What volup said all sounds good. Also ask your doctor for a referral to physiotherapy. They will have more experience with practical knee stuff than your doctor can help with the short term, and teach you exercises and stretches to help keep the knee doing better in the future.

Feeder does not always mean sedentary -- although sure, many people associate them.

But yes, lots o f people discover that being sedentary leads to being weaker and less fit; this is no secret.

Exactly the same here

3 here too

Rather than murder your metabolism maybe just need to build up your repertoire of fat habits?

Making sure to buy snack food when doing groceries,planning to make sure you have regular snacks all day as well as treats and dessert, before settling in at the computer or tv being sure you have food and drink handy so you can eat mindlessly, making more than you need for meals so there is always more if you aren't full enough yet maybe switching to higher fat milk, saying yes when fast food places try to upsell you,pre and post eating if you are dining with friends and family ...

As dieters know, willpower will only take you so far. You need habits that will take you to your goal without the need for willpower or focus.

Good luck, and happy gaining

I forget who said it, but it certainly applies to me "I can resist anything except temptation.". (At least when it comes to food. I do better in other areas, where giving in to temptation isn't a turn on in its own right, on top of the original temptation.)

Pros
- jiggling feels awesome
- built in padding makes life more comfortable
- people stop expecting you to do active things, be dieting, etc so less pressure to meet those 'good' touchstones.
- people who are nice to you are more apt to be nice, not just sucking up
- shared experiences help bond with other fatties
- plus size stores generally have really friendly staff
- fat faces don't seem to age as quickly!
- you have more physical presence, meaning less jostling, less chance of people unconsciously trying to physically intimidate you, etc.

Cons
- chaffing, especially in hot weather (thighs of course, but anywhere flesh rubs flesh)
- little things get harder (like getting out of breath from tying shoes when a belly is in the way, harder to wax or shave legs, etc)
- less choice of clothes once in plus sizes
- harder to deal with beat, even when not moving
- fitting into seats with arms becomes an issue
- any food you drop lands on your bust or belly depending on your build
- having to find 'wide width' shoes for fat feet
- slower walking
- chance of insults from random strangers
- chance of doctors blaming everything from nose bleeds to ingrown toenails on your weight.
- life gets more expensive (clothes, food, premium seats for travel,...)

Good luck . And a cafe near her was probably a nice way to help here more comfortable anyway.

In terms of chains of plus size stores, obviously Lane Bryant is the biggest in the US. Your profile says you are in Buffalo, if that is right you could also cross to Canada to take advantage of the exchange rate. Biggest plus size chains here are Addition-Elle and Penningtons. Reitmans carries plus sizes in some stores,and as in the US many pieces in 'normal' stores should still work for you

Happy shopping :-)

If she was worried about her weight, but felt that she was thin enough to be acceptable, bf adoring her body and all -- then found out that actually she was FAT ENOUGH to be attractive to someone who likes really fat women, that could be pretty devastating. Worse if she finds out about feeders.

Think of it this way. If you were a slightly built guy but worked hard to be seen as more masculine, started dating a nice girl who was attracted to your body and that helped affirm to you that you were acceptably masculine .... Then found out that she was mostly into women, found some gender queer folk attractive, and thought that you looked just feminine enough to be interesting, but really didn't want you to get any more muscular or ever grow out facial hair, it might throw your confidence and self image for a loop.

What is done is done. So the question is, how flexible can you be about the future, and can she trust you in the future?