LilRascl:
Lol! Sucking it in isn’t even an option for me now... all it does is shift my belly up a bit and squishes it back enough to feel it slightly chonk out my side/back rolls 😂
I am feeling this because mine does something similar. I have to lift mine up and lower my gut into my pants because it hangs so low.....
4 years
annabelly:
Anybody else nervous about seeing people you haven't seen since the quarantine started? So many of my friends have no idea I gained weight. 😧
LilRascl
Honesty, like, 98%!of the time I’m a confident, happy, and an overall badass *** with the super power to ignore diet culture and mainstream body ideals. But a lot of that‘s come from having gained my weight intentionally, and with thoughtful decision making along the way.
I haven’t had time to prepare my ego for the potential reactions, or rehearse a decent excuse I can put into a witty quip at my expense, that’ll let me take the piss out of myself while preempting then from sharing those reactions...
my advice is to come up with those 2 things and you might have some semblance of a plan..?? 🤷🏻♀️🤣
LilRascl:
Update! I can almost safely forget about all this since it looks likely that I’ll be working from home through possibly all of 2020.
Not the best news for “work me”, but “fat me” sees the perks 😉 thank goodness I get to put off getting back in acceptable shape for walking about and standing for longer stretches than the time it takes me to make a meal! I’m beyond unfit now, and currently 20lbs heavier since lockdown ☺️
Yeah, I got similar news today. I work mostly at a college campus and they are doing everything virtual for the rest of the year and folks know my appetite so I expect to be much heavier between now and January.
4 years
fat and proud
You may or may not be a gainer, but you do identify with the gaining community and love being around it, simply because how open and accepting they are about bigger people as opposed to the rest of the world. You enjoy the attention from all the chasers and admirers and you love how sexy you are to them. You may not be really into gaining as a kink but you're open minded enough to try being fed or even gain a few pounds for the right person, as long as it feels good to you. Because eventually you're the one who's in charge of your own body and self image
4 years
Truth is, what is really normal ? I have spent my youth traveling because my family were in television and production so in if the benefits of traveling is that you get to meet all types of people and what you find that there is no such thing as normal interests especially when it comes to sexual arousal experiences. BDSM might be in fashion now but our "culture" changes all the time so the thing is to realize that there are plenty of others who might get off to other fetishes that are not popular so they feel the same way. What I learned was that I had to find folks who genuinely like what they liked from a place of enjoyment and not narcissism and that shame I felt was a fear of not being able to "belong". I like what I like and if what I like doesn't prey on someone else; why be ashamed of it ? The hard part is looking through our community and finding like minded folks in your area who gets it and you can also meet others who feel the same way and that broadens your horizons. We are weirdos who enjoy fat and why disown that ?
4 years
Ditzy:
I got the urge to stuff myself to the point I felt like I would explode.
I haven't eaten this much in a long time and I am literally sitting here with a rock hard belly and can barely move.
I have tried so hard not to eat a lot the last 5 or 6 months and maintain but today felt so good to eat with reckless abandon.
Yeah, I call it the GRAZE. I sort of get to this place in which the hunger takes over and I mindlessly get caught in it and it overtakes you.
4 years
LilRascl:
For most people I’ve spoken to about this, which has been a lot (I like to hear people’s feedism backstories), nearly all of us have had to deal with some amount of shame along the way towards engaging confidently and happily with this fetish community.
What that shame has felt like to each person whose experienced it, though, does tends to vary. For me it wasn’t thinking negatively about myself for what was turning me on, just a *strong, deep-seated* apprehension and aversion towards any notion of where my feedee desires might one day take me if I let myself go. I had a very limited range of fantasy weight gain and anything beyond that gave me a jolt of anxiety and instantly turned me off.
I knew at the time that the anxiety feels came from the fear of only belonging outside of society as I knew it, like a “fear of future shame”... in hindsight, there’s not a lot of difference, if any, to the shame you asked about.
I encourage you to keep in mind that feeling ashamed of a fetish, or any aspect of your sexuality and/or fantasies, is a reaction to the way you’ve seen fatness and/or feedism rejected by your family/loved ones, social life, and society as a whole. A few thousand years ago, social rejection meant certain death; this is not a trivial thing to overcome.
tl;dr: The shame is normal. It’s just your lizard brain telling you you’ll die if you buck societal rules and norms (you won’t).
Honestly, I’ve got a load I could add about how I personally got from “there” to here, if you want to hear it..? I tend to ramble in these posts so I’ll spare y’all until I’m asked 🤣
I say; let's hear it
4 years
ssaylleb:
Bear in mind that the entire mainstream media assault since Marilyn Monroe has been that thin is better. Fat = unhealthy, lack of willpower, lazy, something negative to be turned around ASAP.
I'll be honest, my fear of mainstream judgement (including my wife's) keeps me from just letting go and blowing up.
And that is why I have to make sure that anyone that I date knows what I am from the onset. Truth is, I am realizing that I might have to date someone who is into this like I am
4 years
californiabay:
When the weight really started to show in me the negativity I got from my family was epic! I remember one Thanksgiving my weight gain seemed to be the sole topic of dinner. I believe my family just imagined I was subjecting myself to a life of loneliness and sadness. I believe the best response is living your life to the fullest. I always remind them of the shows, concerts and vacations with friends I take. I have also traveled the world more than any of them. Despite their criticism I live a live that shows being fat is not synonymous with apathy.
Exactly. Most families take on the cultural norms of the overall society because for our parents; making successful children who follow the norms becomes paramount. They don't realize that there is more than one way to be successful. The fatter I got, the more I traveled. You are correct and you have to live your life and love them from afar
4 years
FattyFat25:
How long will it take for people to notice weight gain in a thinner person?
Kik: fathog1234
During this quarantine, in about a month especially if the person is not so tall.
4 years
Feedeeboy:
I don’t see my family very often (every few months), but the last time I saw them was the first time they seen me since I dedicated my body to weight gain.. needless to say they were disgusted with my fat body and they picked me to pieces and really let me have it. I did gain around 30 pounds or so since last time I seen them so it obviously was a surprise to them but I’m just wondering if anybody’s been in the same position with family? I was very upset with how my family treated me for being a little overweight but when I got home and surrounded myself with good food and treats I managed to block all the negativity. If I’m ever going to go near my family again I need to be prepared to be judged I feel like there’s no way around it
TheWhipHand:
It's hard for family to adjust. When my husband started fattening up his family was relentless. It took a long time for them to stop asking him "to go on a walk" or bike ride. It's going to take a while, but they will get the message eventually.
It is a situation by situation basis. Truth is, most folks want to obey social norms because it is a form of status and when you have a lifestyle outside that it will allow your family to say things under the facade that they love you. I say, let them be and create and find those who reciprocate immediately and can comprehend your journey. You can't help whom you are born to but you can help those whom you hang around the most....
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