Admirer63:
Don't put politics in feederism, it has nothing to do with it.
Society is like that, being fat will never be a focus because it is bad for health and it is considered unsightly by most people, and that's why I'm involved in feederism is the desire to go the other way.

FrecherTyp:
My you have so matching thoughts to my own but I must admit although I would love like crazy to get to know you....because of all of your discriptions alone, I would so enjoy to see exactly a girl like you gain (if we meet or are together or are in love with each other) just a few lazy pounds while you are with me. As you start realizing how I get even more aroused about you gaining for me you start to devise an sweet/evil plan to fatten me up using bet, games fitness competitions and using all smart and sexy fattening ways to trick me thinking of you like a sweet naive harmless little girl that fattens up so easily because I am such a genious secret feeder on you. With always pretending in our fitness competitions to be so exausted you only barely win whilst just adjusting your performance to my fitness level.
All those last weeks where you started to give me more and more beer in the evenings and always holding donuts, other deliscious snacks and shakes in your beautiful hands (me still thinking you still can´t stop snacking and ate all those snacks yourself and just feeding me the little rest while only putting the outaken bits in later to feed them to me, too. After having me made aroused enough you make sure I get in a food coma and sleep while you go down and train like your old self while I digest the food.
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haha sorry I am just a little drunk and ranting too many thoughts...lol a happy New Year to every one

Munchies:
That's a little weird, man. She said she's into staying trim while her partner gets fat. Not mutual gaining.

You should probably not post while drunk.

FrecherTyp:
yes you are right ...but I just wanted to well let who ever reads this know how easy it would be for a fit slim girl to hmmm...let´s say entice me in a way I think nothing other can ^^

Petitegirl:
I don’t know if some feeders here agree with me. I also experience it in real life in my friendgroup a lot: women that are so thoughtful of their own diet/excercise regime while they complete ignore that their partner is getting fat/are fattening him on purpose! Have you experienced that too?

I personally know that I am a feeder, super attracted to fat men and making them fatter. But sometimes I think it is crazy what different kind of standarts/rules I have for myself. For me it is really important so stay super skinny and fit, to workout everyday, be super active/healthy etc. The food i am cooking/preparing and feeding to others I would never touch. Also I would never want a partner to be as active/sporty. I want to make sure that they can be as lazy as possible (for example I would always get up to bring whatever).
And weirdly enough I also like if a partner checks that I am keeping my figure. For example that he would touch my stomach to make sure there is not a single bit of fat or that in a restaurant he would tell me to stop eating and than finish my portion.

FrecherTyp:
My you have so matching thoughts to my own but I must admit although I would love like crazy to get to know you....because of all of your discriptions alone, I would so enjoy to see exactly a girl like you gain (if we meet or are together or are in love with each other) just a few lazy pounds while you are with me. As you start realizing how I get even more aroused about you gaining for me you start to devise an sweet/evil plan to fatten me up using bet, games fitness competitions and using all smart and sexy fattening ways to trick me thinking of you like a sweet naive harmless little girl that fattens up so easily because I am such a genious secret feeder on you. With always pretending in our fitness competitions to be so exausted you only barely win whilst just adjusting your performance to my fitness level.
All those last weeks where you started to give me more and more beer in the evenings and always holding donuts, other deliscious snacks and shakes in your beautiful hands (me still thinking you still can´t stop snacking and ate all those snacks yourself and just feeding me the little rest while only putting the outaken bits in later to feed them to me, too. After having me made aroused enough you make sure I get in a food coma and sleep while you go down and train like your old self while I digest the food.
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haha sorry I am just a little drunk and ranting too many thoughts...lol a happy New Year to every one

X_Larsson:
Thank you for the reply.
Background? Fair question...
When entering a potential long term "normal" relationship, the partners might ask themselves if they (realistically) could find a better spouse than they have right now. They can keep on looking, or "settle" for the one they have, with some shortcomings. It could be that the partner is not ideal physically, a bit lazy, or does not share as many interests etc.
However, we expect the couple to have VARIATIONS of the same, "normal" sexual preferences.

For the "unmatching couples", feeder + non feedee, it is not the same. FA and feeder are not variations on a theme, they are conceptully different. Same with BBW vs feedee. There are SO MANY bigger women that really just want to be thin, or at least unaffected by their calorie intake. However, many feedees want to actively gain, never lose weight.

So why should these "unmatching couples" even get together? Are these people sexually happy? Both of them? If not, what happens?

Tentacles:
What others do people here have?

Munchies:
To be clear, feedism is technically just about feeding. Still, there are a lot of ancillary kinks as well as some unrelated, but still common kinks a lot of feedists share. I don't have all of these fetishes, but off the top of my head and in no particular order:

Weight gain, belly stuffing, vore, inflation, pregnancy, breeding, BDSM, transformation, age play, diapers, medical kinks, and exhibitionism.

Tentacles:
Vores a weird one for me I find some vore stuff hot even though I'm not into it because it contains other things I'm into.

Munchies:
That's understandable. Vore, pregnancy, inflation, and feedism have a lot overlap. I think it's the bulging belly for a lot of people.

Tentacles:
Yeah those definitely make a lot of sense to group together. I think giantess fetish might also overlap quite a bit with feederism. Femdom can interact with it this but I doubt if you could really say it overlaps.

Beni:
During this years christmas holiday I played a game of monopoly with my family after dinner and my belly was constantly touching the floor (we were playing on the floor btw) and I started to sweat and get kinda out of breath from just bending over to moving my figure. I got really emberassed that I made myself so fat that just playing board games on the floor feels like doing sports for me.

Tentacles:
What others do people here have?

Munchies:
To be clear, feedism is technically just about feeding. Still, there are a lot of ancillary kinks as well as some unrelated, but still common kinks a lot of feedists share. I don't have all of these fetishes, but off the top of my head and in no particular order:

Weight gain, belly stuffing, vore, inflation, pregnancy, breeding, BDSM, transformation, age play, diapers, medical kinks, and exhibitionism.

Tentacles:
Vores a weird one for me I find some vore stuff hot even though I'm not into it because it contains other things I'm into.

Nameistoolon:
😂 Maybe we're at the point where a good old fashioned throw-down would be the most cathartic solution. Although for the sake of the civilians and skyscrapers, some in-person discourse over dinner could be for the best.

Maybe I'm old fashioned but I feel like half of our issues are caused by an increasingly online-only community. It's one of the main reasons I missed in-person meetups over the pandemic... remove the shelter of anonymity for the jerks, and the community feels much more like a real community.

For the inevitable issues that can't be sorted with conversation, there are always milkshake drinking contests to decide the victor...

Tentacles:
What others do people here have?

Shouldigetfat30:
So I joined a weight loss clinic and signed up for a six week session. They did my initial weight and body fat analysis and measurements last week. The lady that did it all couldn’t stop staring at my protruding belly and I LOVED IT. I told her I’ve gained about 20lbs in two months and I can’t stop myself from eating. I told her how I used to be so fit but now I’m getting addicted to sweets and fast food. She was astonished to see how much I’ve gained and that im now over my recommended body fat percentage.

My initial weight last week was at 182 (I’m 188 today!) and my body fat percentage was at 22 percent (which is a 11 percent jump when compared to four months ago).

I have another weigh in this week and I cannot wait. They are going to be SHOCKED. This is such a thrill and I can’t believe it is.

Munchies:
That's pretty impressive. I don't think most people who want to gain weight would join a weight loss clinic, but it makes sense if you are into public humiliation. And it's only for 6 months.

You're profile says that you used to be a fit dom feeder. What changed for you?

Shouldigetfat30:
I think what changed for me is that I used to THINK I had to be a fit and dominant male. The weight gain has changed me and I think it’s also changed just the way I see things (if that makes sense). I just love the idea of growing and being dominated

Munchies:
The dom feeder to sub feedee pipeline is strong. I'm forever fascinated by it.

I went the other way. Started out as an aspiring gainer with no interest in BDSM and turned into a fit domme feeder with no interest in gaining.

Shouldigetfat30:
Haha wow well will you look at that. That’s funny how that works though but it is amazing. Guess it’s the way it’s supposed to be.

But yes the humiliation from this place is so hot and wild. She measured my belly last week and i was so excited. Also i put on 2lbs in one day (I stuffed myself) and when I went back for a weigh in, she was shocked. She told me I need to be at 180 for this weeks visit. I’m hoping to be at 190! Now I’m thinking about lunch

Munchies:
I've noticed that most dom feeders turned sub feedees tend to be men. I might be wrong, but I think it's because men are expected to be big, strong, providers. And for y'all, it's nice to not worry about that. To be cared for and vulnerable for once.

Shouldigetfat30:
That’s a great way to put it. I guess the same would make sense for women then too, right? Either way I love this!