It very likely is with us all along, at least in a latent way. But the choice to actually gain is a different matter.

I didn't mean to generally shame sex workers above. Sex workers are fine, but the pushier ones may be annoying.

I have met feedees at meet-ups. I'm wasn't in the right demographic to get anywhere personally, but it certainly is possible (albeit difficult) and does work for some.

Move!

1. I like the forums on FF; there's no equivalent on Feabie.

2. Wherever you go, people are fussy about who they want to chat with or befriend or get into a relationship with. This fussiness may be more explicit on Feabie but ultimately the same.

3. Love the near-line chat on Feabie, much better than the clunky separation of chat and email on FF. However the ease-of-use may attract more sex workers and beggars and scammers to Feabie. A trade-off.

4. I also like the filtering on Feabie. It's very sophisticated. Using this feature you can customize the site and pretty much only see what you're interested in.

5. Lots of people have complained about Feabie being creepier than FF or vice-versa. I don't see much difference.

6. FF, of course, has not made any improvements to the site software in years. That doesn't bother me much except for the links to nowhere. Amateur hour.

In the story "Schlaraffenland" a girl finds purple berries that can put her to sleep. If she takes one, she'll sleep for quite awhile and wake up hungry. This allows her to spend all her waking hours eating (this is called "chaining" in the story). She gets very fat.

If you had no responsibilities and all the food and purple berries you wanted, would you practice chaining? How often?

Amazon food items are very expensive and take a while to arrive. If I'm going to buy something for a feedee I'd rather get them a McDonald's or Pizza Hut e-gift card, quicker and more calories per $.

Can you think of any more? Which one are you?

1. Careful planner -- you decide on how much you want to gain, gain that much and stop.

2. Stage by stage -- you gain a certain amount and then re-evaluate, possibly stopping, possibly gaining more.

3. Letting go -- you focus on eating all you want and gaining all you want don't think much about weight limits unless it becomes an issue.

4. Max -- you try to get as big as possible.

I'm plowing through them now. Good job, Becomingoverweight!