Love yourself first.

The main thing you need to work on is your confidence.
Gaining weight is just asking for comments and you will get them for people that are closest to you.
Lots of things change so there is no way any of us know what will happen to you as far as relationships.
Hopefully you will find a girl that is into chubby /fat guys.
Keep in mind gaining weight can be a very slow process so most people will be slow to notice.

Did you have a bad experience on here or other fetish sites that made you feel that way?
Its not good to generalize any group of people that way.
I dated fat guys in high school and college.
When it came to sex they were awesome.
I married a guy that was chubby then he got into body building and his sex drive was non existent once he became a gym rat.
My BF is a 350 lb guy that takes care of me quite well.

I have had guys offer me money to take porno pics and I have declined every offer for the last 12 years because I am not that kind of woman.

Not something I would want to do if I was just starting out.
Like he said everyone is different.
Your metabolism is going to be shocked with the 2000 calorie uptick and will probably try to even things out.and that takes time.
Gaining weight is not a fast think it takes time.

True but little do they realize getting fat quick isn't going to happen.

Why people think it has to be fast food or sweets just eat what you normally like just more of it.
Go slow for your first time and don't over do it.
If at all possible choose good food not junk food.
I made that mistake and had some awful indigestion and heart burn.

Folding lawn chairs I stay away from.
1. I am way over the weight limit for those.
2.I am too wide to fit.
I have wide hips and and a big butt so I haven't been able to sit in a lawn chair for a long time.

During high school I always dated the fat boys because I thought they were more intelligent and had nicer personalities.
I was pretty skinny and never gained any weight while dating them or being around their families.

I will say when I started coming on size acceptance sites on the internet I made a lot of friends and with their help I managed to start gaining.

A lot of my initial gain went to my thighs,hips and butt so about 200 lbs my GFs were telling me I was starting to waddle.
I was so proud of having a big butt and wide hips.

To soundcheck87 what you are about to do is go down a rabbit hole with no end in sight.
In the past I was a gainer but wasn't into feederism. Admired fat men and women but not obsessed by it like some here.
Gaining weight was something I enjoyed but it was never a fetish I had.
I have had plenty of people that asked me what was I doing on a fetish site if I didn't have a fat fetish or into feederism.
I support men and women who love being fat and I am here as moral support I guess.
Two ladies I met on the dimensions web site asked me to join here so we could hang out.
I guess I fit in OK because after all I am fat !