After a year of rapid gaining, I've reached a weight -- 507 lb. -- I'm quite happy with, and I've made in some cases costly accomodations to be comfortable. I've invested in clothing I can wear for occasions that call for professional attire, adapted our bathroom, and put in heavy duty grab bars in our home. I also have a recliner with a lift and recently traded my sedan for a van. In other words, my life is built for a person my size. That said, I can also feel I'd be on the cusp of losing a lot of independence if I got much heavier, and neither my partner nor I are ready to give up doing fun things

According to the Mayo Clinic 's calorie requirement calculator, an inactive, 5'3", 507lb. 29 year old woman needs 3,000 calories or so to maintain. I've currently cut back dramatically from my prior intake to about 5,000 calories a day, and I'm eating a lot of fiber to feel more full. I'm hopeful I don't have to cut back more than that, but we'll see.

Is there anybody out there in say, the 400 to 600 lb range (or who is close to someone that size) who is maintaining? I realize a lot of factors are involved, but where did your daily calorie count settle?

Mine was probably this past Friday-after-Thanksgiving, which my partner and I designated as an all-day stuffing. I hit around 58 thousand calories, leaving a giant garbage bag of catering pans and paper plates. It was by far the most I've ever consumed (and probably ever will), and I barely ate for two days after. Unforgettable experience (and total experiment in gluttony) I'm thankful I had though.

I couldn't do it, lol. I'd probably end up completely immobile or I'd sit in the dining hall and eat until I popped like a balloon!

I'm a fan of the Golden Corral in Pittsburgh. I've spent hours there before trying as many things as I could, and the staff remained courteous and helpful, even after my seventh trip.

I traded my car today for a van, after getting too big to safely get behind the wheel of my Camry. My partner is incredible and always willing to take me wherever I want to go, but it feels good to have some independence back!

I feel like this is the flipside to the issues many women here run into with people demanding photos or sexual chat. I hear from men that they're constantly hit up by women (or people claiming to be women) scamming for money. I hate this trend, and I feel like this community wasn't always like that. Some of us really are here for connection and a place to belong.

Merry Christmas, all! I love fat bodies, especially big pot bellies, though I don't need for a partner to be fat to be attracted. My partner is actually long, lean, and in shape, and I'm crazy about him. However, I am incredibly turned on by my own obesity and the feeling of my wildly bloated, obese body against his lean frame. I love the reality of being very fat and all that entails, the sensation of stuffing to such extremes my belly, back, and sides strain, and the reward of seeing my rolls get thicker, my gut bulge past my knees, and hearing my fat thighs slap together. Unless health or other life changes necessitate it, I can't really imagine ever wanting to lose so much as a pound, especially now that I've reached a quarter ton!

That sounds right. I used one without issues around 440, but I seem to have exceeded their capacity.

That's a good question. I've been fat my whole life, and I remember wanting to be much fatter as young as about five or six. By the time I was in high school, I was 300 pounds, and I only had one boyfriend during those four years. I knew I didn't intend to lose weight, so I knew I'd need someone who liked big girls, and I knew those people existed. I dated a bit more in college, and by then, I was in this community, but I didn't know how to transition from online fantasy to real-life feedism. After college, I had two feeders I met via the websites, but both of those relationships tended to be more about the feedism than a deep personal connection. In other words, they were fine for some fun, but there was never a basis for a lasting relationship. With my partner, the relationship comes first, and fat is something we both think is fun and sexy. I have much more experience in feedism than he does, but he was more than willing to lean into it. At the end of the day though, the feedism comes second.

Realizing how much food it actually takes to fill you up!

For example, yesterday, while we were out and about, we got fast food. I'm right at my weight cap, so I've gut back considerably. I ordered three cheeseburgers with mushrooms and swiss, a large fry, and a large Diet Coke, while my partner got a grilled chicken sandwich and water. Compared to the way I've been eating for the past two years, my order was a small one, although I do know that for the average person, it's still a massive amount, and I'll probably have to cut back more to get to maintenance. Nevertheless, when I finished everything, I barely felt like I had eaten. Within an hour, I felt hunger pangs in my belly. If that's not a reminder what a greedy fatty I've become, I don't know what it is. 🤣