Brilliant!

You can certainly tell him you prefer him bigger, without admitting the feeding part. That might really *help* him feel better about his gain. And if it doesn't, well at least he isn't thinking about losing because he thinks it might affect you.

Me: happy; short; sharp wit; fat; passionate about life and ideas. You: love ample women; are rarely bored; love ideas, hate injustice. 30+ (40+ preferred) Together we'll shape something lovely and cling-free and full of giggles.

I know just what you mean. I've had various versions of this several times, including one guy with whom I started a relationship, he fell off the face of the planet, reappeared many months later all apologetic, and did it again at some point. Bah.

I think people think the internet and distances are excuses not to say what they're feeling or feel responsible to each other for basic courtesy. Sad.

But all we can do is keep trying. Unless we look like Mark, in which case I guess you just walk out the door, as he says