If I were both straight and in a position to commit it'd be great! That's all right up my alley. Alas.

Good luck though, I know there some "baby" feedees out there just getting started. I'm sure you'll find the right one!

I live in LA! I'm busy for awhile but might have some time before Christmas. Not a feeder by trade but will sometimes switch for people I get to know. Feel free to inbox me!

I agree that both psych and physical force have appeal, for me it just depends on which button I need pushed. The concept of physical forcefeeding (whether realistic or fantasy) usually satisfies the aversion I have to not gaining weight; that there is absolutely no way I can prevent it.

When it's psychological/social, that tends the satisfy the part of me that wants to give in and be stuffed and/or stuff myself with abandon, but again it's mostly about what the feeder wants to accomplish.

Acts that I would consider psychological force-feeding are manipulation ("I made these just for you! Are you going to let them go to waste?" "I noticed you really liked this recipe so I made a dozen!" "Oh I'm finished, here, have the rest of my plate." or conditioning, such as just always having snacks/drinks on hand and rewarding not just went I eat but over-eat, finishing with lots of fun sexytimes when I reach my absolute limits, etc. Another particular favorite is to be given a time test, such as to eat continuously for an entire hour or have a certain window to finish a meal.

(Blackmail is also a hot button for me but that's a whole different topic, really!)

It's still my choice to put the food in my mouth (or have it BE put in my mouth and I eat it) but definitely to satisfy the feeders' desires. For me personally the feedism is about a full stomach and giving up control to someone, as I'm very much in control of the rest of my daily life.

I love that look! When someone just started putting it on or lost a lot of weight and has leftovers.

I used to weigh 285 and lost 130lbs, I love it because I've got the best of both worlds...tons of squish but most wouldn't know it immediately looking at me.

No not really. I wasn't super into feeding/wg at the time, just a little. I didn't recognize it in full until we broke up.

Once I also had a very good friend confess that she loved watching people eat right as I was scarfing down a meal after a long drive on little food. It was an interesting conversation and I immediately wondered if she was hiding something from me but if she had a thing for it then she doesn't now, and I wouldn't have pursued it anyway as I enjoyed our friendship too much.

I'm pretty sure my first girlfriend was a bit of a feeder. Subtle things, like always recommending food to me, ordering "too many" extra appetizers at restaurants, and literally always had warm fresh cookies for me when I went to her house (and I was hidden from her mom bc of homophbia, so they were definitely for me). I was also a lot larger at the time and she was totally gaga over my body. I didn't fully understand it til later but there you go.

LGBT inclusivity again - separate forum.

and also an OKCupid-like feature that makes me invisible to an unwanted audience (i.e. "I don't want straight males to see my profile". It CAN be done, but it isn't. I would be willing to pay for this feature.

In that sense I'm not worried about catfish since most of them are easy to spot anyway.

I haven't gone through the rest of this thread, but I did recently realize that I may have dealt with an ED when I was younger. I'm not particularly upset by it, and in fact it eased a lot of anxiety for me I have about my current health situation.

For context, I used to weigh 285+ lbs and when Iw as 17/18 I started losing weight, to the tune of 130lbs. For the majority of the audience here, that's definitely a tragedy, lol, but at the outset I just wanted to take care of myself and had no goal or even purpose to lose weight...I just wanted to feel good physically. It just happened to come off and I truly felt great and so I kept with it.

TL;DR the past year I have put on about 20ish lbs and it's wreaked havoc on me in many ways. A couple of weeks ago, dealing with something else mostly unrelated, I had an epiphany about my eating habits when I was younger and what influenced them and I can't believe no one recognized what was going on at the time. I'm still waiting for certain things to happen (mainly, money, I just started a new jo so I can figure out precisely what the issue was and how it affects me now, because I know there's some stuff "left over"

The interesting upside is that figuring all this out has eased a lot, not all, but much of the stress and conflict I feel about the gain I put back on recently.

And the rest is still in development!


/cool story bro

back in the day ff.net used to have an LGBT specific forum and then merged it with personals. I disagreed with the move but obviously was not my call. We need dedicated space. In a perfect world I'd built a site along the same lines for LGBT but for now, threads like these will have to do

what? I think I have missed this thread! But heeyyooooooo fluffy lesbian here at your service