the gender settings?
The older your account, the fewer DMs you get. And if you mark yourself as female, you get more engagement overall. Why? Because horny men want to get female attention - especially if the user is new and more easily manipulated.
Switching your gender to male only gives you a different set of problems. You'll still get the PMs from guys (usually gay or straight guys that didn't read), but then you get flooded with scammers begging (or demanding) you to feed them or give them money.
I think there's still a no gender option. I selected that when I first joined. I got 0 engagement for the first few months I was on here. Then, the moment I switched my gender to female, I got flooded with creeps.