Bigdoug:
My priorities and interests and desires have changed too with getting fatter. A lit more of my life and efforts and wants and needs revolve around food these days.

Munchies:
Glad you are having fun, but I'd be careful making food your priority in most aspects of your life.

I had a feedee that was into extreme weight gain (like I am) and decided to get fat no matter the cost. Went from being a pretty chill guy to a man that pretty much worshipped the gains at all cost.

He was a pretty smart guy at first, but I noticed after he switched to a diet of heavy cream and fast foods, he got dumb real fast. He was missing huge swaths of necessary nutrients, and I couldn't get him to eat better.

Then other aspects of his professional and personal life started getting hit by his choices. I left him when it became clear he was too addicted to change.

So yeah. Have fun with the gains, but be mindful.

BigBallBellyGirl:
Agree with Munchies here. There's definitely nothing inherently "bad" about rearranging your priorities to gain, but it's important to understand A LOT will change. When I decided to regain some lost weight, I was obsessed with it. I was eating and snacking all day, every day, and if I wasn't putting food in my face, I was too bloated to function, existing in a stupor almost. Ultimately, I couldn't concentrate well while working from home, didn't want to clean, and didn't want to go anywhere unless it was to eat. While in theory that was fine (and I did pack on 100 pounds in five months), it became all there was to my life. Again, not inherently bad and certainly a personal choice, but I found I had to be more realistic. Still gaining by the way-- ten to fifteen pounds a month, which some might consider a lot -- and still eating tons of food, just had to reestablish some balance. I said that all to say, there's some merit in checking in with yourself along your journey to make sure what you're doing is still bringing you joy.

Traveler:
as a man, i suffer from that. in men this is not really appreciated

Munchies:
Speak for yourself. I love my partner's chunky thighs and legs.

Traveler:
I am happy for you two but I experience it differently

Traveler:
as a man, i suffer from that. in men this is not really appreciated

SubbiChubbiCharli31:
Hey everyone, so the site is working but suddenly I can't chat, it's just a blank white page. Anyone know why? If you do, send me a letter or something lol

ILoveMath:
Has anyone ever met up with someone on here and either became irl friends or became a relationship?

Delta9:
Why is it that even with body positivity and size acceptance becoming mainstream that feedism is still seen as bad by most, even regular fat people who don't share the fetish?
My opinion:
1. Encouraging fat gain is seen as encouraging someone to be more unhealthy. Almost like saying, "I only love you because you're an alcoholic". Substance abuse being analogous to food abuse. And most people see alcoholism as very self destructive. And many people see size acceptance as promoting the person's psychological health by ignoring the cost to their physical health.
2. It's almost the opposite of body positivity/acceptance, because it's saying we want someone to change the way their body already is to please us. It would be one thing to say someone is fat and I love them or like their body that way, but saying someone is thin and to please me they need to change their body by becoming fat is obviously not acceptance. I think to people outside this community, it feels very much like using the other person by projecting our desires onto them and expecting it to manifest in a physical way. Taking control of the feedee's own body and body image away from them.

I think the biggest disconnect in all this is not understanding or believing why someone would want to be or change to become fat. But we know that people actively go on weight loss programs all the time. They want to change their bodies. And promoting that is totally fine (in the mainstream). Yet promoting or helping someone go the opposite direction (to get fat) is bad. So it's obvious that being a healthy happy thin person is still not seen as equal to being a healthy happy fat person.

Angy523:
Update:

- we started doing sport together (not much), but he also started drinking more soda because of the heat and he gained more weight

- I actually CAN'T believe I lived the day when he called me on video because he ate too much and he wanted me to see how he plays with his belly

- his mother saw him after a long time and he told him his belly got too big. He just said "very good". I really didn't expect that