I did help one woman with this problem: askdrfeeder.dyndns.org/letters.html#Amanda

My theory: askdrfeeder.dyndns.org/evolution.html

I had thoughts about feedism early in life, but many don't. E.g. Cherries on Big Cuties. She gained ten pounds to please her boyfriend and to her surprise, really liked it. She ended up gaining a lot more.

I think feedism is a latent thing that can be awakened by experience. Some will never be into it whatever happens. But it may lie dormant in others, just waiting for the right occasion to become active.

The most common way this happens is the "accidental gain" scenario. Someone starts college, or quits sports, or gets a sedentary desk job, gains weight without meaning to, and suddenly realize they like it. Or perhaps it happens to their partner and they suddenly realize they like seeing gains in others.

But anyway, the feeder-initiated scenario, which is what happened to Cherries, is also pretty prevalent.

Okay, but only if you add the link to your profile!

Oops, sorry! askdrfeeder.dyndns.org/pledge.html

Ideally the feeder pays for all the food. But of course that's not always practical.

Surely if you can sincerely recite the Glutton's Pledge you're one...but that's raising the bar pretty high. What are the minimal criteria?

I just chatted with a woman who told me of her bad experiences with feeders. She's learned:

1. Don't bother with feeders who don't praise your body.

2. Don't bother with feeders who don't ever buy you food.

Can anyone add to this list? Or describe signs of a GOOD feeder?

Not to toot my own horn, but "How to Get Fat" on my site that has helped some: askdrfeeder.dyndns.org/htgf.html

I don't know, he sounds selfish and manipulative. It's your body...if you don't want to gain he should respect that.