How do you find follow people on here. i came from feabie, grommr twitter, discord

I spent about a month or two on this site with a blank profile just so I could poke around the site a bit before venturing out. And even then, it took me a month or two to mostly figure out the site.

Of course, I'm still learning new things all the time. Plus there are new features from time to time as well. FF as it is now looks a bit different from how it did a year ago
1 year

Do feeders/fas care about the feelings of their feedees/ gainers/ partners?

Lovelyxx:
Hi guys! I’m an FA/feeder and I very much care about my partners feelings. If he wants to lose or gain weight it’s up to him, I like anyway. Have any feedees/FAs had any bad experiences? How do other feeders feel about it?
I feel like many feeders force their partners into situations they are not comfortable in.


Hm. As an FA/feeder, I do prioritize my partner's wellbeing an comfort above all else. However, I would like to think I am not unique in this regard.

Of course, I am not so silly to say there aren't toxic/abusive FAs/feeders out there. I've even interacted with some personally, and I'm not even a gainer or a feedee. Heck, I'm not even fat or chubby.
1 year

Should i buy my gf new clothes?

Solarflare43:
So to start this post I want to say I love & support my girlfriend regardless of her size

When I met her she was on the thicker side, however she always wore clothes a few sizes too small. I'd have to help her zip up dresses that were clearly ripping at the seams or breaking

She eventually told me that she gained weight over covid and used to be quite petite. Now over the course of our relationship (1.5 years) she's put on about 30 additional pounds and definitely can't fit her old clothes

I know she wants to lose weight, and I support her. But she barely eats (like 1 small meal a day & energy drinks). I'm worried about her nutrition, and her weight isn't changing.

None of her clothes fit right & she keeps ordering clothes that are too small and being disappointed when they don't fit.

I've bought her a few things here & there that actually fit, so they've become her wardrobe staples

She knows she's gained weight, she isn't in denial of the numbers. But I think she thinks her clothing sizes are much smaller than they are

Would it be a horrible idea for me to buy clothes that I think would actually fit her? I've been right at guessing her size so far. Maybe for a Christmas present. Cute stuff I know she'll like

Let me know if I'm making a massive blunder or not


Seems fine to me. Get a few cute pieces that she'll like. She'll probably be touched.
1 year

I am straight, yet turned on by the male gainers.

No_Limit_Soldier17:
I am not what sure what to say about this. I know I like women. I have always thought of myself as straight. However, I have seen pictures and videos of some male users and I can't help but feel turned on.

It's weird, because in my everyday life, I don't feel any attraction to guys. What is the deal?

Munchies:
My feedee is a cishet man. However, he gets turned on when I send him pictures and videos of fat men being gluttons. It's not that he's sexually attracted to them. It's that it's a reminder of all the things I want to do to him or a manifestation of how he might look as I stuff him.

It's like Thaynor said: Do you want to be them or do you want to do something with them?

WideJuan76:
I have had women whom I have dated who have sent me pics of fat men and it was mostly to inspire me to keep gorging and some would specifically choose those pics who had the same type of body that I had just way more flabby. It was a way to see myself like that not as a form of attraction. Munchies is doing that and it is enticement like that is the best.


Hee hee ~

Why thank you, my good sir.
1 year

I am straight, yet turned on by the male gainers.

No_Limit_Soldier17:
I am not what sure what to say about this. I know I like women. I have always thought of myself as straight. However, I have seen pictures and videos of some male users and I can't help but feel turned on.

It's weird, because in my everyday life, I don't feel any attraction to guys. What is the deal?


My feedee is a cishet man. However, he gets turned on when I send him pictures and videos of fat men being gluttons. It's not that he's sexually attracted to them. It's that it's a reminder of all the things I want to do to him or a manifestation of how he might look as I stuff him.

It's like Thaynor said: Do you want to be them or do you want to do something with them?
1 year

Offered diet pills

Anjou:
Was it wegovy? There is a push now by the AMA to get obese people on it. Even though I think it is in short supply.


I'm not a fan of diet pills and other forms of weight loss medication. I don't think it's wrong to take medication for weight loss. Sometimes a person needs to take them, and that's okay.

My problem is that too often, medication is suggested for weight loss when what most people need is lifestyle changes. The medication often comes with side effects. Plus, many people are taking them for cosmetic purposes.

I could understand if someone something like Wegovy because they need to lose weight for medical reasons, and that's the last stop before surgery. But I see too many stories of people taking stuff and they are otherwise healthy and not very fat at all.

It makes me even madder because doctora have been prescribing things like Ozempic to people who just want to shed a few tens of pounds while diabetics are needing to ration their life saving medication.

But that's just my two cents.
1 year

Feeders or encouragers out there... do you prefer thin, chubby, or fat to start with?

Morbidly A Beast:
something tells me that feeders wanting a thin/skinny/fit feedee is a lot like wanting a puppy but losing interest or appreciation when they are a full grown dog, and it’s something I can’t really shake.

Feedees: do it for you! As someone who was fat before choosing to actively gain.


Not all feeders with thin/fit/skinny feedees are like that, but it's definately a thing.

I'd say the best way to tell isn't if they go for the thin/fit/skinny feedee, but rather how they feel about comittment and bodily autonomy. Basically asking if the feeder will treat the feedee with empathy and respect - understanding that the feedee has the final say no matter what.
1 year

Feeders or encouragers out there... do you prefer thin, chubby, or fat to start with?

I don't think I could choose. Slim guys are so cute when they thicken up; you can keep at it for years and years. Chubby guys are just objectively good, no matter the size.

It wasn't mentioned, but I enjoy seeing muscular guys soften up - even better if they retain their muscles.
1 year

It's a myth that fat people can't feel the cold!

Summerr:
Because I'm huge and I can. Omg, it's freezing. Even with the heating on it's still chilly 🥶

Weetabix:
As an amateur scientist I'm trying to figure this out. The temperature in a room can be 23C but because it's cold outside we feel cold inside.

There's either something more to this or it's just women act like princesses when it comes to their comfort.

Munchies:
It's actually a very well-studied phenomenon with many papers about it. Some links for your convenience:

www.pfizer.com/news/articles/cold_wars_why_women_feel_the_chill_more

www.pfizer.com/news/articles/cold_wars_why_women_feel_the_chill_more

www.pfizer.com/news/articles/cold_wars_why_women_feel_the_chill_more

I will say that if something is common in a large group of people, it's probably not an overreaction.

Weetabix:
Well that is interesting but the article does assume it's cold. What I am finding with my partner us that she is cold not because the room is cold but because it's cold outside.

I have set up regular temperature, pressure and humidity logging plus a button to record too cold, comfortable and too hot. I've not set up outdoor temperature monitoring which means the experiment is still incomplete.

I think the article gives me something to think about in that women may react to the idea that it's cold by conserving heat by shutting off blood flow to the extremities. This would actually make them cold.

When my woman says she is cold, her hands actually feel cold, colder than the room! I should measure her hand temperature for my experiment.

I myself am like a 2kw electric fire. Heat comes off me so much that I was out today in a T-shirt watching all the people wrapped up in sheepskin coats and scarfs.


There are non-gender-related reasons why someone may feel cold. Your wife may have an iron deficiency or poor blood circulation, for example. Of course, only her doctor will be able to say why she feels the way she does.
1 year

It's a myth that fat people can't feel the cold!

Summerr:
Because I'm huge and I can. Omg, it's freezing. Even with the heating on it's still chilly 🥶

Weetabix:
As an amateur scientist I'm trying to figure this out. The temperature in a room can be 23C but because it's cold outside we feel cold inside.

There's either something more to this or it's just women act like princesses when it comes to their comfort.


It's actually a very well-studied phenomenon with many papers about it. Some links for your convenience:

www.pfizer.com/news/articles/cold_wars_why_women_feel_the_chill_more

www.pfizer.com/news/articles/cold_wars_why_women_feel_the_chill_more

www.pfizer.com/news/articles/cold_wars_why_women_feel_the_chill_more

I will say that if something is common in a large group of people, it's probably not an overreaction.
1 year