Shower wands are amazing, and I think that everyone should have them no matter the size.

Adding onto the chafing thing, there's a lot of different products out there to help. Lotions, creams, anti-chafing bands. I've got big thighs, so my go too is wearing bike shorts and/or using an anti-chafing stick.

Lol! Yes, my good sir. Cheese.

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I have no idea where you acquired this opinion. Is this about my simile about fine china and paper plates? Allow me then to explain: Fine china represents something that is valuable and treated with care, making sure that your actions don't damage it because it is irreplaceable. Paper plates are something you use once and throw away, without the need or desire to care what that does to the plate. The meaning of the simile was the exact opposite of what you claim. It means that each woman is an irreplaceable individual that should be treated with care, not as an object to be disposed of whenever it is convenient.



Fair point, but if by "contribute" you mean placing my personal details and pictures on a public forum, then I disagree.



Hence my opinion that they should not be placing their pictures or information on a public website. And if they felt pressured into doing so, they should reconsider, as there are people like me out there that don't require that in order to consider them someone of worth.



It's odd that you will listen to me because I am "classy", but you will not listen to Lora because you perceive her not to be. The tone someone writes or speaks in does not negate the validity of their statement.

Since you are either struggling to read or are being deliberately obtuse, let me restate what she said more clearly.

She did not say, "your opinion is invalid," as you are taking it to be. She is saying that you are speaking on something as an authority that you do not fully comprehend.

You say you work in cybersecurity. How often do you speak to people - professionally and personally - that give you suggestions about how to do your job? I'd assume it to be quite often if you are like any of the IT and cybersecurity people I know. And if that is the case, I'd assume that you would find it annoying or aggravating, depending on the situation.

It's the same concept.

Also, it's rather foolish of you to say, "you only know what's on my profile," when someone draws conclusions based on what you told us about yourself. Why are you upset that people are taking you at your word?

And finally, I will restate why everyone is taking issue with your statements. You portray yourself as a 53-year-old man who inserts himself into places he knows will be sexual. You admit to regularly going to Mari Gras in two different states and thinking to yourself, "These women wouldn't need to be sexually promiscuous if they had someone like me to treat them right." Your first post after being on this site for two days is to tell women to cover up.

You objectify and infantilize women. We do not like it. Please treat us like people and not like like precious objects. Thank you.

@Munchies:

*sips coffee - a superior beverage to tea in any known metric *


You have a valid point. I obviously misread some of the dynamic here and I may be on the wrong site for what I'm looking for. Do you have any suggestions for alternative social sites?


Everyone's self worth is tied up in their sexual expression. That's just human nature. But I acknowledge your point. I just expressed a possible scenario where some of the women here (men too, I assume, just to show my inclusive nature) feel pressured to post pics, and are scared to express their opinions on the subject. I think the reaction I got speaks to the accuracy of my supposition.


I do not hide my attraction to bigger women. Everyone who knows me at all well knows I like how bigger women look. I certainly do not consider it a "shameful secret", as many of the people here seem to assume.



If you want to make internet friends without the sexual nature, you can go to any social media platform and make friends based on your non-sexual interests. If you want to make friends based on your sexual interests, don't be shocked if you encounter people being sexual. That's just common sense.

For some people, their sexual expression is tied to their self-worth. However, this is not the case for everyone. I also find it curious that you take issue with the women expressing their sexual nature and not any other gender. Why is it wrong for women to embrace their sexual nature but not anyone else?

The reason everyone is piling on you is that you're slut-shaming.

As to you being open or not about liking bigger women, I was not talking about you specifically. If you re-read the section, I said that it was in response to another user saying that men who do not have a picture of themselves are often shamed by their sexual inclinations.

I was making a general statement about how I empathize with people who do not have a picture of themselves. I then made another general statement about how there are men out there who are ashamed of their sexual inclinations do exist. In other words, I was adding nuance to the topic. And I find it curious that you latched onto that topic the way you did. Either you lack reading comprehension or this *does* apply to you.

I also want to remind you that no one here knows you. We can only go by what you present to us - which isn't making you look good.

It's nice that you are showing skeevy men irl what's what. However, that doesn't do anyone a hill of beans if you are perpetuating a misogynistic mindset online. You came to a fetish website and told women to cover up. Do you realize how silly that sounds?

To answer your question about why people on here like me but do not like you, it has everything to do with our approach.

You slut-shame women and say "Leave those skeevy men alone. I'll treat you better." You're a Nice Guy. No one likes a Nice Guy.

Meanwhile, I'm not looking for anyone. I have a partner I talk about all the time, and he also has an account here. When I'm being horny, I'm talking about this fetish or my partner.

In addition, I'm pretty well-known and well-liked on this site. I mostly post advice, talk about my experiences, and offer general encouragement. The only time I say something that upsets people is when I am pushing back against things such as misogyny, homophobia, transphobia, racism, abusive behaviors, etc.

As a stalking survivor, I do hold some empathy for people who don't post pics of themselves online.

That being said, you are 100% right about guys who are sexually attracted to big women but treat them as a dirty secret.

*sips tea*

You're on a fetish site, man. This is like going into Burger King and getting mad they sell burgers.

Have you considered that maybe these women post these pictures because they like doing this? That maybe their sexual expression isn't tied to their self worth?

If you *really* want to be productive, turn your ire to the skeevy men you mentioned earlier.

It is a sport that requires commitment, but isn't that the case for most sports if you want to do well?

Self love for the win!