Fantasy Feeder

Make pm not based on reads but on send messages also for chat

LoraDayton:
I was just thinking this same thing last night. It's really unfair given how the chat constantly shifts the user list that it's SO easy to mis-click and open a chat with someone you didn't want to talk to and/or is blocked and it still counts just by oepning it.

and the thing is that we've had this before. previous chat applications required explicit permission from the recipient to chat - they would sent a request that could be accepted or denied.

It's also really hard to read what little information we already have. The yellow highlight makes the username very difficult to read. All we can go off of is the demographic details and the profile picture.

2 years

Munchies

What is the sexiest outfit to outgrow?

VisibleBellyOutline:
Which outfits do you think best accentuate weight gain? Like I think low rise jeans really showcase love handles and an overspilling tummy. Likewise, crushed velvet clings to developing curves without hiding them. Any other particular favourites?

Munchies:
Button down shirts

VisibleBellyOutline:
Excellent choice! Especially when they don't quite button down...

Or they pop off ~

2 years

Munchies

Alternate worlds where one sex is fat and the other thin. do you like/dislike this story concept

Enas:
I think it's extremely hard to write something good, actually good out of it. For the reasons the previous people here have already expressed.
As a fetish fantasy just to get people off, i guess it is... fine, but anything deeper will crush into rocks of oppression and it won't go well.

I do try to write a story of a similar theme where it's not one gender fat and the other thin but it's an ancient /utopian / fantasy mix where there is a matriarchical society, so one gender is dominant, but this, as i said, is utopian

And the oppression that goes with domination simply doesn't exist in that world because the people that are in the dominant positions actually care for the others' feelings and lives, and i mean that on the best way.

So make sure to drown out all the negative realities that comes with what you suggest in the title.

And also think carefully about what's the purpose of that story! For example with my story i put it in the way i did because i feel that's a good way to mix what turns me on, and i also wanted to highlight how importand love is. Because if you think about it if one person is dominant over others but caring, then it's love what keeps this balance away from barbarism!

And please, let me know what you think about what i just wrote!

Munchies:
So ... reverse harem anime where MC is Just Some Guy (TM) and all the pretty ladies love him. A classic choice.

And I wouldn't say it's love so much as it is about mutual respect. You don't have to love someone to do right by them.

Enas:
😂 Not really a harem because they don't keep the guys locked, i dont know how to describe it but it's more like the women (mostly) make the importand choices but they care for the men too!

Also yes mutual respect is what's needed but alone it's just... Boring! Love brings so much joy to life, in the meantime!

That's not what I mean, Enas. A reverse harem/harem is a trope. Although, I suppose this would actually be a harem since the MC is a guy and not a woman.

For more information:

tvtropes.org/pmwiki/pmwiki.php/Main/HaremGenre

Also, you need to stop thinking about respect being boring. Respect is integral. If you cannot respect someone, you cannot love them. Speaking from experience as an abuse survivor.

2 years

Munchies

Alternate worlds where one sex is fat and the other thin. do you like/dislike this story concept

Enas:
I think it's extremely hard to write something good, actually good out of it. For the reasons the previous people here have already expressed.
As a fetish fantasy just to get people off, i guess it is... fine, but anything deeper will crush into rocks of oppression and it won't go well.

I do try to write a story of a similar theme where it's not one gender fat and the other thin but it's an ancient /utopian / fantasy mix where there is a matriarchical society, so one gender is dominant, but this, as i said, is utopian

And the oppression that goes with domination simply doesn't exist in that world because the people that are in the dominant positions actually care for the others' feelings and lives, and i mean that on the best way.

So make sure to drown out all the negative realities that comes with what you suggest in the title.

And also think carefully about what's the purpose of that story! For example with my story i put it in the way i did because i feel that's a good way to mix what turns me on, and i also wanted to highlight how importand love is. Because if you think about it if one person is dominant over others but caring, then it's love what keeps this balance away from barbarism!

And please, let me know what you think about what i just wrote!

So ... reverse harem anime where MC is Just Some Guy (TM) and all the pretty ladies love him. A classic choice.

And I wouldn't say it's love so much as it is about mutual respect. You don't have to love someone to do right by them.

2 years

Munchies

What is the sexiest outfit to outgrow?

VisibleBellyOutline:
Which outfits do you think best accentuate weight gain? Like I think low rise jeans really showcase love handles and an overspilling tummy. Likewise, crushed velvet clings to developing curves without hiding them. Any other particular favourites?

Button down shirts

2 years

Munchies

Too fat for feeders but too fit for feeders?

Munchies:
Being a woman is very hard in online feedist spaces. Female FAs and feeders have a unique challenge because so many feedists see being an FA or a feeder as a masculine thing and being a feedee as a feminine thing.

I am not saying this to say that female FAs and feeders have it worse than female feedees. God knows the kind of abuse I've seen them go through. I'm simply saying that we have different struggles.

I have lost count for the number of men who cannot believe a woman can be anything but a feedee. Some of them have tried their hardest to "convert" me to become one because "that's what women do". They have threatened, harrassed, and attempted to manipulate me just because I don't fit into their weird gender expectations.

I know why they think that way. When online feedist spaces first started, nearly all feeders and FAs were men and nearly all feedees were women. Even though times have changed, some things still linger.

Think about it. Why are men FAs and not MFAs? Why do some people think it's weird if a woman refers to herself as an FA and not an FFA? We've made great strides as a community, but we still have a ways to go.

Most female FAs and feeders are not crazy. If they don't feel welcome, they will leave. I don't blame them. Hell, some days I feel like I'm still here out of spite and not a desire to be around like minded people.

Things aren't as bad as they used to be, but they still aren't great. It's my hope that we has a community can make this place safer for women. It's win-win. If more women feel safe enough to be here, then it won't be has hard for male gainers and feedees to find femals FAs and feeders.

DMVGrower:
You know, that is sort of interesting if you think about it. Considering how the idea of a woman "fattening up her man" whether out of desire or to keep other women off him, or because she likes cooking for him is such a common thing. And even our collectie folk tales feature men being the ones who get fat, like Hansel and Gretel.

What an ... interesting response to me talking about the strugglings women face.

2 years

Munchies

Too fat for feeders but too fit for feeders?

Munchies:
Being a woman is very hard in online feedist spaces. Female FAs and feeders have a unique challenge because so many feedists see being an FA or a feeder as a masculine thing and being a feedee as a feminine thing.

I am not saying this to say that female FAs and feeders have it worse than female feedees. God knows the kind of abuse I've seen them go through. I'm simply saying that we have different struggles.

I have lost count for the number of men who cannot believe a woman can be anything but a feedee. Some of them have tried their hardest to "convert" me to become one because "that's what women do". They have threatened, harrassed, and attempted to manipulate me just because I don't fit into their weird gender expectations.

I know why they think that way. When online feedist spaces first started, nearly all feeders and FAs were men and nearly all feedees were women. Even though times have changed, some things still linger.

Think about it. Why are men FAs and not MFAs? Why do some people think it's weird if a woman refers to herself as an FA and not an FFA? We've made great strides as a community, but we still have a ways to go.

Most female FAs and feeders are not crazy. If they don't feel welcome, they will leave. I don't blame them. Hell, some days I feel like I'm still here out of spite and not a desire to be around like minded people.

Things aren't as bad as they used to be, but they still aren't great. It's my hope that we has a community can make this place safer for women. It's win-win. If more women feel safe enough to be here, then it won't be has hard for male gainers and feedees to find femals FAs and feeders.

Enas:
Its ridiculous how easy fixing this is, except when you try to spread it through other people...
I don't understand why... It's such a simple logic to make things work better, i really don't understand. I guess it has to do more with sociological, rather than psychological reasons, because on the latter it doesn't even make much sense! When you're trying to explain it to another person they understand. Yet nothing changes much...

I think FF as a whole whould benefit massively for having a section on advice about this kind of stuff, rather than the se conversations burried in the forums. This is vital, it's not like the everyday forum post! I've tried to bring up the idea once but it didn't work as i intended...

That would not work. It would be a waste of time for whoever types it up.

Bigotry and internalized bigotry exist for a wide variety of personal and system issues. There's only so much you can do on the individual level because people are different. The best you can do is have a robust mod team that enforces the rules uniformly and fairly. And even then, things would still slip through the cracks.

You can't fix people. The best thing you can do is change the culture and the systems. And even that is an uphill battle.

2 years

Munchies

Too fat for feeders but too fit for feeders?

Ex Jock:
Anyone feel this way? Would you agree if that’s where I am? Feel like weird middle ground where haven’t fully committed to one, or in between limits but really just going with the flow.

I know you can’t please everyone

Circling back to OP's original topic, I've noticed there's a lot of fatphobia in the fat fetish community. Ironic, I know. But you see it a lot - especially with the fit-to-fat crowd.

I see a lot of people treat being fat like they failed to be thin. I'm not talking about erotic fat shaming. I've interacted with a lot of people who are either coming to terms with their fetish or are in the fetish community because it's the only place they feel like people will want them.

I've also spoken to feeders and FAs that go after fat people because "they're easy", or as I like to call it "They tend to have lower self-esteem and I can manipulate them easier." Some of them don't even try to hide it because some feedees/gainers are so desperate and lonely that they will go after these toxic/abusive people.

OP, for now, just focus on loving yourself. Don't worry so much about being the right size for a feeder. A good feeder will cherish and respect you no matter your size.

2 years

Munchies

Competitive eating

MottiF:
So just curious about your opinion regarding this. Joey Chestnut has just won (again) the annual eating competition. His achievement is really impressive.

A stomach is the size of a fist and a half and in competitions such this it can swell four times or more. This creates irreversible stretching damage in the stomach tissues and it does not return to its original size. Like a rubber band that is too much stretched and doesn't shrink.

To reach these volumes the competitors training hard with eating cabbage and drink a lot of water to swell their stomachs. While most people see it as a disgusting tournament, in our community it something we really all share: the love for overeating.

But still, a study which was conducted at the University of Pennsylvania showed the damage in such “trainings”: obesity, damage to the stomach tissue, vomiting, nausea and many times surgeries to repair the stomach.

Joey has won 16 times in this challenge (out of 17) and his record is 74 sausages. Yesterday he ate a total of 10,880 calories in 10 minutes! Is not overweight so he is pushing himself hard (maybe in physical trainings?) to make sure is not gaining too much weight.

So what do you think? Will you participate in such challenges? Or participated in such tournaments?

A lot of my advice on increasing capacity is directly from the world of competitive eating. I love competitive eating stories. They are a huge turn on for me.

2 years

Munchies

Too fat for feeders but too fit for feeders?

Morbidly A Beast:
Also in my experience it seems straight ffa’s are more into already fat guys as opposed to ones who are skinny or want to become fat, i could stand corrected on this but it seems to be the general consensus

Munchies:
There are a good chunk of FFAs who prefer a "blank slate" so to speak. A thin man that they can fatten as much as they'd like. And then there are FFAs like me that don't care about the start weight.

MottiF:
So where are you all? I am a blank slate ready to be fattened up 🤩

Munchies:
It's hard being an FFA. A lot of guys refuse to believe women cam be anything but feedees and get really gross. The guys that do can get ... weird. And sometimes threatening or dangerous.

I have witnessed first hand FFAs getting run off the site. Hell, if it weren't for my specific blend of crazy, I'd have been run off the site at least half a dozen times.

Pluviophile:
I'll cheers to that. People will spam my inbox with the same exact copy and paste message and if I wasn't interested X months ago, I won't be interested now.

Add in the harassment and entitlement, and yeah, there have been many times where I've wanted to never come back on here.

Oh God yes. No one really DMs me these days, but when they did? Oy vey. I've gotten creepy marriage proposals, people begging me to take them on as my piggy, people telling me that I need to given and become their piggy, clearly copy and pasted messages trying to get to go offsite, threats, and on and on it goes.

I once had a convo that started out innocent enough. The guy thanked me for offering to help him find a story. Then he turned weird and creepy. I tried to make him go away, but it turns out he was a sex-staved man with a humiliation fetish. Told me about 2 minutes after my scathing reply that I made him cum so hard and left.

A few months later, I'm in chat and he DMs me. He completely forgot that we ever spoke. He apologized, at least, when I brought up what he did to me, and we never spoke again. I'm honestly shocked he did that much because most guys just ghost you or try to gaslight you after you call them out for being a creep.

2 years

Munchies