S3ndh3lp:
What constitutes dirty talk to you in this fetish?

Munchies:
There's actually a lot more body diversity in male and female bodies. I'm not sure why so many people thing that men only gain one way or women only gain another when there's so much evidence to the contrary.

For example, I knew this guy at work that had the most exaggerated pear shape I ever saw. From his torso up, he looked like he was in the low 200s. But he looked twice as big from the ass down.

Curiousv:
"There are more right-handed people than left handed ones."
"No, you are wrong! There is so much evidence to the contrary! For example, I know this guy who is left-handed."

Anjou:
My fiancé can really handle the cream, and he can pack on easy 12lbs a week consuming it

ILuvChubbyChix:
12?!

Are you sure that's not fluid/water retention?

Can I also guess this means he probably works 100% remote?

Munchies:
Based on my interaction with a previous feedee, it's possible. However, you have to go balls to the walls hard to achieve that. We're talking an excess of 10k calories a day. We were horny and dumb.

It's not sustainable, and it can mess up your internals. I do not recommend it.

Anjou:
I am sure a fair amount was water. But yes he was hitting around 10,000 kcal a day when he was working from home.
And no it is not healthy, hence not done anymore. Ngl though…watching him gain that fast was the hottest thing I have ever witnessed.

Munchies:
Oh yeah, it was super hot. I'm into extreme weight gain, so seeing him blow up like mad was really arousing.

However, he was reckless with this health, and that's one of the many reasons he's no longer my feedee.

Nofbar:
How much and fast did he gain? What happened to make this stop?

Munchies:
In half a year, he'd gained about 100 lbs. He got obsessed with heavy cream shakes. He'd consume about 10k of the stuff daily at the bare minimum.

The problem is that he stopped eating solid foods. Everything was about getting as fat as fast as possible. And in his mind, drinking his calories made more sense than eating.

There was a noticeable behavior shift as well. When we first met, he was this funny, thoughtful nerd with many interests. He was doing well in life overall. But about two or three months into being like this, he left all his responsibilities to the wayside.

His cognitive skills nose-dived. He was making a lot of dumb decisions, and we got into a lot of arguments. If I had enough sense, I'd have dumped him at this time. But I felt responsible, so I stayed.

Unfortunately, he started pulling away from me and ignoring my requests for medical updates. I wanted to make sure he stayed relatively healthy. He wanted to keep getting fat. And I also suspect there was an element of shame too. Kept going on about how he didn't deserve me.

Eventually, I had to make peace that this was going nowhere good and ended the relationship. I don't know if he actually stopped.

DMVGrower:
Wow that is concerning, sort of sounds like he got caught up in the whole thing. I mean 100 lbs in half a year is astronomical.

Munchies:
You made a mistake when you shortened my response. You attributed my words to someone else.


Nofbar:
Whoops! Fixed.

Fattenssbbws:
I agree with your sentiments. I maintained an athletic build for years and always encouraged the women I was with to gain weight but I never really understood what they were going through. I decided at the beginning of last year that I was going to put on some weight just to see what it was like.

Originally it was going to be a one month gain. I weighed 165 at the time. Next thing I know, I'm going to my yearly physical at the beginning of September and I weighed 206. I lost some weight just by reforming to my normal eating habits and by December 2022 I was down to 195. I decided to start gaining again and I'm currently 207 but would like to hit at least 215 by the time I go in for my next physical at the beginning of September. I've noticed certain things I used to take for granted like tying my shoes is hard to do now. I do like the white stretch marks that I now have on my thighs, hips, and butt that were never there before but I'm disappointed I don't have any on my belly since that is what shows the greatest gain. I don't know how to get them because I've already gained rapidly. Also, my belly has softened from my original gain when it was much firmer but I'd like for my tummy to be more flabby and jelly-like if anyone has any suggestions on that.

I feel like I have a lot more empathy now though for BBWs than I had before my own gain.

Nofbar:
How much and fast did he gain? What happened to make this stop?

Munchies:
In half a year, he'd gained about 100 lbs. He got obsessed with heavy cream shakes. He'd consume about 10k of the stuff daily at the bare minimum.

The problem is that he stopped eating solid foods. Everything was about getting as fat as fast as possible. And in his mind, drinking his calories made more sense than eating.

There was a noticeable behavior shift as well. When we first met, he was this funny, thoughtful nerd with many interests. He was doing well in life overall. But about two or three months into being like this, he left all his responsibilities to the wayside.

His cognitive skills nose-dived. He was making a lot of dumb decisions, and we got into a lot of arguments. If I had enough sense, I'd have dumped him at this time. But I felt responsible, so I stayed.

Unfortunately, he started pulling away from me and ignoring my requests for medical updates. I wanted to make sure he stayed relatively healthy. He wanted to keep getting fat. And I also suspect there was an element of shame too. Kept going on about how he didn't deserve me.

Eventually, I had to make peace that this was going nowhere good and ended the relationship. I don't know if he actually stopped.

Anjou:
Mine did not stop eating healthy foods; but he was becoming addicted to seeing the rapid gains cream can bring.
I think for a gainer heavy cream can act like a body building steroid. The gains can come so fast and easy that it creates a body image issues.
But a 100lbs in six months is crazy

Raboot The Admirer:
It's good to read a post like this. I'll be honest, this community scares me sometimes, and part of the reasons why are those people that seem unable to draw a line, unaware of the extent of the consequences all of this can have.
Reading health advice from someone (into feedism) that knows what they are talking about is also super helpful.

Anjou:
Eventually, I had to make peace that this was going nowhere good and ended the relationship. I don't know if he actually stopped.

Nofbar:
Bizarre and sad. A few people I've known quickly went from generally good to nasty and narcisistic. Trying to figure out why made me depressed if I spent too much time at it.

Angy523:
Before saying anything else, I want to apologise in case I'll offend anyone or if this would be inappropriate for this site (also, sorry for my poor english, but keep in mind it isn't the language I speak every day).

So, it may be a rant, but:
I really enjoy feederism. If you check my profile, you can see I am actually into it. My partener is gaining, I'm pretty much a feeder etc. So don't take this as hate for this fetish.

My problem is: it can be dangerous. Not only this one, bdsm can be too. But there the danger is obvious while here, I noticed many people don't realise it.

I know many of you have fantasies of being immobile. I also know many won't get to that point and for many it is just a fantasy, but they wouldn't be able to deal with this in real life and will get scared at the first medical issue because they don't realise how hard it actually is.

Anyway, I want to speak only for the ones who don't have this kind of fantasy and want to be as healthy as possible during their gaining and much more for feeders (specially for the dom ones). Yes, I have this rant because of a feeder I talked to on this site. If you enjoy this fetish so much, why don't you read more about it? Can you even call yourself a feeder if all you know is that your feedee should eat more sweets and fast food, if everything you can say is "eat eat eat" and them ask for impossible to eat quantities of food? If your feedee genuinely wants to do some exercise and you won't allow it because you think this will make him/her lose weight?

I don't want to address to that person who annoyed me today, but I just want to mention some (imo) important informations I think anyone who has this fetish should know (many of you already do know them, I noticed this, so if you'll be nice to add any other info you think it should be known on this topic, it would be nice):

1. Fast food is not the only food which makes someone gain. It only matters to be calorie dense food, it isn't mandatory to be unhealthy. Having snacks as nuts would also make a great job, better than chips actually.

2. Eating fruits won't make someone lose weight. Sure, they don't have as many calories as chocolate, but you can try them with chocolate. They contain fibers which have many benefits.

3. Exercise won't make you thin. Trust me, there are a lot of people on this planet who try to overcome a bad diet with exercise. It doesn't work, it's hard to burn that many calories if you are eating enough. The exercise only will keep you healthier and sometimes it could make you even hungrier (also, it can be something enjoyable as a fetish...getting out of breath while your feeder does the same exercise as a warm up? Think about that 😉)

4. (For the ones who enjoy water inflation) There is a thing called water poisoning or water intoxication. You can actually drink too much water and it can be dangerous. Look it up.

5. As a feeder, you shouldn't push your feedee to eat too much every day. He/she has to also enjoy the process, so don't make this become an unpleasant routine. It's not easy to stuff yourself everyday and human body can't adapt that fast. They can feel sick or just feel the need to eat less sometimes so don't get pushy if you're unable to understand their experience.

In the end I just want to say I don't try to change what you guys do. If you don't want to exercise or you just want to eat only fast food, it's completely fine for me and it's none of my business. This meant to be just some pice of information in case you wanted to exercise or eat healthier but thought it would affect your gaining.

P.S. Idk if it matters, but I have a bachelor's and master's degree in performance sports and physical education (which means I studied nutrition and physiology as well) so I don't speak uninformed. Anyway, I always encourage people to check facts so you don't need to trust my word. This is actually the point, to encourage people to educate about everything related to their fantasies.