Fantasy Feeder

Do chubby guys just refuse to put themselves out there due to insecurity?

Flyingservice:
I have to say yes, it's been years since I've put myself out there since I put on some weight. In my mind, until I have a good physique again it's only a matter of time before a potential partner goes out and finds just that. And nobody wants to line up to be hurt so badly ever again. I've been told you have a great dad bod, except I'm not a dad so I find it actually insulting. I often wonder if the dad bod craze is actually a form of control, knowing most likely the guy in the relationship will be looked at as less attractive and it's a form of security. It doesn't make sense, when I was younger I was very heavy before losing l25lbs, and I've seen the some people around that used to torment me talk about how it's desirable now? No shots taken at anyone, just my two cents

If your partner cannot love you when you don't look like Adonis, then that is a shallow person.

You should put yourself out there. Even if the person doesn't have a fat fetish, a lot of people either find bigger people attractive or don't mind the physique so long as they vibe with the person.

As for the dad bod thing, certain body types fall in and out of fashion over time. You see it most visibly with women, but it happens to a lesser extent with me. Right now, so-called dad bods are in as a result of the body positivity movement.

As you've experienced, thicker guys used to be considered unattractive by the main stream. Lots of people have always loved thicker guys, but the main stream wasn't a fan. Men got inspired by bigger women embracing their size, so they did the same.

Of course, as you pointed out, it's a trend. Body types fall in and out of fashion all the time. This isn't even the first time the main stream considered dad bods attractive.

Just focus on loving yourself. There will always be people who love people that look like you no matter what'a trending.

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Do chubby guys just refuse to put themselves out there due to insecurity?

Spike:
We must live in different areas? I have noticed when males get thicker their confidence grows. My roommate was 180s when i met him and was 242lbs yesterday at his physical and thinks he is the HOTTEST man on the planet and flirts with anyone of any gender, and they in turn fall all over him. Like men will hit on him in front of me xD Im still spicy about that one but I think with the acceptance and popularization of "dad bods" and "bearded chubby men', in memes especially more males around these parts LOVE being thicker and are so so so so much more confident and out there.

It really depends.

There are (and have always been) very confident chubby men. And some cultures have a lot of love for thicker men. However, there are also a lot of chubby guys who think that things would be better if they were muscular or at least slimmer.

This all boils down to patriarchy. What makes a man manly depends on the culture, but men who don't measure up are made fun of. If the guy isn't secure in himself, he'll stop putting himself out there.

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How fat would you like to be?

Hedonistic_Purity:
You can grow faster than you can handle, too ❤️

Boundandfeed:
What do you mean by handle? How is this so?[/quote]

Hedonistic_Purity is a death feeder.

1 year

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Lifting to grow strong, not only fat

RyanLarratt:
Do any of you do this?

I decided I could only continue gaining if my knees and the rest of my body stopped 'complaining'.

First I thought on quitting gaining, but then lifting weights appeared as a solution... because I DO want to gain and get bigger/fatter, but I don't want knee pain and other cholateral damage.

So there you go. How do I get fat without my body screaming in pain? I also gain muscle underneath, preferentially a lot.

Thoughts on this? Experiences?

Munchies:
I used to do this when I was a gainer. This is how I discovered I'm very bad at being a gainer and more suited for muscle than fat.

My partner is a big guy, and he's recently started working out so his body can handle higher weights.

Gotta say, too many people are sleeping on the whole fat person at the gym thing. It's a turn on like no other.

RyanLarratt:
Nice to hear that! I believe it's like a big building - without a strong metal core, it will collapse soon. Good iron beams inside the concrete make the building stable.

As for the fat person in the gym being a turn on, how so? I got curious. Turn on for the other people in the gym?

Munchies:
It's a turn on for me, specifically. The tight gym cloths, the way his fat moves, all of it.

RyanLarratt:
I guess that a confident man can go to the gym being fat and get turned on by the looks in people's faces being disgusted by his fat. Don't you?

Um ... what?

When was the last time you went to a gym? That's not how gym culture works. Like, sure, you may encounter someone snotty, but that's rare. Most people are either minding their business or are super supportive.

In fact, some of the nicest people at the gym tend to be the super muscular gym bros. They give people tips and tricks for free. Even hype you up to keep pushing through.

There's no humiliation aspect to this. I simply think my partner looks sexy when he is working out.

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Thinking about gaining

Oct0:
I’ve been into fat people for a while now and have mainly thought just about feeding, however occasionally I have toyed with the idea of getting bigger. I’m a skinny guy and am starting to get more and more turned on by the idea of growing huge. One of the main things that is stopping me is thinking about how the people around me would react. If anyone could give an opinion or advice or just chat, it would be great. Thanks

AmandaD29:
You should definitely do what makes you happy and not worry about what other people think. That's the only way you're going to find peace with yourself.

Couldn't have said it better myself. Of course, there's nothing wrong about getting an outside perspective. However, not all voices should be listened to. You have to decide for yourself what is important and what is not.

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First breakup

Casually Walking:
I honestly don’t know how to feel right now

Not that long ago, the girl I’ve been dating for over a year and I broke up. It wasn’t bad, as a matter of fact, we decided to stay friends, but I’m a little, I don’t know, confused(?) on how to proceed

I want to date again, no one wants to die alone after all, but I don’t feel like it at all again (at least for the moment), and since I recently got laid off, I’ve just been staying in my room/house all day. I don’t feel down or depressed, but I feel deflated? I guess?

It might sound a bit dumb, specially coming from a 20-something year old, but I guess I just need figure it out

Break ups suck. Doesn't matter your age or how many you've had. The best thing to do is to mourn the relationship, learn and grow from the experience, and move on when you are ready.

1 year

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How to afford my belly?

Gainingbelly369:
Hey I'm 23 and I'm wondering how you can all afford the expensive food.

For starters, only eat what you can afford. Don't try to go for those rapid gains. Instead, try to gain slowly over time. In addition to buying new food, you'll also need to buy new clothes and other things as you get bigger.

1 year

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What about men gaining weight do you like?

Ohbig:
My husband has gained about 40lbs since we met. I love that he embraces his love of food, and fully owns the belly he has grown. He doesn’t try to suck it in. It is so satisfying to watch him fall asleep on the couch with his belly sticking out through the bottom of his shirt. He also loves drifting off into a nap while I rub his big round gut. He says that me rubbing his belly simultaneously makes him hard, but also is so relaxing that it makes him want to fall asleep.

You should try rubbing two things. 🤭

1 year

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Lifting to grow strong, not only fat

RyanLarratt:
Do any of you do this?

I decided I could only continue gaining if my knees and the rest of my body stopped 'complaining'.

First I thought on quitting gaining, but then lifting weights appeared as a solution... because I DO want to gain and get bigger/fatter, but I don't want knee pain and other cholateral damage.

So there you go. How do I get fat without my body screaming in pain? I also gain muscle underneath, preferentially a lot.

Thoughts on this? Experiences?

Munchies:
I used to do this when I was a gainer. This is how I discovered I'm very bad at being a gainer and more suited for muscle than fat.

My partner is a big guy, and he's recently started working out so his body can handle higher weights.

Gotta say, too many people are sleeping on the whole fat person at the gym thing. It's a turn on like no other.

RyanLarratt:
Nice to hear that! I believe it's like a big building - without a strong metal core, it will collapse soon. Good iron beams inside the concrete make the building stable.

As for the fat person in the gym being a turn on, how so? I got curious. Turn on for the other people in the gym?

It's a turn on for me, specifically. The tight gym cloths, the way his fat moves, all of it.

1 year

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Should chat full screen mode take up the whole screen? have your say!

Hiccupx:
Should chat full screen mode take up the whole screen or leave the browser tabs visible? Which is easier to use? Give your vote below:

* Full the whole screen
or
* Leave the browser tabs visible

Browser tabs. If you full screen the chat, you'll have to take it out of full screen every time you need to toggle conversations. Since most people in chat have multiple conversations going on at once, it just makes more sense to leave the tabs.

1 year

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