Fantasy Feeder

My dreams and desires have changed since i gave in

Munchies:

I had a feedee that was into extreme weight gain (like I am) and decided to get fat no matter the cost. Went from being a pretty chill guy to a man that pretty much worshipped the gains at all cost.

He was a pretty smart guy at first, but I noticed after he switched to a diet of heavy cream and fast foods, he got dumb real fast.

Biggerstudentbody:
I'm super curious to hear more about this...

What more is there to say than I already said?

1 year

Munchies

Other intuitive eaters?

ForeverFFA:
I was just curious if anyone else on this site who isn't actively gaining considers themselves an intuitive eater? I've noticed the way that calories, food/cravings, and how a body gains or loses weight are usually discussed here. This isn't meant as a criticism at all, but it seems like more people understand these concepts through the lens of standard dieting wisdom than not?

Morbidly A Beast:
I’m so removed from diets and stuff at this point but I saw a tik tok diet person do a tiktok where they said most people who intuitively eat don’t actually “intuitively eat” but they just eat whatever they want, which absolutely that’s how I operate, but if you’re trying to lose weight or maintain a calorie deficit she explained it better. It was funny because she did it in the context of a cookout and she had like 3 hot dogs and heaping pile of potato salad while the other her (her actually just eating moderately)

Still don’t know what Intuitive eating pertains to

ForeverFFA:
Lol. A lot of people on social media like to mock or distort intuitive eating, but the premise is that diets don't work or they take up too much mental energy to be worth it. It allows people to pursue health but requires them to drop preconceived notions of what that looks like. The point that this tiktok woman missed is that the goal is for people to listen to their bodies (which can be really hard in the beginning) and practice gentle nutrition.

Morbidly A Beast:
Here’s the video it was a YouTube short not a tik tok lol youtube.com/shorts/KaLFfBPP8SA

I do this. I didn't realize that I was doing this. But I switched over to intuitive eating when I stopped being a gainer.

1 year

Munchies

Daily problem

Aset213:
So i've been tracking how much calories i eat on a daily for weeks now. I can safely say that im not even eating the average amount of calories (which by standards would be 2000).

Ive tried cream which has absolutely wrecked my stomach and i cant exactly make a shake either at the moment as i dont have a blender.

What should i do?

Munchies:
What is a typical day of eating for you? What barriers do you face for eating more? What is your fitness level like?

Aset213:
I start my morning with a simple bowl a cereal and on some days (typically weekends) id make eggs and toast.
For lunch, i dont each much. Probably just some chips, a bottle of juice and my lunch.
Dinner is mostly stuff i cook but i only cook enough for a day or two.
Honestly activity is pretty light.
Aside from walking to bus stops thats pretty much it.

I dont know maybe it's just mentality. I've tried in the past to eat more but i end up nauseated. Even the thought alone of eating more just makes my apetite go out the window. I've never ate a lot growing up either so i only eat what i need.

Munchies:
When you say "eat more" do you mean eat bigger meals? Or do you mean eat more frequently?

Aset213:
In a sense, both.
I can't seem to do either

I normally recommend eating little and often, but if you've already done that, then I think there might be something medical going on with you.

If you can't eat more calories without feeling ill, gaining weight might not be for you. And that's okay. There are other ways to explore your weight gain fetish.

1 year

Munchies

Daily problem

When you say "eat more" do you mean eat bigger meals? Or do you mean eat more frequently?

1 year

Munchies

Daily problem

What is a typical day of eating for you? What barriers do you face for eating more? What is your fitness level like?

1 year

Munchies

Consensual... abuse?

Munchies:
While all of this information is nice to know, I am not sure where you got this impression from. It only makes sense if you didn't read everything I said. I even explicitly mentioned that many people are happy living a 24/7 type relationship.

What I am talking about is 24/7 sado-masochism. More specifically the domme being hardcore sadistic 24/7 and the masochistic sub (Enas) enjoying that sadism 24/7. After all, this is explicitly what Enas wants.

This, and only this, is not sustainable. Not even in a TPE relationship. Human nature is not meant to be one thing all the time. And it is truly taxing mentally, emotionally, and physically, to live your life in an S&M scene 24/7.

Malvineous:
I did read the whole thread. Personally, I'm not convinced that OP meant what you suggest, since he wasn't clear about that being every aspect of his life, only the sexual dynamic. OP specifically asked how to do this in a safe way as well.

Still, my overall point was that even sadomasochism can be a matter of framing. Perhaps the aftercare is just another sadistic element, since she mixes periods of abuse and gentleness in order to confuse him and make him feel emotionally bonded to her so that it becomes even more difficult for him to break free. People can interpret things in any number of ways, so the only thing that needs to change in order to live out his fantasies within a healthy relationship is his mindset.

I have also spoken to Enas privately on a number of occassions for nearly a year know. I am ... very aware of his interests and preferences.

1 year

Munchies

Consensual... abuse?

Munchies:
Oh, no. Not even a little. That will mess both you and your domme up mentally.

Malvineous:
While I agree with many of the points you made, I have to disagree with the overall message, as it sounds discouraging.

While all of this information is nice to know, I am not sure where you got this impression from. It only makes sense if you didn't read everything I said. I even explicitly mentioned that many people are happy living a 24/7 type relationship.

What I am talking about is 24/7 sado-masochism. More specifically the domme being hardcore sadistic 24/7 and the masochistic sub (Enas) enjoying that sadism 24/7. After all, this is explicitly what Enas wants.

This, and only this, is not sustainable. Not even in a TPE relationship. Human nature is not meant to be one thing all the time. And it is truly taxing mentally, emotionally, and physically, to live your life in an S&M scene 24/7.

1 year

Munchies

Pig out

Dasassy420:
The stress of my job causes me to pig out. Is there anyone who pigs out due to work?

MottiF:
It’s happened to me before. I suggest you try to take a vacation of a few days. Stress could cause a lot of bad things to you.

I agree. Stress eating might help you put on the pounds, but it's a symptom of a much more serious issue. Stress is more dangerous than cigarettes.

1 year

Munchies

Do feeders exist who want to take on (dedicated) starter feedees?

Anon5665:
It seems like feeders always want feedees who are already fat, but I think there are a lot of people who want to take the plunge and become feedees, but are afraid to start without a feeder for encouragement and accountability.

The thought of going from skinny to fat is exciting but scary. All I want is a little hand-holding 😭

Have I been open to it in the past? Yes. Am I currently wanting that? No. However, this is only because I am in a committed relationship.

There are feeders that prefer feedees with smaller start weights for a number of reasons. Not every feeder wants to start with a large feedee.

That said, I would recommend looking into why getting fat is scary to you. If you need someone to support you emotionally as you gain weight, you'll be devastated if the relationship ends.

1 year

Munchies

Exploring being a feedee

Hazelinthesun:
Hey I’m pretty new here and only found the site because I found out my boyfriend likes it and is a “feeder” and secretly fed me in the past. I didn’t know it at the time. I’m exploring the idea of doing small intentful gains for his pleasure but I am worried it could get carried away and that would make me feel uncomfortable.

What are good limits to set and has anyone had a successful submissive healthy relationship and if so how did you manage? Examples wood be helpful.

How do you limit non-consensual feeding? I don’t want surprises in my food again.

How did you measure or know she/he gained weight if the boundaries are set to only have small gains? Is it pointless to start if I don’t want big gains and will he just want more in the end?

Fatboyfeeder:
This is a very slippery slope. He already has fantasized you at 400 lbs. Food is a powerful drug and he knows how to use it.

I agree it's a slippery slope, but not for that reason.

I didn't get into it at the time because Poly said all there is to say, but I will reiterate.

Her boyfriend (whom I hope she left) is abusive. She understands this to a degree because she's trying to regain some level of autonomy while placating him.

This is not the best thing to do. If you start to give to an abuser's whims early on, you'll find yourself willing to do anything even if you hate it. I've seen it many a time before.

1 year

Munchies