Hazelinthesun:
Hey I’m pretty new here and only found the site because I found out my boyfriend likes it and is a “feeder” and secretly fed me in the past. I didn’t know it at the time. I’m exploring the idea of doing small intentful gains for his pleasure but I am worried it could get carried away and that would make me feel uncomfortable.

What are good limits to set and has anyone had a successful submissive healthy relationship and if so how did you manage? Examples wood be helpful.

How do you limit non-consensual feeding? I don’t want surprises in my food again.

How did you measure or know she/he gained weight if the boundaries are set to only have small gains? Is it pointless to start if I don’t want big gains and will he just want more in the end?

Fatboyfeeder:
This is a very slippery slope. He already has fantasized you at 400 lbs. Food is a powerful drug and he knows how to use it.

Maxtogs:
I haven’t seen my parents since my weight gain what should I say/do

LuvsChub04:
ya I swear family can be worse then doctors.. Yet just be you n 'try' not to let there moments get to you.. why I bring a flask when I see my fataphobic mom...

ForeverFFA:
Tingling can also be caused by unhealthy amounts of pressure on the spine or a nerve. Whatever the cause, it sounds like your body is sending warning signs that it needs a break.

BigBallBellyGirl:
I have just in the past week had a bit of a reality check with myself, because I do want to remain mobile. I'm 29 and a working professional, and my partner is moderately physically active. I've been putting on 7 to 10 pounds a week lately, and obviously, that can't go on indefinitely. While I'm 403 now and still hope to get to 450, I'm going to try slowing down to see if that helps with my belly pain, bizarre tingling, and sore belly button. My partner agrees that's probably best. Maybe 2 pounds a week is more sustainable!

Munchies:
It is, but you will probably need to have gaining breaks all together of you want to let your body recover.

I also caution against stopping cold turkey. I'm a feeder that enjoys super intense stuffings, and I've been around the block a bit. If you go cold turkey, you'll struggle a lot. I find transitioning into better eating habits to be more effective. It takes about a month to do, and you'll still gain weight during this time, but you won't have such a hard time dealing with cravings.

Week 1: Eat anything you want, but don't stuff yourself.
Week 2: Eat as much as you want without stuffing yourself, but eat cleaner.
Week 3 - 4: Decrease your portion sizes over time until you have a normal amount of food during meals. Continue to eat clean.

Since you have a supportive partner, involve him in your goals. It's easier to stop/slow down when you aren't going it alone.

MottiF:
That’s seems like very good advice

Munchies:
Tried and true, baby.

BigBallBellyGirl:
I can tell my issue is going to be recognizing that I don't have the be stuffed to the absolute limit to be satisfied. Over the weekend, I had several large "normal" meals... restaurant portions... that most people wouldn't be able to finish. But I felt an intense desire to pack in more food. I think in my head, "satisfied" has started to equate "about to burst and unable to breathe". That said, I've never had a desire to be immobile, and my absolute cap is 500 pounds, so there was always going to be a big transition at some point.

Maxtogs:
I haven’t seen my parents since my weight gain what should I say/do

Munchies:
It's not their business. So unless you haven't been taking care of yourself, they don't really have a leg to stand on if they try to say something.

That said, what sort of people are your parents?

Maxtogs:
Very strict health nuts when I last saw them I was around 160 lean

Maxtogs:
I haven’t seen my parents since my weight gain what should I say/do

RobbyP:
You'd know better than any of us. In my humble experience, a general boost of mental and physical capability for one day is the free meditation called "Isha Kriya", which is about 15 minutes long on youtube channel "Sadhguru". If you're going to do it, take no breaks during and do it until the end. This is deep inner work, and is best done completely if at all. Seriously, no breaks, no ending halfway for any 15 minute practice. That's for one's own wellbeing.

Maxtogs:
I haven’t seen my parents since my weight gain what should I say/do

Maxtogs:
Recently I’ve been stuffing myself in public and around friends, but I’ve been trying to make it known by sticking out my belly anyone else do the same?

Letters And Numbers:


Thought we were getting some McGuire twins at first!

ForeverFFA:
Tingling can also be caused by unhealthy amounts of pressure on the spine or a nerve. Whatever the cause, it sounds like your body is sending warning signs that it needs a break.

BigBallBellyGirl:
I have just in the past week had a bit of a reality check with myself, because I do want to remain mobile. I'm 29 and a working professional, and my partner is moderately physically active. I've been putting on 7 to 10 pounds a week lately, and obviously, that can't go on indefinitely. While I'm 403 now and still hope to get to 450, I'm going to try slowing down to see if that helps with my belly pain, bizarre tingling, and sore belly button. My partner agrees that's probably best. Maybe 2 pounds a week is more sustainable!

Munchies:
It is, but you will probably need to have gaining breaks all together of you want to let your body recover.

I also caution against stopping cold turkey. I'm a feeder that enjoys super intense stuffings, and I've been around the block a bit. If you go cold turkey, you'll struggle a lot. I find transitioning into better eating habits to be more effective. It takes about a month to do, and you'll still gain weight during this time, but you won't have such a hard time dealing with cravings.

Week 1: Eat anything you want, but don't stuff yourself.
Week 2: Eat as much as you want without stuffing yourself, but eat cleaner.
Week 3 - 4: Decrease your portion sizes over time until you have a normal amount of food during meals. Continue to eat clean.

Since you have a supportive partner, involve him in your goals. It's easier to stop/slow down when you aren't going it alone.

MottiF:
That’s seems like very good advice

ForeverFFA:
Tingling can also be caused by unhealthy amounts of pressure on the spine or a nerve. Whatever the cause, it sounds like your body is sending warning signs that it needs a break.

BigBallBellyGirl:
I have just in the past week had a bit of a reality check with myself, because I do want to remain mobile. I'm 29 and a working professional, and my partner is moderately physically active. I've been putting on 7 to 10 pounds a week lately, and obviously, that can't go on indefinitely. While I'm 403 now and still hope to get to 450, I'm going to try slowing down to see if that helps with my belly pain, bizarre tingling, and sore belly button. My partner agrees that's probably best. Maybe 2 pounds a week is more sustainable!

Munchies:
It is, but you will probably need to have gaining breaks all together of you want to let your body recover.

I also caution against stopping cold turkey. I'm a feeder that enjoys super intense stuffings, and I've been around the block a bit. If you go cold turkey, you'll struggle a lot. I find transitioning into better eating habits to be more effective. It takes about a month to do, and you'll still gain weight during this time, but you won't have such a hard time dealing with cravings.

Week 1: Eat anything you want, but don't stuff yourself.
Week 2: Eat as much as you want without stuffing yourself, but eat cleaner.
Week 3 - 4: Decrease your portion sizes over time until you have a normal amount of food during meals. Continue to eat clean.

Since you have a supportive partner, involve him in your goals. It's easier to stop/slow down when you aren't going it alone.

BigBallBellyGirl:
This guidance sounds very manageable and realistic

Munchies:
Thank you! This is a method that I have tested myself, and I can confirm its effectiveness.

BigBallBellyGirl:
I'm going to try this, because i've started to have SO MANY negative effects from gaining 80 pounds in about 10 weeks. I love every ounce, and I enjoy the way I look and would love to be bigger, but I do think you're right about needing a break. In addition to the tingling and pressure, my BP also went up from around 130/95 to a consistent 170/120, and that concerned my partner. He's into stuffing me and much as I'm into super-stuffings myself, but he'd be absolutely supportive even if I needed to lose. We talked about giving it a couple of months to see how I feel. It's been a fun ride though.