Feederism identity and attraction

flingbing1819:
I have been thinking recently about my personal dichotomous feelings about what is attractive: I think that big, round bellies on other people is the sexiest thing possible, however only find myself attractive when I am losing weight. For a very long time I believed that I was /attracted/ to both body types (very fat people and unhealthily skinny people), but after developing an eating disorder, realized that I am *attracted* to fat people, but want to *be* a 'skinny person'; I don't actually find unnaturally thin people sexually arousing, but I do find them... beautiful.
I understand the concept of mutual gainers, but I now and curious about if people who fall on either the 'feedee' or 'feeder' side have the same opposing beliefs on what is attractive on others and on them, and why. To people on either side, is all fat attractive? Is it only attractive on yourself or others?


What the heart wants, we can do little about.

I think that we all have a wider range of attraction than what we give ourselves credit for. I know, for myself, that my longest and most fulfilling relationships have often been based on much more than physical features.

The ability to laugh with someone is sexy as hell.
The ability to talk for hours about all kinds of things is sexy as hell.
The ability to just be silent with someone -- and really feel together -- is sexy as hell.

Oh well, I feel I'm going off topic, but bottom line: I think everyone should give themselves permission to expand their preferences.
8 years

Submissive gainer

TheWhipHand:
I started fattening up my bf a little while ago. Things are proceeding well, but the little Butterball has become rather submissive as he has gained. Has anyone else experienced a gainer or gaining accompanied by submissive feelings?


This just seems the natural consequence of most feeder/feedee relationships. Not that there aren't dom feedees and sub feeders, and those folks certainly enjoy that dynamic.

But by nature, the one feeding is the one in control of everything.
8 years

Lower sex drive from weight gain?

boundandfeed:
I think there are Domme feeders, that would love this expect of control. Know any?

TheWhipHand:
The only time when my little Butterball seemed reluctant, I was able to tilt him over and make him change his mind.

Butterball had grown more loving and sweet, but also more passive in bed, but I enjoy that


I think you hit upon the dynamic that many enjoy as they gain weight -- the giving over of control to someone else.

As someone who has experienced this, it is absolutely wonderful -- and perhaps a great relief -- to just let the feeder decide everything for you.

And I don't agree with the premise that weight gain leads to less sex drive. There are several studies which show quite the opposite, in fact.

Plus, the nature of just becoming a hedonistic glutton also opens one up to more overindulgence in all things.

Gluttony and lust are the powerful twins in the "deadly sins". One feeds the other (pun intended). Together, they just increase one's appetite for all decadent pleasures.
8 years

Would anyone like a "how to stuff yourself...or your partner" guide?

hungrypiggygirl:
Sorry to bump this topic but did anything come out of this project? I would love to read the guide


Yes, Molly, is this something you've done yet?
8 years

If you had to pick one little debbie cake...

Swiss rolls!

You are what you eat, and if you eat enough of them, you'll grow your own rolls!
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An old question for some new fantasy feeder folks.
8 years

Horny after a meal

I remember reading a short story where the narrator and his girlfriend enjoyed this very thing. They called it "belly-banging" as in f*cking with full bellies!

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Reviving this popular question from years back for today's fantasy feeders (and feedees).
8 years

Into rp? post your info. here!

BabyGirl2120:
Love to roleplay, I ususally don't have any preference other than if we roleplay, I wouldn't be the one to be gaining weight. I would say that I'm incredibly articulate and creative. Please message me if you're interested.

curvygirls:
Certainly am interested. You could be the one making me fat


Actually, roleplaying like this can make you fat. I've found I'm always eating while roleplaying, and the following is based on a true experience that happened when I was in the middle of a roleplay, and a button popped off my pants.

Let this serve as a cautionary tale if you are into this sort of thing.

"Tubby Temptations"
fantasyfeeder.com/stories/view

Now, I think it's time to roleplay. Let me go get something to eat first.
8 years

What ideas turn you on?

BabyGirl2120:
Hmm. What turns me on the most is the idea of having a feedee who has become the very definition of gluttony. I want their body to be proof of their unhealthy, hedonistic lifestyle. A massive belly that wobbles with every strained step they take. Thick thighs, each one about one and a half times bigger than my waist. Fat pillowy arms that restrain your from reaching around your gut. Multiple fatty chins, big plump cheeks always covered in some type of grease or food. Fat hands always grabbing for some type of snack. Plump lips, always with something places between them. Someone who is always eager to eat and please, no matter how full or fat they already are. A lazy slob who'll just lay around whilst I'm at work, playing video games and stuffing their face. I dream of a *** who'll sit infront of the fridge and eat everything in it. I'll come home and they're drinking the last of the heavy cream we have, little dribbles making their way down their fat face. As they suckle the last of the cream dorm the carton, they'll toss it to the side and look to me with pleading eyes. "Babe, I'm too fat to get up." "Babe, my tummy hurts." "Babe, I'm still hungry." "Babe, help me to bed." Each fall from their lips in rapid succession as they struggle to move from their place. Their fat little legs are pretty much useless without a help up. Their big gut flows onto their massive thighs, their thick arms rubbing their gelatinous chin and flailing at their sides. I want someone who is the epitome of gluttony and sloth. Greedy and demanding, always hungry, never willing (or able) to move. Laying down, their fat spreads around them and overtakes an entire king size bed. Their gut will still stand proudly, towering over them, a mountain of lard. They'll be massive, huge, gargantuan. I'll sleep curled up by their head each night, their arm a blanket of fat over me.


Okay.

That settles it.

You need to write some stories on here.

If you need (or want) help writing, let me know.
8 years

Lesbian feeder fic recommendations?

erlain:
saving this post for uh...reasons


Check out erlain's stories also. They fit your criteria.

I have a few as well that you might enjoy. Some are "ambiguous" gender meaning they can be lesbian/hetero/gay, male/female. Most are marked as "straight" simply because I posted before you could choose "lesbian" and ff obviously defaulted to "straight" on all these. I'll have to edit and get them all in their proper categories.

Here are the titles to check. You can find them by typing my name in Author on the story search.

"Ashley and Stephanie"
"What You Want"
"My Plans for You"
"What Shall Become of You"
"What You Want"
"Your Dreams and Mine"
"Make Love Handles, Not War"
"Sam and Leila" (one of favorites among readers)
"The Switch"
"Hot Fudge Cake"
8 years

Girlfriend wants to get immobile

alfayomega:
She will get bored before reaching such a high weight, i think


This may be right. Just agree to short-term goals for now (150 kgs first), and see how she feels as she reaches them.

I suspect once she has a few health concerns or problems, she may back off from her original idea.

Still, if you are uncertain about going to her immobility goal, express your opinion. Then, you can commit to a smaller goal, and see how things go in increments. This gives you a way out if you do not enjoy this, and it also gives her a way out.

Best to you.
8 years