BigBallBellyGirl:
Thanks in advance for letting me get something off my chest. I just wanted to make the point that, this community is more than a dating hub, and this isn't OnlyFans.
Some people come here hoping to make a romantic connection. I hope you do, and I wish you all the happiness in the world.
Some people come here hoping to share what they look like, showcase content, and build a following. I wish you every bit of success, and I hope the way you choose to use this site helps you reach your goals.
That said, that's not all of us. Some of us are here because society has made it so taboo to actually enjoy our bigger bodies and have fun with gluttony, we can't talk about this major part of our lives with 90 percent of the people we know. Sure, they know we're fat. I'm nearly 470 pounds. It's obvious I like to eat. But that's very different that being able to share the joy I feel when I gain 10 pounds or consume 20,000 calories.
There are a lot of people here who respect the ways in which different people use this site, including those who use it more privately. But there are also others who are outraged that I don't want a feeder (I have a partner), I don't want anyone to send me money or food, and I'm not a content creator. I'm very specific about this in my profile, yet just about every day, I get angry messages from mostly men, demanding, "Show yourself" or "Your posts do nothing to turn me on. I need pictures." No. No you don't. You don't need pictures from me or anyone else of any gender on this site. There are plenty of platforms on which to find those and plenty of other people to follow. No one is entitled to anything from anyone else.
I'll add a caveat of that if, someone with no personal photos is demanding money, it's only natural to want some proof you're not being scammed. That's entirely different, and in that case, people have a right to protect themselves from con artists. People don't have a right, however, to make angry demands of someone who has never initiated contact with them and asks nothing of them.
People have a lot of reasons for not posting images. In my case, I have a partner, and he meets my needs in every way. I don't need to get anything anywhere else, including compliments or gratification. Furthermore, I used to have a very public online presence, and I had pictures stolen twice. I had to go through a huge hassle to get a fake profile taken down from another site. And to this day, there is still an amateur weight gain progress video out there using my images. That's a violation. And it feels very unsafe.
I guess I said this to say, there are lots of comments about how women especially create profiles and then disappear. I can't speak for everyone, but I do know that an aggressive follower can certainly be a trigger. Sure, we can report folks, and there is a block function. But more than that, we can respect each other and keep our entitlement in check. It's not really a lot to ask. And thanks to all the awesome people on the site who already understand that!
FAMGM:
Really, really well put. I agree with everything that you say.
I’ll make a somewhat broader point.
The online culture around fat kinks and fat sexuality is increasingly being moored around content creators, particularly well-known, paid creators. Creators as a result are increasingly defining fat sexuality for the online culture.
While I have nothing against creators themselves, I do have a problem with the effect - the expectation that anyone who is fat and online is there to gratify, the expectation that the community exists more or less as a bank to fund “feeding”, the expectation that, once gratification has occurred, you just drop the fat person and move on.
You could not have expressed this better. I also have no problem with creators. I support entrepreneurship, and I support people who feel empowered, financially and otherwise, by making content.
But a human-- fat, thin, conventionally attractive-- is worth more than just content. And demanding visuals of a person who is fat, because you find big bodies attractive, is no different than deeming a woman who has a large bust and tiny waist useless if she won't put her shape on display.
