NoMoYoYo:
It appears I've got my gaining under control. After gaining almost 30lbs in less than 3 months, I knew I needed to slow down.

I did slow down...success! Or is it? I very much miss the fact that I was growing at a fast pace.

I know this is better for me, but man do I want to gain faster again.

I'm so conflicted. On the one hand, I just want to get to my long term goal soon. On the other, I know I shouldn't go that route.

HELP!!!

Munchies:
Do you want to grow? Or do you reach a specific goal? Because that will affect any advise I give you.

NoMoYoYo:
I want to grow. I want to be fatter than I've ever been. The problem is I know that the path I was on is not a good one. 30lbs in 2 and a half months is too much.

But there's part of me that just wants to get there now. I love eating. I love junk food and fast food. I love being stuffed.

My goal is 275 lbs...about 50lbs from now. At the rate I was going I'd get there next year. So many reasons why its not a good idea.

When I get there who knows where it'll lead. More? Maybe. That's a topic for another day.

But my whole persona here is that I don't want to yoyo anymore. I just want to get fatter at a steady pace over time.

Munchies:
Sounds like you have a problem with instant gratification. Basically, look at yourself and think "I look good fat, but I could be fatter. In fact, I could be fatter now."

There's nothing wrong with these thoughts. That's the entire point of this community. But sometimes you can get so fixated on the journey that you forget to enjoy the journey.

There's something intoxicating about eating a lot of food and then experiencing the weight gain. But it's not the only thing to enjoy about having a bigger body. I'd argue it's a very small part of it.

Take time to slow down and enjoy your size as you are. You'll gain weight at a slower pace.

NoMoYoYo:
There's no denying that I do like the instant gratification part of it. As I wrote in a different thread, I enjoy my clothes getting tighter and then growing out of them completely. It's exactly as you describe: intoxicating.

I want to be that guy who gains like 10lbs a year. It's definitely cheaper (food and clothes) and no doubt better for me. I believe I've gotten to the point that the gaining is under control. But its somewhat discouraging to not get that instant gratification.

I enjoy many foods, not just junk. I am trying to stick to healthier options with bigger portions. The problem is that it seems more like a chore than eating whatever and whenever I want. That's what I need to get over.

Cantybrad:
Yea the heat sucks. Moving to a colder part of the country has helped me our, as well as when I fatten up a women the cold weather helps too being inside all warm and eating fattening foods, while it's below zero outside.

NoMoYoYo:
It appears I've got my gaining under control. After gaining almost 30lbs in less than 3 months, I knew I needed to slow down.

I did slow down...success! Or is it? I very much miss the fact that I was growing at a fast pace.

I know this is better for me, but man do I want to gain faster again.

I'm so conflicted. On the one hand, I just want to get to my long term goal soon. On the other, I know I shouldn't go that route.

HELP!!!

Munchies:
Do you want to grow? Or do you reach a specific goal? Because that will affect any advise I give you.

NoMoYoYo:
I want to grow. I want to be fatter than I've ever been. The problem is I know that the path I was on is not a good one. 30lbs in 2 and a half months is too much.

But there's part of me that just wants to get there now. I love eating. I love junk food and fast food. I love being stuffed.

My goal is 275 lbs...about 50lbs from now. At the rate I was going I'd get there next year. So many reasons why its not a good idea.

When I get there who knows where it'll lead. More? Maybe. That's a topic for another day.

But my whole persona here is that I don't want to yoyo anymore. I just want to get fatter at a steady pace over time.

NoMoYoYo:
It appears I've got my gaining under control. After gaining almost 30lbs in less than 3 months, I knew I needed to slow down.

I did slow down...success! Or is it? I very much miss the fact that I was growing at a fast pace.

I know this is better for me, but man do I want to gain faster again.

I'm so conflicted. On the one hand, I just want to get to my long term goal soon. On the other, I know I shouldn't go that route.

HELP!!!

ForeverFFA:
I can't believe I waited until my late twenties to open up to a real-life partner about wanting to explore feeding someone, but I was freaking out even just telling him what I was into. He seemed way more calm than I was and is definitely game for trying stuff, but for some reason the thought of finally getting what I want makes me panic, which obviously isn't ideal for having a good time. How to get beyond this?

For clarification: I would be the feeder and my partner is brand new to this kink. Only gentle feeding and moderate weight gain are on the table, but I think part of my fear is related to guilt over what this might mean for him outside of our relationship.

Miachu:
I'm really curious if anyone's had any success stories from here? Such as finding a feeder/feedee or anything else in general ext

Munchies:
I've had 3 feedees in total since I've been on FF. I met my current partner and feedee on here too. It's gotten quite serious. Our relationship morphed from strictly feedist to a normal, healthy relationship that happens to involve feedism.

Enas:
Could you actually get into this? Preferably from a point of giving advise to (male?) feedees of things to do / not to do, based on your experience!

Munchies:
In what regard? Getting a feeder or developing a romantic relationship with your feeder?

Enas:
That too, but also, what should a feedee do, in a more elementary level. For example, how to uproach someone else without being a creep and simultaneously not being boring, but be interesting to that other person. And im asking this, specifically because it's something really tricky. Since if you haven't talked with that other person, you reeeally have to guess. But this just is an example!

Munchies:
So you want to know how to introduce yourself to other people without them blocking you, basically. Correct?

Enas:
Oh not just that! 😂
The goal is to get to talk with them!
And in the context of FF, especially for people like me who don't live in the USA or any other place where feederism might be somewhat common, it's extremely hard to do that!

Miachu:
I'm really curious if anyone's had any success stories from here? Such as finding a feeder/feedee or anything else in general ext

Munchies:
I've had 3 feedees in total since I've been on FF. I met my current partner and feedee on here too. It's gotten quite serious. Our relationship morphed from strictly feedist to a normal, healthy relationship that happens to involve feedism.

Enas:
Could you actually get into this? Preferably from a point of giving advise to (male?) feedees of things to do / not to do, based on your experience!

Munchies:
In what regard? Getting a feeder or developing a romantic relationship with your feeder?

Enas:
That too, but also, what should a feedee do, in a more elementary level. For example, how to uproach someone else without being a creep and simultaneously not being boring, but be interesting to that other person. And im asking this, specifically because it's something really tricky. Since if you haven't talked with that other person, you reeeally have to guess. But this just is an example!

Miachu:
I'm really curious if anyone's had any success stories from here? Such as finding a feeder/feedee or anything else in general ext

Munchies:
I've had 3 feedees in total since I've been on FF. I met my current partner and feedee on here too. It's gotten quite serious. Our relationship morphed from strictly feedist to a normal, healthy relationship that happens to involve feedism.

Miachu:
Aww, really happy for you with that's how you guys met, that's real cute

Munchies:
Thank you!

It's funny. When we started out, we had a strict domme-sub feedist relationship. And while I am still his domme and he's still my sub, we have an overall egalitarian dynamic. We can be open, honest, and vulnerable with each other no matter what.

He's also gone from finding me intimidating to seeing me as the sweetest and cutest person he knows. I suppose it helps that I've never directed any of the terror I'm known for on FF towards him. (He is aware of it tho.)

Enas:
Also this is *goals*!

Miachu:
I'm really curious if anyone's had any success stories from here? Such as finding a feeder/feedee or anything else in general ext

Munchies:
I've had 3 feedees in total since I've been on FF. I met my current partner and feedee on here too. It's gotten quite serious. Our relationship morphed from strictly feedist to a normal, healthy relationship that happens to involve feedism.

Enas:
Could you actually get into this? Preferably from a point of giving advise to (male?) feedees of things to do / not to do, based on your experience!

Miachu:
I'm really curious if anyone's had any success stories from here? Such as finding a feeder/feedee or anything else in general ext

Munchies:
I've had 3 feedees in total since I've been on FF. I met my current partner and feedee on here too. It's gotten quite serious. Our relationship morphed from strictly feedist to a normal, healthy relationship that happens to involve feedism.

2seatsalways:
So much love and positivity from this!