So long as there's open and honest communication, I don't see the point in feeling guilty. It's simply fortuitous.

For me, there's three ways:

Fit person needing to put on weight for a reason (sport, movie role) and enjoying themselves a little too much.

Gaining weight while recovering from and injury. Bonus points if they have someone to spoil them with treats and good food.

Sympathy weight gain during their partner's pregnancy and never losing the weight.

Those who know more about a kink - even if it's just that the kink exists - have an advantage over outsiders. As such, we have the ability to greatly influence how a non-feedist partner practices feedism. And that goes for any kink.

Of course, that influence will be there no matter what. But a good partner will do whatever it takes to give their partner agency as they figure out their boundaries and interests.

I've noticed in the forums that whenever a feedist (usually a feeder) brings their non-feedist partner into the kink, the ones that ensure their partner's agency tend to work out better long term than those that don't.

True. I've mostly gone after bigger guys, but not all of them have been feedists. Of those that weren't feedists, were happy with their bodies. They didn't want to lose weight, but they didn't want to gain it either. Others just wanted to be fitter or slimmer.

Fortunately, feedism isn't a deal breaker and I am happy to do other things.

That being said, I'd rather a non-feedist become a feedist because they honestly enjoy it, and not because they feel like they have to do it to please me. I love dominance play and all, but power imbalances? No thank you. I've been on both sides of that coin. Never ends well.

This is why I take umbrage with Dr. Feeder using the word "teach" in this context. It implies there's a power imbalance. The potential feedee becomes an object for the feeder to fulfill their fetish. The feedee doesn't get to find out what works for them.

Meanwhile, kink negotiations center the person and not the kink. It makes for a more mutually satisfying outcome.

Correct. And if you paid attention to everything else I said, I said in my original post that all you can do is kink negotiations

Back when I was a gainer, I started off with goal weights. This developed into a borderline eating disorder. Once I stopped weighing myself, it was a lot better for me.

Now that I'm a feeder, I have to say it's more fun to focus on the overall shape than it is to hit a specific goal weight. It's a lot less stressful and lets us enjoy things more.

On the flip side, don't get too wrapped up in your body shape. Sometimes, things won't turn out exactly how you want them to. Maybe you were hoping to be bottom-heavy, but everything goes straight to your middle.

Gain if it makes you feel good. Stop when it doesn't. And love yourself through the entire process.

Might need more than a month.

According to your profile, you are 220 lbs. The average human eats about 3-4 lbs of food a day. This comes out to 55 days.

Hypothetically speaking, you could eat 8 lbs of food in a day and make it in 27 - 28 days. However, based on my experiences with stuffing my feedees all day for extended stretches of time, you won't be able to eat that much consistently.

Also, depending on your current capacity, you may be unable to eat 8 lbs in a day. You'd need to train yourself to eat that much.

It's possible you're right. However crash diets and restrictive eating can, ironically, make people gain weight.

When your body no longer knows when to expect food, it lowers your metabolism. This leads to weight gain.

I don't think you are ruining anything.

There's something ... unsettling about leaning into the predatory homosexual stereotype. And not just the hypothetical gay men. Spekbil also expects Celiamarie, a woman who isn't heterosexual, to be abusive too.

Not a good look.

Replace him? Subs are people, not used tissues, man.

Maybe not for real as that's human trafficking.