Fantasy Feeder

Long time feeder thinking about becoming a feedee

FAsasquatch:
Ok, been big all my life, been a feeder all my life, and I’ve always told myself that I want to make my partner gain, but not me that’s not my thing. However ngl, I had an encounter a while back with a mutual, and I liked it…not like a ton, but it was kinda hot the way she complimented me and kept checking to make sure I was eating lol 😂 however I don’t really fantasize about gaining at all. A couple years ago I lost like 40 pounds while doing keto and working out, but this past year I moved, got a desk job, lost interest in the gym, started ordering out a lot, and had to get on some medication that really increased my appetite and all that combined made me gain back all the weight and then some 😅 and I’ll be honest, I don’t really mind it. Like it doesn’t turn me on or anything, but I like eating way too much fast food, I like eating what I want, I even kinda like my bigger belly if I’m being honest. I wouldn’t say I’m a feedee or a gainer really, but definitely a foodie, I love food and I don’t mind what it does to my body.

When I was a kid I used to pad my clothes and pretend I was fatter, and back then I also would sneak downstairs sometimes and try to stuff myself and weigh myself after not realizing it takes time to gain weight lol 😂 until ofc my dad yelled at me about it for eating too much and ever since then weight gain for myself has been a touchy subject for me 😅 my family is kinda fatphobic and my dad would constantly bash my weight growing up and tell me I need to lose weight. I became obsessed with weight loss more than a few times in my life 😅 for a while I would sometimes even skip meals and lay in bed at night starving, knowing that if I ate before I went to bed the calories would turn into body fat. I’m realizing now that maybe I deeply repressed a part of this kink because of my childhood.

I don’t know maybe I’m a mutual and never knew it 😅

I'm sorry you had to deal with that growing up. You didn't deserve that.

You're an adult now. I suppose now would be a good time to explore.

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Small but a little in trouble

Belgian_feeder:
If you love health issues you should just stay that way. If you love staying inside and being lazy and stuff your face all day you should just do that. Just do whatever the f*** you love and be happy. Life is short, enjoy it while you can!

I do not think you read what OP was asking about very well.

And to OP, you can enjoy both your fetish and your more physical interests as well. It's all about balance.

1 year

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Humiliate me

Jayvitro94:
Shut the fuck up 😂 obviously no one is going to hurt anyone else. Stop trying to look like a good dude on a fucken fetish sight. 😂 clearly that would be rape, not into that and obviously never gonna even meet the person my initial text was for.

If you didn't mean what you said, then why did you say it? There is worlds difference between expressing a fantasy and expressing harmful desires towards a party that did not consent. That's creepy. What was even the point of that?

And before you say I don't know what I am talking about or I'm being too sensitive, I am a sadist domme feeder. I have had multiple subs in the past, and am dating my current one. I know what I am talking about and I am very good at what I do.

I find it quite telling that when I called you out on your creepy behavior, your response was to tell me to shut up and that there is no need to be a good person on a fetish site. This tells me that you do not see your fellow community members as people. Instead, you see us as people to jerk off to.

It saddens me to see that you don't understand the only way for people to explore their sexuality is if they feel safe and comfortable to do so. Comments like yours run off the very users you are attracted to. If you can't refrain from being creepy to be a good person, refrain from being creepy to serve your long-term interests.

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Need relationship advice

Casually Walking:
I'm not entirely sure if this is the right place for this topic, but I feel like it fits best. Please tell me if it goes elsewhere, thank you

I've (23M) been dating my gf (22F) for just a little over a year, and I don't want to lose this

Anyway, not too long ago sex came up, and I've never really been interested in it. Total shocker, I know, active in a fetish site but have no interest on even nudity, let alone sex

My problem comes with her being completely set on never changing for anyone. I'm not interested in sex, but for her, it's a 'requirement' for a healthy relationship. Now I'm expected to change and like/want sex, but she doesn't seem to want to change anything about herself for me. No 'I'll scratch your back, and you mine' or anything

I don't really know what to do because I'm pretty sure I love her, I love spending time with her, but I also despise hypocrisy

I want to talk to her about it, but I don't know how to put it into words without sounding accusatory

What should I do? How should I say it?

Dablublub is right. You need to have a conversation.

Also, please understand that while you may not need to have sex (or even like sex) others do. And it's to varying degrees.

I have a high sex drive. Most people can do it a few times a week and be happy. I need it at least once a day - preferably multiple times a day. And that's just how things are.

My boyfriend, bless him, has a normal sex drive. But we work together and compromise so that way I can be sexually fulfilled and he isn't overwhelm him.

Also, from what you have said, I am not seeing where she did anything wrong. You call her a hypocrite. How was she a hypocrite? You say she isn't changing for you. How do you expect her to change?

I understand you are sex repulsed, but for people who have sex in an intimate relationship, sex isn't transactional. Yes, it feels good. But its also a way to form and strengthen emotional bonds.

You sound like a sex-repulsed asexual. Or at least you sound like most of the other sex-repulsed asexuals that are in my life. Some of them like to participate in kink, but find the whole sex thing to be kinda gross.

It is possible to have a fulfilling romantic life as a sex-repulsed ace, however, it requires you to make your needs and wants known to the other party and both parties need to find a compromise of the other person wants to have sex.

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Soft feedism suggestions

Milhause:
My spouse knows I’m a FA/feeder but doesn’t share the kink which is fine. She doesn’t gain intentionally but she does eat whatever she wants and has always been overweight.

Up til now the most she’s indulged is some belly play but only when we’re intimate. She mentioned the other day she’d be open to trying some lighter stuff but my brain froze in the moment when she asked for suggestions.

What are some softer feedism things I can float? I thought maybe suggesting clothes that are a size too small but she’s also slowly accepting her body and I don’t want to push anything too fast.

Making her a big breakfast in bed followed by belly rubs.

Body worship

Wearing clothes that show off her fat in private or the bedroom.

1 year

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Soft feedism suggestions

Milhause:
My spouse knows I’m a FA/feeder but doesn’t share the kink which is fine. She doesn’t gain intentionally but she does eat whatever she wants and has always been overweight.

Up til now the most she’s indulged is some belly play but only when we’re intimate. She mentioned the other day she’d be open to trying some lighter stuff but my brain froze in the moment when she asked for suggestions.

What are some softer feedism things I can float? I thought maybe suggesting clothes that are a size too small but she’s also slowly accepting her body and I don’t want to push anything too fast.

Making her a big breakfast in bed followed by belly rubs.

Body worship

Wearing clothes that show off her fat in private or the bedroom.

1 year

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Body dysmorphia

MartinChap:
Hi everyone,
I just got out of a session with my therapist. I've been talking to her about a fat fetish and trying to get a grip on it. I've always felt extremely conflicted with this fetish, never certain what to do about it - do I gain or lose or try to be muscular?
She was asking me about my confusions, and after some questions, she told me I probably have body dysmorphia.
I was a bit surprised, but I think it makes sense. I've always felt very unhappy with myself. I've known since about the age of 2 I want to be fat, but also felt extremely worried by people's opinions and judgments, notably those of my parents.
When watching films and television, I feel jealous of the men who are fit, tall, and gorgeous. I consider myself good-looking, but I also feel like I'm not good enough. Like I can do better and should feel bad for not being better.
My parents are very mean to fat people. I have some friends who have made it their business to tell me I should work out more so I can be more muscular. Being a very sensitive person, it really is no surprise I've developed this anxiety around my appearance.
My therapist is great and encouraged me to be kind to myself, something I don't tend to do! I'm hoping I can work through this situation and learn to feel more confident.

I am recovering from body dysmorphia. I'm not 100%, but I am soooo much better than I was.

I tend to see myself as smaller than I really am. I used to be underweight, and hated every minute of it. I would *obsess* about my weight to the point that it started to mirror an eating disorder.

The first step to recovery, for me, was weighing myself less. I'd weigh myself some days up to 10 times a day. I scaled it back to once after every meal, then once a day, once a week, and now I weight myself a few times a month now.

I also started to focus more on just enjoying my food and not obsessively trying to eat the most calorie laden thing. (I remember trying to drink oil. All it did was make me feel gross.) I even stopped obsessing over my exercise regime. I worked out as much as I chose to work out and not a rep more. And I only did the workouts that I decided to do.

I'm a lot happier than I used to be. I still have weird thoughts sometimes, but I can ignore them with ease. It took me a few years to get to this point, but if I can do it, so can you.

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Fat shamed

Morbidly A Beast:
Some people need to put others down to feel better I guess that’s what happens when you ruin your marriage with 5 kids from drinking.. all the sisters were gymnasts and my friend wrestled with me, all to this day are tiny I suppose there’s image issues there looking back at it.

I guess it makes sense when it’s agreed on, not much different than pet naming but to just be fat shamed like I was and get off on it, god bless ya more power to ya.

It's very gross. I've never been fat, but I've been fat shamed. I used to be underweight. When I put on 5 lbs and move to the low end of normal for my height, my family went OFF.

The weirdest part it is was 5 lbs of muscle, not fat. And I think I looked better for it.

Fat forward to today, and I'm even more muscular. I'm not shredded, so I have some curves as well (no belly, horny boys). Most would call me athletically thick. Yet I still get comments from family members about how I should "reduce" myself. These are, of course, the same family members that rely on my strength.

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Humiliate me

Jayvitro94:
Sounds amazing 😍 is see you me, a chair, some rope, a button up shirt so I can see that distended gut, and a safe word that I may or may not ignore in your future 🤷

Bro, the safe word is sacred. If you can't respect the safe word, then you shouldn't be doing anything that requires a safe word.

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Fat shamed

Frogman:
It’s an unfortunate reality that fat shaming is still considered acceptable by many people. I remember at a young age seeing one of my heavy classmates taunted at school; I thought people ganging up on him like that was cowardly and pathetic. We became good friends, and he turned out to be a gifted genius.

The first and only time I’ve been directly shamed for my weight was at my father’s funeral, of all places. It’s just not the kind of thing one easily forgets, because it’s so insanely insensitive and hurtful.

People can be cruel. It doesn't help that a lot of people think that fat shaming is ethical bullying. In their pea brains, if they fat shame someone, it will inspire them to "shape up". Which doesn't make any kind of sense.

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