Munchies:
That's not what I'm getting at. I won't deny that men and women approach things differently. But a lot of that is nurture over nature.

Here's a quick and dirty about what I mean:

psychcentral.com/blog/love-matters/2018/08/why-we-choose-the-mates-we-do-and-how-to-choose-the-best-mate-for-you

I've never put much stock in the opinions of evolutionary psychology. It has a male, white, Western, cishet, traditional viewpoint. And while there's nothing wrong with being a white Western cishet traditional man, you have to admit it has a very limited viewpoint.

Enas:
Or the lack of nurture. The amount of people who sadly end up having their lives sacrificed for the profit motive (instead of doing other thigns like taking *good* care of children) seems to be growing by the day!

Munchies:
Enas, I am confused. How does this tie in into anything either party has said?

Enas:
Im talking about the lack of socialization in general. People rarely talk with other people of different age groups (that also have more experience on almost all aspects of life)

I mean the topic is kinda... Why not female feeders around? I have a few ideas. think of a very stereotypical bad male attitude. Dude that exclusively hangs out "with the boys" and never gets taught why to respect women (and other people in general) but instead his social enviroment pushes him in the direction of the attitude that to have a girlfriend is a man's trophy.

That's a very specific example, but in general the problem is ignorance on people, i think. Wich is caused by the lack of care for the reasons i mentioned earlier. I hope my point is at least somewhat clear?

Jd00723:
Nothing too scientific, but I was measuring my runs times before I started gaining. I was on sub 20min 5ks.

Since I've gained around 20lbs of fat, which is a small gain it seems in this community, I'm struggling to get below a 30min run time.

Even when I started gaining and gained about 5lbs, my time went up to about 25mins, though it could be due to the heavy cream going through my body at the time!

Fitness nosedives really quickly. I have read that some people got their fitness back quickly, but it didn't happen for me. Then again, many people have found it hard to gain, and I have not. So maybe I am just a natural fatty !

Munchies:
I am curious. Do you still eat unhealthy when you go running? You're 31, so your metabolism should start to naturally slow down. So if you are doing things like guzzling heavy cream, or eating high calorie food without any weight training, your fitness isn't going to just bounce back.

Jd00723:
So I’ve more or less returned to a somewhat healthy diet, no longer gaining. I’ve been focusing more on weight training, but since gaining weight I’ve felt very unmotivated to run. But when I was thinner I used to run all the time.

Jd00723:
Nothing too scientific, but I was measuring my runs times before I started gaining. I was on sub 20min 5ks.

Since I've gained around 20lbs of fat, which is a small gain it seems in this community, I'm struggling to get below a 30min run time.

Even when I started gaining and gained about 5lbs, my time went up to about 25mins, though it could be due to the heavy cream going through my body at the time!

Fitness nosedives really quickly. I have read that some people got their fitness back quickly, but it didn't happen for me. Then again, many people have found it hard to gain, and I have not. So maybe I am just a natural fatty !

Yeah, I don't hate the good ones, but they know who they are.

Men who don't understand the social order and just want to gain stuff.

They also don't understand how men and women select mates in other ways, and that girls don't want the things that dudes like.

Of course, doing this with other men works out fine, to be honest, even better in hetero relationships, as they are both fully eager whenever.

Straight men acting like gay men towards women means it just won't work.

I hate it, and what's worse, those people are the ones firing off the most DMs, PMs, and replies, as they can't find someone.

Munchies:
I wouldn't say men and women necessarily choose their SOs differently. If you are socialized a certain way, you'll look for an SO like you've been raised to look for one. But if you look up how men and women choose partners, you'll find variations. And if you hang out with enough people, you'll realize there's no gender-specific guideline.

Heck, when my partner and I met, we'd planned for it to be a one-off bit of fun. But it organically grew into something more.

This boils down to a basic lack of respect and seeing women as objects instead of people.

LydiaFatOttter:
Not to go too 100% nerd on you, but there is a thing that sex plays in mate selection, but this is the wrong place for a science talk.

Also, someone like me who has seen both sides of the gender experience, there is 100% a difference.

Munchies:
That's not what I'm getting at. I won't deny that men and women approach things differently. But a lot of that is nurture over nature.

Here's a quick and dirty about what I mean:

psychcentral.com/blog/love-matters/2018/08/why-we-choose-the-mates-we-do-and-how-to-choose-the-best-mate-for-you

I've never put much stock in the opinions of evolutionary psychology. It has a male, white, Western, cishet, traditional viewpoint. And while there's nothing wrong with being a white Western cishet traditional man, you have to admit it has a very limited viewpoint.

Enas:
Or the lack of nurture. The amount of people who sadly end up having their lives sacrificed for the profit motive (instead of doing other thigns like taking *good* care of children) seems to be growing by the day!

Jd00723:
Only you know the answer I suppose.

It will get harder to lose the weight as you get older. I've tried losing a bit recently and its a lot harder than it was a few years ago.

NoMoYoYo:
I did find it harder to lose this last time. Even with excercising more than I ever have.

And this 11lbs I've gained back (so far!) have come on pretty fast. Usually my gains are fast at the start then level off for a bit then eventually I lose. If I just give in and get fat forever, I should probably change my strategy. i.e. not gain as quickly. What is the best way to gain like 10lbs a year? Instead of 30-40lbs in a matter of months.

Munchies:
Crying shame. Society is incredibly fatphobic. If you're fat, you can only lose weight or be neutral towards your size. But the moment you try to get fat on purpose, people think you're a sick freak.

FatLime:
Yes, I actively searched for a girl who will not forbid me this fetish, but I never found her, but a large number of men were ready to fatten me, but I can not offer them anything, because heterosexual.

Munchies:
Pain. I know there are some Russian female feeders on here, but the ones I've seen are all taken. Maybe you could consider something online?

FatLime:
Yes, I've seen their posts here. We have a similar site, but it's all familiar faces there, as there aren't very many similar themed sites. Sometimes interesting personalities write, but it's always men.

Fatmanrocker:
Got you won’t do but how to you increase your capacity with it? Just eating alot or?

Munchies:
Crying shame. Society is incredibly fatphobic. If you're fat, you can only lose weight or be neutral towards your size. But the moment you try to get fat on purpose, people think you're a sick freak.

FatLime:
Yes, I actively searched for a girl who will not forbid me this fetish, but I never found her, but a large number of men were ready to fatten me, but I can not offer them anything, because heterosexual.

FatLime:
I tried to disguise my fetish by writing that I like to eat good food and lie on the couch. People without a fetish thought I was a cat and even flirted, but unfortunately few people continued to communicate when I told them it was a fetish

LoraDayton:
it may seem counterintuitive but a bit of food may help. I've had some incredible results when bloating with after after having some rice and steamed broccoli. it wasn't deliberate, I just got into... shenanigans not long after having dinner.

Munchies:
Fun fact: This is how competitive eaters increase their capacity.

Fatmanrocker:
How much rice do you eat? Cooked or non cooked?