Carrying around all my weight is pretty hard on my feet, so I get pedicures regularly. I'm too heavy for the pedicure chairs at my salon, but the person I regularly go to finds ways to accommodate me. This also spares my fiance from having to deal with the calluses and rough patches I get from the pressure on my feet. He is kind enough between pedicures to give me foot massages with lotion. That may be more for him than me, as it keeps things from getting rugged!!

In my case, and for at least a couple of other people I know, yes. Obviously, it is still incremental, but over time, I expanded my calorie intake from around 2000 calories a day to 12,000 and sometimes more. And I certainly have stretched my stomach out. I'm tapering back to maintenance level, and I'm quite hungry on 4,000 to 5,000 calories a day.

That said, I have heard from others that after a full day pushing the limits, they could barely eat the following day. My point is, everyone is different, so give it a try and see what works!

Isn't it strange the way weight gain works?? I barely noticed 400 to 425, but growing from 475 to 500 felt like I doubled in weight, especially in my belly. The last 100 pounds also feels like it went exclusively to my gut. I realized it when I randomly discovered I can't wrap my arms around my body or reach my belly button.

Eat until you are stuffed, and then drink lukewarm liquid until you can't hold anything else. As soon as you feel the slightest bit of room, eat something else, and chase that with liquid too. Keep the cycle up, never pushing yourself to the point of pain, but also never letting your stomach feel like it has any space in it. You'll be surprised at how big your belly gets, and also at your capacity the next day.

This is excellent advice. There are some layouts I know won't work, for example, an elevated platform for the bridal table. Additionally, I want to be able to move easily through the room and greet people. Distance between tables is a consideration. Thanks again for your insights.

Thank you all, so much, for the well-wishes and advice! I really do appreciate this community.

Let me start by saying, I am sorry you have to go through this. I have lived with parental disapproval for as long as I can remember, oddly, not about my size, but because I don't otherwise fit their expectation of what a "good girl" does with her life. They envisioned a life in which I majored in something traditionally acceptable for women, like teaching or nursing. They wanted me to find a "good man from a good family" and marry him right out of college. They wanted me to remain active in the very traditional, conservative religion in which I was brought up. I didn't do any of those things in that order. They've been displeased ever since.

That said, regardless of "whose roof" you live under, no one... and I mean no one... has control of your body except you. Expressing concern is one thing. I am sure there are people who care about me who really wish I wasn't 500 lb. And honestly, some of their concerns are probably legitimate. I have had one or two people say, "I hope you're going to the doctor regularly." I'm at higher risk for diabetes, I have high blood pressure, I get short of breath. I get it.

But NO ONE has authority over your body-- and living on their real estate doesn't change that. Another person cannot *make you* gain weight, lose weight, color your hair, get Botox, join a gym, you name it. Even in a Sub-Dom romantic relationship, consent must still undergird EVERYTHING. Otherwise, the deal is off.

I don't have specific advice for you regarding your father, but I hope you feel empowered to have control over your own body. I suppose he could do something like restrict your access to food he buys. You should still feel empowered to buy your own food and feed your body in the way you find appropriate.

As for the jobs argument-- There may be professions a super obese person might not be physically able to do. You don't seem to fall in that category yet. But there are also hundreds of professions your physical fitness and your size have absolutely no impact on. Please don't believe the 'no one will hire you' scare tactic. It's simply not true. I have an excellent job, primarily work remotely, and make a good income way above the median. I'm just as competent at it at 500 lb as I was at 200 lb, because they hired my brain, not my body.

I truly do wish you all the best, and I hope you do what's best for YOU, rather than what someone else thinks you should do.

Thank you so much! 💓 I really I'm luckier than I ever thought I'd be, finding someone who is a true partner in every sense. I also happen to be crazy about him!

Much appreciated 😊

I know!! Cutting back is HARD when you've stretched your stomach out so much. I'll have to allow myself one major stuffing a month to, you know, feed the beast (aka my belly).