AskDrFeeder:
I have imagined being in a relationship with two slender women who find out I'm a feeder who compete for my affections, each one trying to gain more weight than the other. Maybe if one falls too far behind we tie her up and force feed her or whatever--there are many variations.

Otacon0205:
That is fair, but as a certain degree of laziness and hedonism are commonly intrinsic into this kink, I can see how you may reach a certain point you would feel like completely indulging into it without ever looking back, that’s the point I’m talking about.


As per your comment, yes with enough will power you can still achieve in life most of what you set your mind to, including losing the weight if that is what you want.
Also agree it is certainly a mental state.

In my case my point was also dictated by the fact that physically, no matter how much I may work out, I will never regain that level of fitness and skin tightness as before my gains, hence why I see it as a point of no return as there is no way I can go back to that exact state without now considering undergoing surgery). The point of no return to me is when you know there will be consequences now for your decision to gain and you can’t just go back as nothing happened.

Otacon0205:
That is fair, but as a certain degree of laziness and hedonism are commonly intrinsic into this kink, I can see how you may reach a certain point you would feel like completely indulging into it without ever looking back, that’s the point I’m talking about.


As per your comment, yes with enough will power you can still achieve in life most of what you set your mind to, including losing the weight if that is what you want.
Also agree it is certainly a mental state.

Otacon0205:
I’m curious to see what occurrence made you realize you will never be able to go back and from then on you could only stay big or get bigger.

In recent years I have yo yoed a lot and got big to 250, then back at 190, then again 245 and then back to 200 my current weight and working my way back up.

My moment was during my recent loss of weight and saw all the extra skin that I was getting on my stomach. Skin does not like for weight to fluctuate that much. The realization that only surgery from now on will be able to give me back a proper shape around my mid section certainly helped cementing even more the idea I want and I prefer myself bigger. Certainly helped motivate me as I got back seriously on my gaining routine.
If I can’t be skinny again, then I want to be the fattest I can be.

Munchies:

Thanks!

I may make a separate thread with free/low cost resources when I have the time.

Letters And Numbers:
That’s awesome. For all the same reasons I made this thread originally, I think as a community we can work cooperatively to make cooler art, whether it’s high art or smut! And I think we can talk about and critique the work better and more cooperatively.

BigBoyBravery:
Had anyone on here thought about being in a thruple type relationship? If so, how do you imagine it??

I love contrast so I've always pictured myself with a big broad meaty body builder type dude that clearly doesn't skip leg day and a toned calorie counting cutie gf with a booty. 🥰

All three of us striving for totally different bodies and lustfully intoxicated by each others differences.

Munchies:
The key to writing a good sex scene: vanilla or otherwise, is transporting the reader into the scene. Not as if they are spectators but rather active participants.

Here are some articles that helped me when I started writing sex scenes ages ago:

dianagabaldon.com/2012/07/how-to-write-sex-scenes/

dianagabaldon.com/2012/07/how-to-write-sex-scenes/

dianagabaldon.com/2012/07/how-to-write-sex-scenes/

Another important element of a good sex scene is character design and the choreography. Just as artists and animators have references or act out certain scenes, writers can do the same. It brings cohesion to your work and can make some aspects of writing easier.

I see many stories here that describe characters in ways that don't make any sense. For example, a writer might describe a woman as "fat and busty" when she is 5'6", 130 lbs, and a B cup. That will ruin the immersion for anyone who knows what such a woman would look like.

I found this site ages ago, and it really helps figure things out:

dianagabaldon.com/2012/07/how-to-write-sex-scenes/

You can select a gender, height, and weight to find tons of matches. Just flick through the photos until you find the body shape you're looking at.

In terms of scene choreography, there are many different techniques. You can act things out alone, with a partner, or make rough sketches. Hell, even crude stick figures will do. Don't be afraid to make notes or reread previous scenes so you can keep relevant details in mind.

Letters And Numbers:
Those links are all great and well worth reading for any authors out there!

Bigfatjeebus:
Thank you so much for this information!!!!! Honestly this is what I have been looking for for so long.

In regards to your question, losing weight puts me into a deep depressive spiral and completely shuts off any sexual desire and really messes with how my body generally feels (it feels...gross ) when I lose weight.

I essentially have the opposite reaction as to when a civilian feels when they gain weight.

I've talked with numerous therapists over the years about this and it really isn't meeting criteria at all for BDD or any other mental health disorder. While I do have mental health issues, they are the typical ones most people experience (anxiety and ADHD).

So it puts me in a very tough spot if I had to lose for physical well being. So I'm trying to maximize how I can stay or gain at this weight. Don't get me wrong...I absolutely love the size I am now...and if I had to cash out and remain this size I'd be totally happy. But gaining to my goal weight has always been a dream of mine before I die.

MickRidem:
Like you, and for my own many reasons, weight loss puts me in a depressive spiral as well. I recently got the "high blood sugar" alert and I'm trying to cope.