Bathisum:
Yeah I just saw a thing on TikTok that’s was an interview with a rather large lady complaining about how she was abused by a death feeder. Which is definitely the most extreme side of this kink. The only problem I have with it is I’m almost certain she was a fetish model for a good while talking about being a death feedee. I don’t like to dismiss people when they say they were abused since a lot of people never have the courage to speak up. But… this woman did not seem at all upset or even hesitant about speaking about her previous feeder. I’m not saying she hasn’t gone through some healing but I’ve seen way to many and actually know and talked with too many people who have been abused severely and she did not at all seem like she was genuine. It really came off so much like she was just looking for more fame and followers. Maybe even sympathy and I’m sad to say probably money from it. I genuinely hope that I am reading it wrong and she has got some healing and is choosing to speak out but I personally got a bad feeling from her.

The other biggest issues I’ve seen recently is the influx of people ,sadly mostly women, faking being feedees to try and get money out of people online. On the other end I’ve had about five people reach out since I started posting again and remade my tumblr. That were scammers trying to offer money to support me but the catch is I had to pay a fee to show loyalty. I personally am not gonna accept money from someone I don’t know or haven’t interacted with for a while. I’m looking for friends and connections not handouts.

It just seems that feedism has become more popular but also more hated on because of bad people in the fringes. Or gotten the wrong kind of attention from people simply wanting to use others.

Munchies:
You don't know what she has and has not gone through. And you don't know how much she's healed.

I've been through abuse. There are some things I cannot talk about. Some things I can, but I'm visibly upset. Others I can talk about as if I was talking about the weather.

That said, most issues with feedism are not about death feedists. They tend to keep a low profile because the know they are a fringe subsection of a taboo fetish. Instead, the biggest offenders tend to be feeders with tamer interests that have no respect for others. There is a reason why fat positive activists don't like us.

As for the scammers, someone figured out how profitable feedism can be. However, that's not a feedism-specific issue. They are in every kink community. It is what it is.

AuraBlaize:
Yeah, she's been through A LOT. And honestly, from the clip I've seen, she's just talking about her own experience. Nowhere has she said that every feeder is like that. Her stance has generally been "If you like it, fine, but it's not for me."

Bathisum:
Yeah I just saw a thing on TikTok that’s was an interview with a rather large lady complaining about how she was abused by a death feeder. Which is definitely the most extreme side of this kink. The only problem I have with it is I’m almost certain she was a fetish model for a good while talking about being a death feedee. I don’t like to dismiss people when they say they were abused since a lot of people never have the courage to speak up. But… this woman did not seem at all upset or even hesitant about speaking about her previous feeder. I’m not saying she hasn’t gone through some healing but I’ve seen way to many and actually know and talked with too many people who have been abused severely and she did not at all seem like she was genuine. It really came off so much like she was just looking for more fame and followers. Maybe even sympathy and I’m sad to say probably money from it. I genuinely hope that I am reading it wrong and she has got some healing and is choosing to speak out but I personally got a bad feeling from her.

The other biggest issues I’ve seen recently is the influx of people ,sadly mostly women, faking being feedees to try and get money out of people online. On the other end I’ve had about five people reach out since I started posting again and remade my tumblr. That were scammers trying to offer money to support me but the catch is I had to pay a fee to show loyalty. I personally am not gonna accept money from someone I don’t know or haven’t interacted with for a while. I’m looking for friends and connections not handouts.

It just seems that feedism has become more popular but also more hated on because of bad people in the fringes. Or gotten the wrong kind of attention from people simply wanting to use others.

MottiF:
Any sedentary job and also women feeding you with loads of food like mine will blow you up in no time. Honestly, they are celebrating birthdays almost everyday, which means they bring you a lot of cakes and sweets, nothing is more fattening than this. I bulked up so fast which is both intriguing and terrifying.

Chubbypup:
I started in a place like this 5 months ago. I'm up about 16lb. Intriguing and terrifying indeed!

Rachhole:
Obviously there's been a rise of feedism culture and influencers in the social media spheres. I myself have gone on TV in the UK to share my story.

I did that with two thoughts initially. One was to in a sense make feedism a less negatively sensational kink and more "normalized". Two was to generate more traffic for my fat empire (I have no shame about that).

But on the flip side of the coin, exfeedees are now using feedism in the opposite way by making it into "grooming cult" with all the more stereotypical negative connotations, for clout and to move into more "normal" vapid influencer spaces.

And also outting safe fat spaces.

I think I'm super incensed about it because there are spaces for feedees who leave the community to take care of themselves for medical or mental health reasons. Blasting feedism on social media doesn't do anything but push it back into the weird and creepy space just to get some clickbait for a podcast or magazine that is having a slow news day

But in a secondary rant. If you follow content creators or models on Instagram, X, or Tik tok, be aware we are a dying breed. I along with around 10 other fat models have lost our platforms just this weekend because of fatphobia. God forbid we have our bellies out, that's sexual solicitation. But straight sized people can have their flaps out and it's not a problem.

I suppose I just needed a rant to people who would get it. But what are yalls thoughts: is putting feedism and fat fetish in mainstream helpful in gaining more understanding or detrimental to our community?

Maxtogs:
Back story:So me and my friends both males(24) decided to live with a random we got paired with a female(23) she is on the heavier side and doesn’t seem to mind my friend is heavier than me and is trying to lose weight and well me I pig out.


The past 2 months I’ve gained around 18lbs and I think it’s her fault most morning when I walk down stairs she’s cooking baking ordering and eating(she’s fattened up more than me recently). She denies any of it but I’m upfront she incest I’ve just gained a pound her or there.
But this last week she has really made it clear her motives whenever she buys she buys extra and wants to do my laundry so she can blame it on shrinking
And even today I walked down still bloated from last night and she cooks me a full stack of pancakes

What do u think is she nice or feeding me?

RobbyP:
Strength, flexibility, endurance, mobility and well-functioning organs have always been important to me. Tree-climbing, martial arts and casual sports (mostly tree climbing) were my go-to exercise in my teens. In my twenties I yoyoed, from 170 lean to 211 at my heaviest then. Not until this year had I gone past it. The difference in activity for me is less climbing, not because I can't lift myself but because it would hurt the trees more now. The extra weight allows me to swing heavy objects with less effort, and assists a lot in grappling. My cardio and heart rates were at their unhealthiest when I ate sucrose, grains and soy lecithin in my mid twenties. Switching to raw fruit and/or honey, I'm once again perfectly comfortable with a 540 kcalorie burning, 30 minute elliptical session. The only uncomfortable thoughts I have about appearance are imagining that people will want me erased if I wear sweatpants or gym-shorts out of the house and imagining that my parents wish that I lose weight and keep it off due to a sense of disgust and thinking, "That is the only correct way for a man to live."

ForeverFFA:
Update:

My boyfriend and I have been taking a break and there's other reasons but at least part of it has to do with my concerns over sexual compatibility. I need to make my relationship decision sometime next week.

I feel badly because he's okay with what I like (he's not big but has a little belly himself) and even the fact that I'm on a site like this (since I'm not using it to cheat), and yet, it's exactly because I've been on Fantasy Feeder that I've come to realize the full extent of what I'm missing out on.

It sounds like a lot of you have been saying that this is just too fundamental to get past? Would any of you just try to forget about feedism instead of ending the relationship?