Maikode:
So I saw this, and the most recent experience at the doctor's office resurfaced. My boyfriend and I usually go see our doctor together, but in this occasion, our medical provider was out of office due to a family grievance. So unbeknownst to us, we would see a different doctor in their stead.

To give some context before I go on, my boyfriend and I are 32 and autistic, while he also has generalized anxiety disorder. He also has his RN license but has been having issues getting a job. On top of that, he has been prescribed specific pain meds for his back, legs and feet since he was 14. As for me, being the bigger guy, I've been labeled as a diabetic (type 2) for about a year.

To make the story TLDR; the new FNP we saw said the following to my boyfriend:

"You're not supposed to take this pain medication, it's for cancer patients only."

"There's no reason for you to take this medication unless you're doing it for "funsies""

(This is regarding to the medication he was prescribed to help with his pain since he was 14)

"You need to stop going back to what I just said and focus what I'm saying now. You're starting to get on my nerves."

(My boyfriend was having a massive panic attack in front of the new FNP as they basically said they were gonna change/remove the medicine that helps him function)

"It doesn't matter if you got your RN license, you're still a nurse graduate."

(When he told them that he was also a RN (Registered Nurse))

And when it got too intense for him to even talk, the FNP told him to leave, leaving him in the dark in terms of his medication.

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As for me, what they did was not in the doctors office but when I got my prescriptions.

On the day we pick up our meds, the pharmacist was even concerned and hesitant to give me the new medication the FNP prescribed me, because it was for people that had a blood sugar count over 500/600+. Hearing those numbers scared me, because the highest my blood sugar has ever gotten was 175, but NEVER has it gotten to those numbers.

Both the pharmacist and my boyfriend agreed that I shouldn't take this medication, because the excess insulin the FNP was expecting me to take ON TOP of the other diabetic meds I already take (which is really only Metformin, and Baselgar should my blood sugar get too high) would probably kill me.

So this FNP basically assumed I was a type 1 diabetic when I'm type 2.

Suffice to say, we both felt violated by this FNP's actions and words. Plus they were a fill in for our normal provider, there was no need for them to make such drastic changes. I'm just hoping when we see our regular provider on our next appointment that they will fix what was changed.

ForeverFFA:
Very true, and while specific dietary choices play a role, I think each individual person needs to evaluate their unique risks when it comes to gaining. Some people simply are healthier at higher weights than others (and vice versa). Maybe this sounds too preachy, but I really hope that intentional weight gain is not a decision that anyone is taking lightly. At the same time, it makes me angry to hear how dehumanizing doctors can be about this stuff.

Munchies:
It's awful. Few things make me quite as mad as medical bigotry. A fatphobic doctor is often a lazy doctor. Any ailment their patient as is usually blamed on their fatness. This often leads to them overlooking other issues their patient might have.

I remember last winter, my partner had a severe headache. Lasted for several days. His doctor blamed his weight as he was pushing 500 lbs at the time.

Both my partner and I knew that was a load of crap, so he got a second opinion. Turns out that he needed a root canal.

LuvsChub04:
didn't his tooth hurt tho?

Morbidly A Beast:
I’ve gotten extremely lucky from the sounds of it the most I got was concern for my weight but I was otherwise healthy in all my tests. Probably helps that I remain very active like more than you’d expect for someone my weight for my job, and I have only been to the doctor a handful of times had I been seeing that doctor since I was young I’m sure I would have gotten a earful.

It’s sucks that there’s doctors perfectly willing to put their patients at risk just because of their bias.

Morbidly A Beast:
Let the man have a soda if that’s what he wants 😭

but I get it it’s not the best for you, juice isn’t that much better. Is diet soda an option?

FatLime:
To me, sugar free sodas taste disgusting and the aftertaste is like someone died.

HappyBigBelly:
Sounds like preferences are changing on both sides and a change is needed?

Morbidly A Beast:
Let the man have a soda if that’s what he wants 😭

but I get it it’s not the best for you, juice isn’t that much better. Is diet soda an option?

NoMoYoYo:
I'll admit I haven't done much exercise at all since starting this gain. I go on short walks and took my kids swimming twice but thats about it. I haven't touched a weight or other strength training since the beginning of July.

LuvsChub04:
that my blood was like pancake batter due to high cholesterol n my triglycerides were way to high...yet my family is way worse then a doc

Morbidly A Beast:
Just keep it mind that some people are genetically predisposed to stuff like diabetes, high blood pressure, and bad cholesterol and weight gain can just act as a catalyst rather than the culprit.

ForeverFFA:
Very true, and while specific dietary choices play a role, I think each individual person needs to evaluate their unique risks when it comes to gaining. Some people simply are healthier at higher weights than others (and vice versa). Maybe this sounds too preachy, but I really hope that intentional weight gain is not a decision that anyone is taking lightly. At the same time, it makes me angry to hear how dehumanizing doctors can be about this stuff.

NoMoYoYo:
Today I tucked in my shirt. I was out and about just to try it to see how I felt. I was at the mall briefly, had lunch at Wendy's and then did groceries. It was definitely out of my comfort zone, but it was okay. I think it looked good. I will try it again soon. It was for sure easier to do in front of strangers. I'm not ready to do it at work yet.

Ferro1986:
This is why it’s so hard to stop/slow down once you really lean into this. I’m rarely fully satisfied by a normal meal but rarely can truly give in. Add to the fact that getting stuffed is a sexual release for me, it’s truly an addiction to keep eating more and more

Munchies:
So true. If you need/want to slow down or stop the gain train, you can't do it cold turkey. You can try, but it won't end well.

In my experience, it's best to do a step-down method. It can take about a month. So if you have a weight limit, it's good to start when you are getting close.


The first week, my feedee isn't allowed to get stuffed. He can eat as much as he likes, but he can't stuff himself. Easier said than done depending on how much you ate during your stuffing/gaining cycle.

The second week is about eating cleaner. You aren't worried about portion sizes at this point, but you are cutting out or reducing the trash you ate during your stuffing/gaining cycle. You should also make sure you are drinking plenty of water during this time too.

The third and fourth weeks should be dedicated to slowly reducing your portion sizes. If you've done everything correctly this part will not be as difficult.

It's also good to de-center feedism for your sexual release. Find additional ways to get off. That way, if and when you can't indulge yourself by stuffing your face, you can still get off.

NoMoYoYo:
This is where I struggle -trying to do it cold turkey. I will try this strategy...starting next week lol.

Munchies:
It's really hard to stop doing something you find extremely pleasurable. Some people can do it, but most can't. That's why it's better to wean yourself off of things.

NoMoYoYo:
Ain't that the truth. When I was eating healthy and lost weight I mostly stayed away from junk food because I know how pleasurable it can be. Along comes summer and a little bit turned into a little bit more which turned into a lot more. It's so addicting.

Munchies:
It's all about finding that balance. Eat the junk food, but don't give up the healthy food. Have you ever spoke to a person on an all junk food diet? They're not doing so hot.

They can't think straight. Their emotions are all over the place. They barely function and often abandon things that used to make them happy. And they often experience health issues at much lower weights. It's really sad to see when they have all these issues and they don't even weight 180 lbs.

NoMoYoYo:
I can understand that. I do eat a fairly balanced diet. Well maybe not totally balanced, but I do eat fruits and vegetables. Yesterday I had one of those bagged salads which was over 650 calories. When I'm in gaining I still have those, but I add a lot of junk. And to be honest I've had minimal issues at the doctors other than the normal needling about my weight...wonder what he would have said at my highest? My highest recorded there was about 15lbs less.