Munchies:Autistic woman here. Autistic men can and do have happy long-term relationships. I know several - including some who have married other autistic people.
Some proof of my statement instead ... whatever garbage you just pulled out of thin air.
1. There is nothing wrong with being a virgin. At all. And if a woman cannot love you for being a virgin, then move on. Plus, if you lie, she will find out.
2. Deeply religious women are pretty common.
3. There's nothing wrong with being open about mental health issues, but you should never burden people with them. It's your responsibility - not theirs.
4. Yes, you should take care of yourself and your appearance, but that was just cruel.
5. It's good to put yourself out there, but having a lot of friends isn't inherently attractive. It's more about how you treat/interact with your friends.
6. You shouldn't hide your autism. There's nothing wrong with being autistic (not that we know for sure OP is). I don't hide it, and people accept me for who I am. What you *SHOULD* do is learn how to interact with people in a healthy, productive manner.
7. Do not encourage OP to prey on insecure fat women. That's manipulative and abusive. We want him to live his best life and be happy. We don't want him to be some creep you see on the 6 o'clock news.
Wat:I did not say that autistic men never fall into relationships. I said it is an uphill battle.
Here is the proof of my statement that I pulled out of thin air:
www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5789215/You will also see from that study that autistic women have a much easier time than autistic men.
1. No, there is nothing wrong with being a virgin. That does not eliminate the deep social stigma accompanied with it, especially for someone of advanced age.
2. Deeply religious people in general are a rarity today. If someone is engaging in premarital sex they could hardly be considered a devout Christian.
3. Being open is one thing but yes burdening others is another. Better to just keep it to yourself, there is no benefit to be had in telling others.
4. Reality is cruel. An autistic man is likely not going to be a smoothtalking coolguy.
5. Women are attracted to social status. OP being seen in a group of friends will send signals that he has social value and potentially level headed.
6. Autism is not a blessing. Autism is not fun. Autism is an illness that makes life harder and I know countless men that would lose a limb to be free of it. Generally the people more open about their autism are the ones who are less burdened by it, they use it almost as a conversation piece.
7. OP has a preference for larger women. There is nothing wrong with him pursuing them.
You said, "That's going to make things extremely difficult because studies show a majority of autistic men never have a relationship or intercourse." You didn't say that it was an uphill battle. You said that he's most likely to never have a relationship or intercourse. You are also assuming OP ahs ASD. While you may be correct, it's still an assumption.
1. Yes, there is a stigma about older adults being virgins. However, nothing good can come from lying to your partner about your sexual history. You shouldn't come out the gate swinging because that's weird. But don't lie. It destroys trust.
2. Indeed, Americans are not as religious as they used to be. Per this poll (
www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5789215/) about 49% of Americans consider themselves very religious. And seeing that America has about 332 million people, that's still a lot of people. This link has a comprehensive break down by demographic for Christians specifically:
www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5789215/3. You can try to hide mental health issues, but people will notice. Once you've gotten close enough with a person, it's important to let them know these things. If you can't be your true self with your partner, then you shouldn't be together at all.
4. You don't need to be suave to have a relationship. But you *are* being mean for no good reason. It helps no one and comes off as projecting insecurities.
5. Some women like social status, but not all care about that. Everyone is different. Besides, having many friends to gain social value cheapens friendships.
6. ASD can be a pain to live with - especially lower-functioning ASD. But it isn't a mental illness:
www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5789215/. And if OP does have ASD, he shouldn't be ashamed of it. Do not put that on him.
7. There's nothing wrong with pursuing bigger women. The problem is pursuing *insecure* women to make things easier on OP. That's an insult to both parties.
