Fatmanrocker:
Got you won’t do but how to you increase your capacity with it? Just eating alot or?

Munchies:
Crying shame. Society is incredibly fatphobic. If you're fat, you can only lose weight or be neutral towards your size. But the moment you try to get fat on purpose, people think you're a sick freak.

FatLime:
Yes, I actively searched for a girl who will not forbid me this fetish, but I never found her, but a large number of men were ready to fatten me, but I can not offer them anything, because heterosexual.

FatLime:
I tried to disguise my fetish by writing that I like to eat good food and lie on the couch. People without a fetish thought I was a cat and even flirted, but unfortunately few people continued to communicate when I told them it was a fetish

LoraDayton:
it may seem counterintuitive but a bit of food may help. I've had some incredible results when bloating with after after having some rice and steamed broccoli. it wasn't deliberate, I just got into... shenanigans not long after having dinner.

Munchies:
Fun fact: This is how competitive eaters increase their capacity.

Fatmanrocker:
How much rice do you eat? Cooked or non cooked?

X_Larsson:
Maybe because you are not monogamous (as your profile states)? Red flag for many men, definitely.

GreenMeansGo34:
There are plenty of non monogamous men and women out there. Non monogamy and polyamory are very common and those types of relationships are just as valid as monogamous relationships.

X_Larsson:
That does not change my statement. For the fundamental masculine personality, "charing" a woman with someone else is a BIG no.
Women are not dispositioned in the similar way. In fact, a woman can accept her man has multiple women, as that confirms his attractiveness.
Exactly what is proven by the 80-20 split in outcome of modern dating apps...
(As I must assume you refer to above "relationships", which I would have called ONS.)

Mrman1980uk:
This is inappropriately hostile. It is difficult to discern a legitimate motivation for this post or for you having replied at all.

The reality is that it's inherently very difficult for people with unusual preferences - it's difficult enough even for people without unusual preferences to find somebody truly suitable where there's also mutual attraction. Adding a single unusual preference makes this exceptionally difficult; more than one at once may make it virtually impossible. (And being non-monogamous is not a "red flag" if it's done openly and consensually: it's a lifestyle preference. It is one that many may not share, but there is no legitimate or honest basis for hostility to those for whom it is a preference).

This does not mean that people should settle for something unsatisfactory - far from it. It is better to be single than to be in a relationship for the sake of it; but it definitely helps to understand in advance the inherent difficulties that one is likely to face so as not to be disappointed when those difficulties manifest.

X_Larsson:
White knight storming in?
She asks "why there is no man for her".
TopJimmy and myself have provided two very valid reasons; no reply from her, or very few men interested in having a long term relation with a non monogamous woman.
I have never in real life heard a man expressing a preference for not being the only man in the relation.

What I have stated are FACTS, not opinions. Facts are not hostile, neither am I.
Why would I otherwise try to help her, by providing reasons?

Mrman1980uk:
No, you are an abuser. You are deliberately and dishonestly misrepresenting your own behaviour.

You are being deliberately, overtly hostile, as well you know. Being emphatic to such an extreme extent that you feel the need to write in all caps, for example, is consistent only with truly extreme hostility. Describing a niche lifestyle preference as a "red flag" (the phrase meaning, as you specifically intended it to mean, a reason to believe that the person in question is untrustworthy, rather than merely incompatible) is deliberately, overtly hostile. Describing someone pointing out your intentional abuse as "white knight storming in" is deliberately, overtly hostile.

X_Larsson:
Haha.... I am not hostile or an abuser, nor am I telling lies or "misrepresenting"!
A woman not limiting herself to one man IS a red flag for most men, feedists not excluded. If anything, the nurturing element in a feeder would probably call for a stronger one-to-one relationship, than the opposite, is my personal guess.

If she is looking for feeders open to multi partner relations, not too far away, AND with money to spend, she might have to look for a long time. She can maybe attract additional contacts with a more interesting profile, more contribution in the forum, or better pics? Let us know what she "brings to the table", no pun intended.

If anything, she could participate in this discussion?
I am sure she can express herself without the assistance of white knights?
Anyways, I sincerely hope that people her DO meet other men and women into feedism. She is not the first to realize that we are few and far between.

Nycfa:
The chief has spoken. Another thread that should be just shut down now …

LoraDayton:
Not everyone has an appetite. There are plenty of people who simply don't enjoy eating or forget to. However it may be worth looking into another cause such as neurodivergence—people with ADHD for example often struggle with remembering to eat. You may also have nutritional deficiencies that suppress your appetite.

Munchies' tips above are also useful. Make do with what you've got. Make sure you are healthy first, then worry about gain. If you decide to consult with a professional, bear in mind that a "nutritionist" is not the same as a dietician. The latter are registered, certified professionals.

LydiaFatOttter:
As someone with ADHD how do i bypass it

Yeah, I don't hate the good ones, but they know who they are.

Men who don't understand the social order and just want to gain stuff.

They also don't understand how men and women select mates in other ways, and that girls don't want the things that dudes like.

Of course, doing this with other men works out fine, to be honest, even better in hetero relationships, as they are both fully eager whenever.

Straight men acting like gay men towards women means it just won't work.

I hate it, and what's worse, those people are the ones firing off the most DMs, PMs, and replies, as they can't find someone.

Munchies:
I wouldn't say men and women necessarily choose their SOs differently. If you are socialized a certain way, you'll look for an SO like you've been raised to look for one. But if you look up how men and women choose partners, you'll find variations. And if you hang out with enough people, you'll realize there's no gender-specific guideline.

Heck, when my partner and I met, we'd planned for it to be a one-off bit of fun. But it organically grew into something more.

This boils down to a basic lack of respect and seeing women as objects instead of people.

LydiaFatOttter:
Not to go too 100% nerd on you, but there is a thing that sex plays in mate selection, but this is the wrong place for a science talk.

Also, someone like me who has seen both sides of the gender experience, there is 100% a difference.

Zarathustra:
There's very low 'supply' of real, actual feeders, demand is disproportionately high. Seems like even being fed itself is a privilege a very few experience.

LydiaFatOttter:
Sadly it is worst male feedees and it sucks for them

Munchies:
As a female feeder, I struggle to have empathy for the male feedee plight - specifically the straight ones. From where I sit, it's a problem of their own making.

Don't get me wrong. There are some genuinely good dudes out there that are out here struggling. If you're one of those, I'm not talking about you.

I can't tell you just how many times a male feedee or mutual gainer has slid into my DMs and been horrible to me. They think they're entitled to my time, body, and mind. At best, they're so desperate that they come off as creepy and clingy. At worst, I get lock-you-up-in-my-basement vibes.

Sometimes, they even come out the gate with the crazy. It was at it's worst when I was new, but most people know better than to step to me like that. But I still get the creeps when I pop into chat. They don't even back off when I tell them I'm not interested or I have a feedee boyfriend. Lots of blatant requests to be my side hoe because they want a girl with a pulse to fatten them up.

I'm a special kind of crazy, so I can handle them just fine. But your average female feeder or FA is just going to leave. It's a snake eating it's tail. They are so desperate for female feeders that they chase off the female feeders that do so up.

It's sadder when they harass the gay ones. Like, my guy. She is a lesbian. You never had a chance, to begin with.

Now, I can't speak for the gay male feedees. Someone else will have to speak for them.

LydiaFatOttter:
Yeah, I don't hate the good ones, but they know who they are.

Men who don't understand the social order and just want to gain stuff.

They also don't understand how men and women select mates in other ways, and that girls don't want the things that dudes like.

Of course, doing this with other men works out fine, to be honest, even better in hetero relationships, as they are both fully eager whenever.

Straight men acting like gay men towards women means it just won't work.

I hate it, and what's worse, those people are the ones firing off the most DMs, PMs, and replies, as they can't find someone.

LydiaFatOttter:
but what i mean is ive been at 270lbs yet i keep getting bigger.

i dont think im losing muscle tho