Online feedee scammers?

FatLime:
I feel like everyone is chasing size and weight, so they try to fatten up the bigger feedee. In large communities I rarely get any messages at all, let alone donations for fattening smiley


There's a big min/max mentality in the community. And some people have ... really gross ideas about smaller people.

But on the flip side, someone who is already fat tends to be more willing to gain weight than a thinner person. Why? Because it's not uncommon for a smaller feedee to freak out once they get a little jiggly and then flake out. Other times they get frustrated about slow gains and quit. It's very frustrating.

I remember befriending a feedee who was smaller than me by about 30 lbs. He wanted to be at least 200.

No problem.

He put on like ... 2 or 3 lbs before he decided getting fat was morally wrong and bounced.

This is not to say smaller feedees are inherently like this. I have met several people who started out quite small. I myself used to be a gainer, and I started at 115 lbs.

Still, all you can do is be patient and don't be a dick. There are feeders out there who don't mind of prefer smaller feedees. And in the mean time, you can fatten youself.
1 year

Online feedee scammers?

Bv333:
It's way too common, and if they didn't have such success doing it, it wouldn't be so common. One of the biggest red flags imo is if their profile said "looking for feeders" (plural). Or if you get into a conversation and you suggest going on a date (you know, like normal fucking people do regardless of kinks and fetishes) and they suggest an online feeding to "make sure it's real" (what's more real than actually meeting each other though?). And a couple other things. It's too bad that this community is so chock full of scammers. Just gotta be careful and set your priorities.


I get where you are coming from. And I agree with most of it. But I just want to point out that some people have very valid reasons to keep things initially online if you're local. Lotta crazies out here in these streets.

However

If you guys have hit it off, and they feel safe around you, it's a bit sus for them to not want to meet up at some point.
1 year

Online feedee scammers?

Slip130:
Blogpost incoming since I'm frustrated about this because its hard enough to find genuine people who are not only into feederism but are open romantically as well. Then comes along a person who I have wonderful conversations with for several days and it hits off and we share pictures of each other. She's gorgeous and incredibly attractive with an enormous belly and breasts to die for. I feel like I'm starting to know this person. Pictures are deceiving I guess, I even reverse image searched these. I send them money so they can buy food for a stuffing, and all of a sudden its not enough and they need more. I was foolish and didn't get actual time stamped verification or ID from them before I sent this person 80 dollars through cashapp so I fell for it hook line and sinker. It makes it worse since I'm in school living on my own and money can be tight at times.
Is this a common or shared experience for other people trying to find someone out there? I'm not an ugly, or unattractive person either and I have success in previous relationships so it shouldn't be this hard. I suppose there is always a lot to learn for me out there moving forwards, I just hate being taken advantage because I'm a genuine person.


Sorry to hear that man. It sucks you experienced that.

Personally, I prefer to get to know someone for months before I pay for stuffings. And this is after they've demonstrated they are perfectly fine to fund their own stuffings.

The first time I pay for any feedee, we sit down and decide what to eat, and how much I am going to pay. Then place the order . At this point, we trust each other with personal information, so that's not an issue.

May not work for everyone, but it works for me.
1 year

Has an overweight person ever unintentionally did something that sexuelly arouse you in real lif

Newenglander:
My youngest SIL deliberately squeezes her thick fat belly into me when we hug. She went from sporty to obese in her mid-20s and began doing this on purpose ever since.


Feels kinda skeevy to perv on your spouse's baby sister. Like ... extremely skeevy.
1 year

12 pounds in 10 days?

Ausfeed:
Is it possible that I actually gained 12 in 10 days. I have been eating 6-7k cal including a quart of heavy cream(3200 cal) every day. This morning after my pee, I’m up a full 12lbs. Last time I drank this much hc, I gained for another week after slowing down. What do you think?


If the scale says you gained 12 lbs, then you gained 12 lbs. That said, it's probably not all fat. Some of it is likely water and food weight.
1 year

Are straight female feeders/encouragers common?

TheWhipHand:
I’m not sure about how statistically common such a thing would be, but I enjoy being able to be open about this fetish. I’ve successfully fattened about four or five people (people I know and know to have kept their fattening ways) and enjoy fattening them. Recently I’ve enjoyed coming up with new ways for their fattening to be an all-encompassing experience, and that’s thrilling. As a Domme Feeder I’m glad there’s more representation out there.


All the fun. I am also glad to see female feeder representation in all it's forms.
1 year

Dissonance between fetish and romantic life

ForeverFFA:
I feel the need to update this thread because I'm sort of struggling all over again just when I thought I had reached a happy conclusion.

It feels like my fat fetish is not really welcome in my relationship after all, as if my boyfriend would rather pretend it doesn't exist. He hasn't brought it up once since our initial discussions but has instead made offhand remarks about fat being unhealthy and has continued to talk negatively about his own and others' bodies (for being "too" fat). I'm wondering if I should approach a renewed discussion with him after all this? And how?

My fetish isn't going away, and I feel like I can't live as my whole, authentic self with this silence. I'm also confused, based on his initial reaction being much more positive.


If your relationship is important to you, then I'd bring it up. Nothing accusatory, but a chat is in order. However, I'd focus on the fat phobia first. It's a more abstract concept that you can use to explore the issue and get his most honest opinions. Then, as the conversation continues, you can funnel the issue into more and more specific yet related issues until you get to your fetish.

It sounds like he has body issues that he's also projecting onto other people. And you want to be fat. Maybe even fatter than you are now. So this will be an issue later on down the road for you two.
1 year

Firedwellers

Mylum OShinn:
does anyone know what happened to this 5'11 redhead? She haven't been seen for quite a while.


As soon as I come across a random 5'11" red headed woman, I will let you know.
1 year

The struggle

RegularGhost15:
Hello all! I'm not new to the fetish, but I am new to trying to gain weight on purpose.

So I've been trying to gain weight since before Thanksgiving. To be fair, I wasn't going that hard until last week, but I have spent years on being fit and keeping my caloric intake at about 1600-1700 to maintain my body. So I figured it wouldn't take much to pack it on, and after spending a month letting go of my diet (eating a slice of pie after dinner, letting myself have an extra soda a day, just eating whatever I want, really) and a week of actually going out of my way to take in more (eating at least an extra 500 calories a day), I've gained...

Nothing!

Needless to say, I'm really shocked and disappointed.

I have a history of ED, so I guess the perception that my gut was softer and fuller is just a symptom of that. I have gained not one single pound.

To add salt in the wound, my partner, who is aware I'm trying to gain weight, and expressed excitement at my plan, has also let his diet go, I guess. But I have definitely been eating more than him and he's gained 5 pounds without really trying.

I don't know. I'm just feeling discouraged. I couldn't lose weight by cutting calories ten years ago and I can't gain weight by adding them now. It's like my body is cursed.


With love, but you've only been truly committed to this for a week now. It's hardly strange not to have any weight gain yet. These things can take time and consistency. I know you're frustrated, but there's nothing wrong with you. Be kind to yourself.

You've already taken such a big first step, and that's not nothing. Just enjoy yourself and have fun.
1 year

Burried penis...

Melchior:
A few years back I used to chat with a guy who was about 450lbs and gaining, and once he came for me on camera by jiggling and squeezing his fupa. He said he was almost perpetually at half-mast because of all his fat constantly jostling his smothered dick. The only way I could even tell he came was from his high pitched moaning and the little trickle of jizz that eventually seeped out from his flabussy. 🥰


Canuck:
"flabussy" is a new one! my partner calls mine a "fatgina" smiley

i was a thin, fit guy for most of my life. my penis is average length, 6 inches. when i started to get really fat, like over 300 lbs, i was very nervous that the fat accumulating down there was making it look smaller and smaller.

it was something that really concerned me. when it started to really cover i did get worried about the future of my sex life, and how i would experience that kind of pleasure. plus it was a little embarrassing.

in the last few years, now growing to 450 lbs, my fupa (fat upper pubic area) covers my penis even when it's hard. it is totally buried all the time (unless my partner manually pushed the flab out of the way so she can see and access the head).

unlike the guy you mentioned, i can't get off just by moving my fupa. it would be fun to experience, but it just doesn't work for me. penetrative sex with my partner isn't impossible, but it takes so much effort, it is so awkward, and my stamina isn't want it once was, so it's kind of impractical and not really pleasurable. but we've adapted in numerous ways. i've become more of a "bottom" where penetration is concerned, and oral is great - it's even inspired us to explore new ways to derive pleasure from oral, which has been amazing. lately i have been experimenting with multiple orgasms by avoiding stimulation of the penis.

do i miss being able to fuck the traditional way? sometimes. but this has opened up a whole slew of new experiences i would never have explored if i didn't end up in this position.


I've seen some of your partner's posts about your bedroom exploits. It's inspired me in some ways too - particularly when my partner was at his heaviest.

One cool thing about my partner is that he has fat fingers. So even if he could no longer get me off traditionally, he still has those. And I have a bunch of fun toys to use.
1 year