Lifestyle contrast

Tentacles:
How different is your lifestyle to that of your feedee/feeder. Can difference in lifestyle between feeder and feedee be just as sexy as the weight gain/body contrast element?


Initially, my partner and I had very different lifestyles. I was the active one that ate healthily, and he was not. I was more of a homebody that liked to go out exploring, and he liked to hang out with friends.

I found it all more amusing than necessarily sexy.

Now our lifestyles are more similar. I get out more, and he is being more active.
1 year

Body fat distribution

Hungrybear:
Is there a way to predict how your fat will be distributed on your body once you become obese?


Look at your fat relative and see how they gain. Mind you, that is no guarantee as you might turn out different. But it will give you an idea.
1 year

Fattening boyfriend

Angy523:
Sometimes I think my bf is in denial. For instance, today he wanted to buy a t-shirt. He is one size bigger than he used to be, but he still tries the old size first when he wants to buy clothes. But today he didn't only took the old size to try, he also asked me if he should try one size smaller (before he put the t-shirt on so he didn't know how it will fit). I was shoked. After trying it, his old size was clearly too small, so a size smaller wouldn't fit him for sure. Even the t-shirt his current size was a little tight so I didn't understand why he asked me if he should try a smaller size than his old size.

And no, he doesn't think he lost weight or smth like this. He actually told me yesterday that he think his belly got bigger and he asked me if I think the same.


He might be in denial or he might be teasing you. It's very hot when a feedee purposefully wears too tight clothing.
1 year

Fattening boyfriend

Angy523:
We went to vacation for those days. I'm wondering how much he will gain until we get back home. I can tell we're both eating more since I feel full all the time and he's eating much more than me.

Munchies:
Sounds like you two are loving life. Do you still mind gaining weight too? Or have you grown indifferent?

Angy523:
I don't mind gaining a little during vacation if I'll lose it after. But I still don't feel good about getting fatter.


Hey, ain't nothing wrong with that. If you guys are living your best lives, that's all I could ever hope for.
1 year

Dissonance between fetish and romantic life

ForeverFFA:
Does anyone else experience the issue where they repeatedly form intense romantic bonds with people who just aren't their type sexually? If so, how do you deal? The problem isn't about being ashamed of finding fat people attractive, but that it would feel terrible to dismiss someone who is amazing to me in almost every other way except that one.

Munchies:
It's not that hard. Don't be shallow and find things about them you find attractive.

ForeverFFA:
Fair. But my issue isn't the will to find other things about them attractive: my fetish is frustratingly hard-wired, to the point where I struggle to get in the mood from anything else. It's been a conversation that I've mostly avoided in past relationships like that out of awkwardness (and not wanting anyone to feel like they had to change for me), so I just went along with things I didn't enjoy.


If this fetish is so important to you, then either you communicate your needs with your partner or you can exclusively go after fellow kinksters.

If you want to get sexual pleasure outside of feedism, see a sex therapist.
1 year

Dissonance between fetish and romantic life

ForeverFFA:
Does anyone else experience the issue where they repeatedly form intense romantic bonds with people who just aren't their type sexually? If so, how do you deal? The problem isn't about being ashamed of finding fat people attractive, but that it would feel terrible to dismiss someone who is amazing to me in almost every other way except that one.


It's not that hard. Don't be shallow and find things about them you find attractive.
1 year

Boyfriend becoming hostile towards my weight gain

Krayjay:
Have you thought about trying to bring him into your fetish? Find a way to make it erotic for him too? Maybe something simple like chocolates during sex, getting excited when he grabs your softer spots ect


I don't think this would help in this situation. The problem isn't so much the fetish as it is he isn't respecting her as a person. It would be one thing if he wasn't jiving with the fetish but still treated her the way she should be treated. Alas, this is not the case.
1 year

Adjusting

Gettingbigger:
I just hit 300 pounds after being 268 in March. My new partner wants me to continue gaining but I’d like to adjust to my new size.

How long should I ask for?


There's no set number, really. Just maintain until it feels right for you. Maybe slowly gain after your break, but only if you feel up to it.

Remember, no matter what your feeder wants, you have the final say. It's your body. You have to live in it 24/7. If your partner cannot respect that, then you need to move on.
1 year

Boyfriend becoming hostile towards my weight gain

Miachu:
just want to say a big thank you to everyone for the kind words and support

Me and my boyfriend have decided to give each other some space to reflect on how wee feel ect. I'm taking it in my stride and aren't going to get myself down about it


We are all rooting for you. I hope you have the best possible outcome.
1 year

Fattening boyfriend

Angy523:
We went to vacation for those days. I'm wondering how much he will gain until we get back home. I can tell we're both eating more since I feel full all the time and he's eating much more than me.


Sounds like you two are loving life. Do you still mind gaining weight too? Or have you grown indifferent?
1 year