c00kie:
Do people still get hit on in public? I thought everyone only dated online these days haha...
Seriously though to the OP... I have experienced the same thing, or had a lack of experience of this. Usually the only time it happens is when people are doing the 'pull a pig' joke or it's back handed flirtation, 'you're pretty for a big girl', which puts me off instantly.
I always felt that it was a shame thing on part of the FA. Although they like you and like big guys and gals... They don't want friends or family to know. It's easy for them to hide their preference if they are not already big themselves... and like some of the other posters have put... They can continue fitting into the norm and not be ridiculed, unlike fat people who have to deal with it on a daily basis.
I promised myself a long time ago and I think you should do something similar... I won't date anyone who is ashamed of me. Regardless of size or any other feature about myself physical or otherwise. Do not date closet FA's... It does not make for a good relationship. You wont feel fulfilled, you wont feel good enough, and it will take a toll on your self worth.
I know that seems a little negative but that's the way the c00kie crumbles!
NogutNoglory:
I think that is a great standard to have! You should never date anyone who is ashamed of you!
My answer to this question in short is most guys don’t have balls, period. It’s pathetic. Who are they hanging out with that is so judgmental? Like maybe get some new friends?
It is not even the friends; it depends on which stage of development he is in and we males are taught there are certain things one should have in place and if one doesn't then we are taught that something is wrong with us. It is like this concept that I learned about as an undergraduate called the Casanova Complex in which society expects that guy to get as much sex as he possibly can and if he doesn't then something is wrong with him but those are the tropes we males are taught. Most just go along with it.
4 years
We get you bro; it is all good.
4 years
Agreed. Once you get used to this it becomes quite enjoyable. It helped my learn how to plan better because some things become difficult like long flights of steps. My brother stays in an apartment so I had to at least have enough endurance just to waddle up four flights of steps.
4 years
Ditzy:
The ones here that have a fat fantasy or fetish don't really consider the not so good parts of being large.
WideJuan76:
Yeah, they love the fantasy of it all but not the practical application of it. Like I have to do countdowns and rock back and forth now just to get up
MustBecomegluttonous:
I don't know I'm kinda looking forward to struggling to get up. And barley being able to walk
We are not saying that there aren't any perks to our obesity but folks don't realize that you can't just wish the fat away; it does come with some slight nuisances.
4 years
Ditzy:
The ones here that have a fat fantasy or fetish don't really consider the not so good parts of being large.
Yeah, they love the fantasy of it all but not the practical application of it. Like I have to do countdowns and rock back and forth now just to get up
4 years
Ditzy:
Juan when I was 420 ish I wore what was basically panty hose for the torso.
If I didn't wear it sometimes my belly would get irritated by the seam of the top I was wearing.
Skin rubbing back and forth on fabric can get painful.
Ditzy, I empathize with you completely. When I was around two hundred, wearing a belt was nothing but as I got fat I used to get irritation because I had more stomach outside of my pants. But then as I got obese, I got the same thing that you got and it used to get on my nerves but such is life when we are obese
4 years
slopfatjim:
A belly that hangs, hangs well low minimum knees, the thought of having it slopping and swaying about, the weight pulling on my skin, being unable to cover it all up, being such a fat pig the fat hangs from me, its also the permanance of it, no diet would shift it only surgery - but it would be so risky id have to carry it for life
This is part of the reason that I decided to be four hundred pounds again because when I initially lost the weight it took years but I lost the elasticity in my skin even though I lifted weights so I looked like a deflated balloon so I decided to get back to where I was. I never thought that I would miss my gut hitting my thighs as I walked and having a lap was non-existent
4 years
Ditzy:
My big belly is really flabby and hangs down so my butt goes one way then my belly goes the other as I walk.
The crazy thing is that once I crossed 340 that started to happen. When I used to be four hundred, to keep my body from unnecessary jiggling from side to side; I bought compression tops to keep everything in place but and just tucked my gut and compression shirt in my pants
4 years
SwiftKey:
I am completely new in feederism and don’t know a lot of things, so I’ll ask here. What are the ways to quickly gain subcutaneous fat for a thin beginner feedee? How to get a soapy drop-shaped tummy, and not an inflated ball? What and when i need to eat, what i need to do?
Look up the profile called becomingoverweight; he has done extensive posts on this and he has helped me tremendously and a hanging gut has been my result....
4 years
I used to be an American Football player post college and I got tired of the wear and tear so I just used the same concepts for training and I used them to gain. I didn't go more than three days with actively gorging. It helped me get to 280 but what helped me was that I implemented weight gainer shakes on gorging days in between feasts but I used A2 milk to help develop more subcutaneous fat and I just slowly did that to the point that instead of not going three days without feasting I changed it to not going more than two days without doing it and by doing that my body it forced my body to adjust in which my body most have said: "This is the new normal so lets store this as compound and access fat!" It worked wonders for me....
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