I agree that both psych and physical force have appeal, for me it just depends on which button I need pushed. The concept of physical forcefeeding (whether realistic or fantasy) usually satisfies the aversion I have to not gaining weight; that there is absolutely no way I can prevent it.

When it's psychological/social, that tends the satisfy the part of me that wants to give in and be stuffed and/or stuff myself with abandon, but again it's mostly about what the feeder wants to accomplish.

Acts that I would consider psychological force-feeding are manipulation ("I made these just for you! Are you going to let them go to waste?" "I noticed you really liked this recipe so I made a dozen!" "Oh I'm finished, here, have the rest of my plate." or conditioning, such as just always having snacks/drinks on hand and rewarding not just went I eat but over-eat, finishing with lots of fun sexytimes when I reach my absolute limits, etc. Another particular favorite is to be given a time test, such as to eat continuously for an entire hour or have a certain window to finish a meal.

(Blackmail is also a hot button for me but that's a whole different topic, really!)

It's still my choice to put the food in my mouth (or have it BE put in my mouth and I eat it) but definitely to satisfy the feeders' desires. For me personally the feedism is about a full stomach and giving up control to someone, as I'm very much in control of the rest of my daily life.

I love that look! When someone just started putting it on or lost a lot of weight and has leftovers.

I used to weigh 285 and lost 130lbs, I love it because I've got the best of both worlds...tons of squish but most wouldn't know it immediately looking at me.

No not really. I wasn't super into feeding/wg at the time, just a little. I didn't recognize it in full until we broke up.

Once I also had a very good friend confess that she loved watching people eat right as I was scarfing down a meal after a long drive on little food. It was an interesting conversation and I immediately wondered if she was hiding something from me but if she had a thing for it then she doesn't now, and I wouldn't have pursued it anyway as I enjoyed our friendship too much.

I'm pretty sure my first girlfriend was a bit of a feeder. Subtle things, like always recommending food to me, ordering "too many" extra appetizers at restaurants, and literally always had warm fresh cookies for me when I went to her house (and I was hidden from her mom bc of homophbia, so they were definitely for me). I was also a lot larger at the time and she was totally gaga over my body. I didn't fully understand it til later but there you go.

LGBT inclusivity again - separate forum.

and also an OKCupid-like feature that makes me invisible to an unwanted audience (i.e. "I don't want straight males to see my profile". It CAN be done, but it isn't. I would be willing to pay for this feature.

In that sense I'm not worried about catfish since most of them are easy to spot anyway.

I haven't gone through the rest of this thread, but I did recently realize that I may have dealt with an ED when I was younger. I'm not particularly upset by it, and in fact it eased a lot of anxiety for me I have about my current health situation.

For context, I used to weigh 285+ lbs and when Iw as 17/18 I started losing weight, to the tune of 130lbs. For the majority of the audience here, that's definitely a tragedy, lol, but at the outset I just wanted to take care of myself and had no goal or even purpose to lose weight...I just wanted to feel good physically. It just happened to come off and I truly felt great and so I kept with it.

TL;DR the past year I have put on about 20ish lbs and it's wreaked havoc on me in many ways. A couple of weeks ago, dealing with something else mostly unrelated, I had an epiphany about my eating habits when I was younger and what influenced them and I can't believe no one recognized what was going on at the time. I'm still waiting for certain things to happen (mainly, money, I just started a new jo so I can figure out precisely what the issue was and how it affects me now, because I know there's some stuff "left over"

The interesting upside is that figuring all this out has eased a lot, not all, but much of the stress and conflict I feel about the gain I put back on recently.

And the rest is still in development!


/cool story bro

back in the day ff.net used to have an LGBT specific forum and then merged it with personals. I disagreed with the move but obviously was not my call. We need dedicated space. In a perfect world I'd built a site along the same lines for LGBT but for now, threads like these will have to do

what? I think I have missed this thread! But heeyyooooooo fluffy lesbian here at your service

saving this post for uh...reasons

This.

Kaity, your body is yours. If you think you are fat, that is your identity alone. You know what is fat for you and not for others. Womens bodies are not for anyone else to police or judge--even if that is meant to be appreciated, it doesn't matter...autonomy, consent, and identity are still important.

I call myself a fatty even though I am, by and large, just average size with a lot of squishiness. Sure in the bbw-loving world I don't register to the "accepted" norm, but it's a state of mind and all about relativity.