Sometimes, yes. I don't think I'm entirely over the hump yet, but I'm less conflicted now than I was before.

Thoughts of "What am I doing to myself?" are being replaced with "This plateau is frustrating," or "I wish I wasn't full already," or "I need to be bigger, fatter, and have a larger appetite."

I'm not sure when I might get over the hump, but I think it'll happen at some point. Maybe in 30 lbs? Or 40-50+ lbs?


But I definitely like the changes so far, for the most part, even in spite of the fact that I've had to buy more clothes, or that I dislike shoelaces even more than I did before, not that I ever really liked them in the first place.


The only possible road block that I'm not entirely sure how to deal with yet, that still bothers me somewhat, are what my parents might say. They're a bit health-conscious and my father likes to workout fairly regularly and seems to almost hate sugar most of the time. My mother doesn't go to the gym and only engages in light activity, but eats very little and tends to focus more on so-called "healthy food" which tends to be either more expensive and/or lacking in calories and don't really seem to satisfy. I love them of course, but when they're around, the food is sad and disappointing and I don't usually feel satisfied. Although, this has also been a bit of an unknown so far.

So far, my mother hasn't said anything seriously negative. She kind of wishes I was a little more active, but nothing heavy or highly strenuous. Sometimes I wish I could too, but I feel like that costs a lot of time that sometimes, I feel like I can't spare.

The last time I saw my father, he actually said I need to lose some weight, but I think that was one of the rare times he talks about health things with me, and it was through text message since I guess he didn't want a face to face confrontation. Not sure how this will play out. I'm not actually that heavy yet (this is why I need to gain more), though perhaps he was shocked that I have much more of a gut than I used to at one time. He does have other family members who are fat, but he isn't close to them (this is not related to their physical size).

If I had to guess, he may not notice if my waistline expands a couple more inches, which at the very least, I'd like to do. But I can't help but think it might be worse or with more emphasis if I gain significantly more. At the same time, I don't really know what would happen.

I do know that in private conversation with me, when others can't hear, they often say negative anti-fat (or at least, anti-obese) comments. On the bright side, there have been "pleasantly plump" and even fat individuals they have respected for one reason or another, because they really are/were good people. So it could be worse.

But yeah, this is the only thing I really worry about. Or the possible flak I might get if one day, I bring a lady who's 300+ lbs, though assuming I love her enough, I'm sure I'd find a way to deal and I expect they would accept it.


I guess another hump I possibly foresee, but I can't be sure when it might happen, is if/when I start to develop a double-chin. That might cause me to reassess, but of course I won't know until I get there! Though, the thought of developing cellulite and back rolls, that doesn't seem to bother me. If anything, that would mean I'm doing something right. Kind of wish some more weight would have made it to my butt, but a lot of this is genetic to begin with.

You're pretty new so I won't remove this thread, but..

fantasyfeeder.com/about/rules #8 in particular. Just a light reminder. Without these rules, probably every other post would be along these lines.

I also don't believe it's possible to give memberships to others directly, either. At least not as of this writing. I understand the frustration, but it's cheaper than many streaming services, and cheaper than a Large #3 combo from Whataburger with added bacon, at least under the annual discount. You can also save a penny if you purchase both pieces separately, rather than the combination.

No, I don't believe there is such a term. Although, the terms that do exist aren't mutually exclusive, and multiple terms can of course apply to one individual.

The only specific term I can think of that actually combines two preexisting terms is "mutual gainer" since that combines being a feeder with being a feedee.

That said, there's definitely some individuals who are 400+ lbs who may not necessarily be interested in getting bigger, at least not on purpose but nevertheless love the idea of making someone else as fat as they are, or even bigger.

No, I think it's just a case of liking what you like.

To be fair, long distance relocation is very expensive and in the case of many, it could also mean leaving a lot behind. It's a great deal to ask of someone, particularly if that someone knows very little about the destination area. It's one thing to move a county over, another when it means crossing state lines or hundreds of miles away.

I say this as someone who moved a long way, though this was because I was getting away from a bad situation (not abuse, but a very dim, bleak potential future) and I didn't really have anything to keep me there.

I wouldn't mind if someone was to relocate to me, but it's a big decision and I'd have to make sure they're entirely onboard with it.

I might be interested, depending. DFW here. Though I admit I don't like the idea of going to Austin at all.

For all the cute BBW I see here, and that DFW has around 1/4 of the state's population, I'm a bit surprised there aren't more here.

Hey. The fact you do seem to live in the middle of nowhere, very likely isn't helping matters. There's less of the economy of shipping by volume.

It's true that overall cost has gone up somewhat, pretty much everywhere, though more so on some items than others.

However, it's also quite possible you might be making expensive or suboptimal food choices that you might not have to make, or have little to no advantage. I'm certainly not going to tell you to rely on just bread and water.. I certainly cant, and that's no fun anyway. But it's possible I may be able to offer some ideas that may help economize somewhat, or to get a bigger bang for your buck. Maybe it's some ideas you heard before, but maybe not.

I'll say this though - you've done a fine job yourself, from one gainer to another. Haven't quite had the results you have had, at least not yet.

If you'd like to chat, just let me know. The best way would be to send me a PM.

Hm probably several reasons.

1) I really was too thin before at one point, even by non-feederism standards.

2) It's easier to catch the attention of BBW (or other gainers), which is convenient.

3) I actually enjoy eating now, though only heavier foods. I'll still eat salad, but I need to use lots of dressing and ideally, bits of chicken and bacon. Ideally the dressing is something creamy, like Caesar.

4) The additional heft, thickness, and softness feels nice. Pretty sure I'll give better hugs as I gain more.

5) The heavier I get, the more I can eat, which helps me gain more. Although the pace and rate of gain hasn't been as fast as I might like.

6) I actually feel happier after gaining some, but I still need more.

That's just off the top of my head.

Realistically? No, not really. Fantasy is one thing, but such a place would never last from insufficient sales.

Cruise ships? Not really. Except for the "Pride of America," the name of a cruise ship operated by Norwegian, you probably can't get a job on most cruise ships. I get the impression they don't really hire Americans because folks won't work for very little, for what would mean a lot of long term isolation (highly limited phone and Internet access), probably no spouse or family... fooling around with the passengers is frowned upon too. Most seafaring jobs are the same way. There are jobs at sea for Americans, but not many. Most Americans at sea, are going to be in the US Navy.

The "Pride of America" is different because it's the only US flagged cruise ship in the world. One requirement of any US flagged seafaring vessel is to have an exclusively American crew. This means all crew members have to be American, or at least have authorization to work in America legally.

The Jones Act also stipulates that any vessel that travels point to point from one US seaport to another, must be a US flagged vessel. This means Guam, CNMI, Hawaii, and American Samoa must be supplied from California. Puerto Rico and the US Virgin Islands are supplied from Florida. However, freighter vessels won't offer you what you want, nor is an answer to your question.

The closest thing is probably some sort of buffet restaurant, but the pay is likely to be terrible (unless you can be the GM or district manager, the GM's boss), so I don't recommend that for a long term career. I'm sorry.

Hm... kind of both?

It started off as weight and body goals for me. I suppose besides arbitrary numbers, I just love the idea of eventually becoming heavier and larger than the average American man. Weight and size goals are still important to me.

But ever since I started gaining, you know.. I actually like and look forward to eating now. Now I have another reason to gain more - it should increase my appetite and capacity so I can eat more. It's a wonderful, lovely cycle. The more I eat, the more I gain. The more I gain, the more I can eat, and the more enjoyment I can get each time. I even have certain eating/stuffing goals that I want to be able to achieve.


I also love the idea of how I've slowly been adopting fat behaviors. I don't like to run quickly or rush, which is getting harder anyway. So I'd just have to make sure I have enough time to walk, or if I get to a certain point, waddle to wherever I need to be. Even if it means using basic project management principles to plan ahead. I've also been starting to snack a little more often than before. I look forward to when the snacking becomes almost automatic, and I start planning ahead to make sure I have enough.

I kind of wonder how a scale could ever possibly determine that.

Some online calculators estimate that I'm at around 27%, which of course could be wildly wrong, but I haven't quite gotten to the point yet where it's easier to gain than to lose.