timportlon wrote
But how to do it without her noticing?
You don't because to do so would be a violation of her trust in you and a generally dickbag thing to do.
14 years
I don't think it should be mandatory, but I also don't see why people are so vehemently against it. I've been called fake on other sites and I've never had much of an issue posting a picture of myself with a sign.
14 years
It's genetic. Different foods won't make her gain in different places.
14 years
Availability of resources and more normalization of feedism would likely result in more people being open about it and less conflicted, yes. The former to a significant degree, but the latter far less so. Even some of my more outspoken gainer friends have their doubts, though, so totally 'unconflicted' might be as uncommon as it ever was.
14 years
Well, basically what you're gonna have to do is make him understand that it's not something that can be changed and that even though he doesn't have to understand why you like fat chicks, he'll have to accept that it's who you are.
If he thinks you need therapy and that this can be "fixed", then it's going to be tough, and it might take a while. But you're 22, you're an adult and in charge of your own life; and if you don't already have your own place, it's likely you will soon, which should help any anxiety you might experience regarding this.
My advice is to let it be for a bit- don't bring it up unless he does. When you talk about it, don't be hostile, but don't be apologetic. There's no reason to be sorry for being you. And one thing that I think might help him understand how basic it is and how you likely can't change it is to ask him whether he prefers, say, blondes or brunettes, and then note that it's kinda like that, only with body type instead of hair color.
Bottom line is that he doesn't need to understand it or even like it (though that'd be nice), he just needs to accept it, and I'd think that as a parent he loves you enough to make an effort... even if that takes a little time.
14 years
Chubby Katie wrote
Thanks for your kind support Dario!
There's a story behind that picture. It was taken last year in our big sitting room after I had my gastric balloon removed and I lost 46 kilos (100 lb - it was supposed to be more than that, but that's another story). I lost 16 inches around the hips and tummy, so I could get into clothes I had in the closet for ages. I just managed to do up the white pants. Jim was here that weekend and said Why don't you see if you can sit in the green tub chair that is in the big sitting room? I used to sit in it when I was smaller, so I tried to sit down slowly but I couldn't and just flopped into it. There was a crack as the wood frame broke and another as my pants split down the seams. When he had finished laughing Jim took several pictures, esp when I couldn't get up and had to crawl on my hands and knees across the room to the sofa and managed to pull myself up on it.
He said he thought he could make up a picture suitable for the family out of all the chaos. I wasn't going to let anyone else see what a mess I was in. I don't know if he used some other image to make it all look decent, but if he did and it offends someone I could remove it. I know he has a library of all sorts of images. I don't know who Connie was but I wouldn't want to offend her memory. She must have had a figure like mine. I'm not very used to looking at pictures of myself (I try to avoid it) and it looked OK to me.
Jim and Dad had to take some of the upholstery off the chair and make some new wood parts to fix the frame. Its an antique, though fortunately not very valuable.
You know, you could settle this by just posting the full-sized picture.
14 years
Not so secret now, is it?
But I can assure you that you're not the only one. Last night a whole bunch of my friends were confessing it when he went up.
14 years
"I can't believe I ate the whole thing" = zero to boner in 1.4 seconds
14 years
I can't be too hard on closet FAs who're a good bit younger than I am. I think that up until people get into college and spend a bit of time away from what they've been constricted and supported by for their entire lives, they can't really express themselves or feel as confident in who they are. This doesn't mean that (F)FAs under the age of, say, 20, should get a total pass, but I'm more willing to excuse a bit of shyness or reluctance to be out with it.
As people get older it's more and more frustrating for them to be afraid, though, and I think that it gets downright infuriating. To be out of college and unwilling to date a fat person (but being willing to go out with a thin one) or to refuse to be a friend to fat people while having no issue having sex with them- to me, that's just wrong.
No excuse at any age, though, for the vile comments that I've seen from some people claiming to be FAs. Whether they're off-hand remarks that weren't thought about or a commentary on how fat is okay but obese is not or anything like that that I've seen firsthand and heard about secondhand- no excuse. Those people are tools.
Also wrong are people who claim to be out and proud, only to prove that they're not in a manner that's shocking and insulting to people they claim to admire and their peers.
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