MickRidem:
This past year I broke my knee, and have dealt with major stress with my parents. (With a recent confrontation in April and panic attack level) With those things, from last Aug to Dec, I gained about 10lbs. Not much, right?

The combo of no workouts/zero cardio and stress, means that weight gain came at a "perfect storm" time. My blood sugar is high, my blood pressure is high. And I'm really mad. I had previously been gaining slowly, muscle and fat - exactly what I want, for 3-4 years. Health was 5 stars.

I DO NOT want to lose weight, I am *finally*, in my late 40s, sooo happy with my larger body.

I'm able to walk with 2-3 mins of a "light jog" on the knee. Not enough, so I'm taking up heavy bag work/boxing. I'm back at the gym doing my regular workouts. Stupid knee. Parental stress remains and I plan on seeing them far less or not at all if it gets worse. (I do go to a therapist.)

I'm swapping out for low glycemic foods, making more efforts to drink more water, back to daily exercise, etc... Next blood sugar blood test is in two months, and checking BP regularly. I want to stay healthy. 👍

But... I was hoping to gain MORE. 🐖 I'm trying to see this as a reset, but I'm struggling. This seems so unfair. I was in "perfect" health, and I'm finally loving my body, and I get blammo-ed.

Munchies:
Nuts, high fat fish (e.g. salmon), avocados

Basically any food that's naturally high in fat. It will take longer to gain, but it won't spike her blood sugar. You can get nuts and avocados for cheap - not too sure about the salmon.

As a side note, I'm also a type II diabetic. I find that cinnamon is good for stabilizing blood sugar. If she can't eat enough to make an impact naturally, there are OTC supplements that you can get at your local Wal-Mart.

There are a lot of natural remedies for managing diabetes. She shouldn't stop taking her medicine, but it can help get it under control.

MickRidem:
Having just discovered high blood sugar and BP (I also posted about this in the Health post) I could use a little info, too, that the doc wouldn't provide. 🤣

I *don't* want to lose weight. From what I've read so far, I guess overeating/stuffings are out? I'm swapping in low glycemic foods when I can, and no dessert. 🥺 Avocados gross me out, but nuts I can do. What about 18% cream and cheese? Is pasta okay? Is a LOT of pasta okay? LOL! I've been putting cinnamon in my coffee and on toast, any other places I can add it in?

I do weightlifting, but I don't want to fully "recomp" (trade fat for muscle) as I want both. 🏋‍♂️🐖😁 Any tips would be appreciated.

Angy523:
Update: We went to the mall last week and he tried some jeans, the size he thought he wears...he could barely button them.

Also, we were walking in the park today and at some point he just told me he should start exercising again because he started to sweat just because of walking.

Meanwhile, he really use his belly to put me in the mood. He asks me to touch it, to play with it, during sex sometimes he even tells me that his belly is mine to do whatever I want to with it.

Spekbil 123:
Reality and fiction.
First the legal issue. The play by the Swedish playwright Lars Noren was played by university students at the Belgian university of Gent in 1981. It was and is under Belgian law completely legal, as it was in Sweden and as it was in Holland. You are legally a minor until you reach the age of 16 years there.
And it still is as a work of art. The example was ment to show that in fiction a convincing way of telling the story is important. Noren made his point in the dialogue between the two actors.

It is not about me or my partners sexual preferences in real life. There is the difference between doing something and writing about something. Writing about vanilla tends to be boring as writing about certain variants of BDSM can be.
The only thing i want is helping people to write better stories that others can enjoy.
Nothing more and nothing less.

Munchies:
I notice a lot of feedees and gainers on this site don't want to gain unless they have someone to gain for. I get why. Having someone to love and support you through your changes is lovely.

Unfortunately, changing your body to please someone else never ends well. It's nice to have someone who loves they way you look, but ultimately, you should only do it for your own happiness.

DMVGrower:
That is a good point. For me and maybe others it is more like, it is something I want, to gain that is. But I also want a relationship and this state of mind is not a common one. I mean I am sure it is more common than one thinks but feederism/gaining is certainly rare. So it is sort of like a bet hedge in a way, like sure I can start gaining and keep going and maybe never find someone because of the majority of people being disgusted with my size. Or I can keep the weight down and find someone who isn't into it and just sort of store the fetish in the back of my mind forever.

So that brings us to finding someone into it, now I already want to gain, and now I found someone who also wants me to gain? Jackpot!

Spekbil 123:
I fully agree that most fetish stories are not well written and sometimes frankly boring.
But it is better than vanilla. That is for making babies.
Writing is like all other forms of art. It takes some talent and a lot of practice.
It is like music. You have to learn to play your instrument and understand the basics.
You can find the basics on the internet and a first year course in language and literature will do.
We can share tips and tricks. We can read each others short stories (novels take too much time to comment) and give feedback.
We can share scenario's and real life situations which you can use. Like Celia does when she tells us about Piggies binging.
One of the things that would make the story more interesting would be hearing Piggies perspective. The story told from her side.

Take spanking stories.
Most of them focus on the hitting and the effect. That makes them boring
There is very little or no information on the interaction between the persons involved.
My partner and I were once in Belgium for more than forty years.
Some student colleagues of us played a scene from the a Swedish play.
It went als follows.
Mother was drunk, and could not handle her 16 year old. Mother decided to spank her daughter.
The daughter didn’t bother, took the over the knee position. Daughter gets one or to slaps on her butt. Mother says: What a nice big butt you have. Let’s fatten you up a little and you well have lots of rich menn to choose from.

My partner and I both remember the scene after more than 40 years.

In short, what we could do is reading each others stories, share idea’s and scenario’s and so on.
We will see what’s helpful and what’s not.

Letters And Numbers:
Is there any appetite here for a thread to get into more in-depth constructive criticism of some of the stories here? I was reading the comments of a story today that had a critique and it seemed to me that this might be a more organized format for technical criticism like that.

Could also just take a book club format where we all read one short story a week or longer story a month?

Any interest?

Munchies:
This looks interesting in theory. The downside, however, is that most fetish stories aren't good.

I'm not talking about the kink aspect of it. I believe that you can write about any subject matter and make it good. I'm talking about the hordes of poorly written stories on FF, DA, Dimensions, etc.

Letters And Numbers:
So there are the hordes for sure, but there are also some really great writers as well (here, and on the other sites) who choose to *also* write erotica instead of *only* writing it. Some of those stories could be more fun to read critically. And there are also authors who honestly might want to improve, even if all they want to do is write a better sexy story?

Letters And Numbers:
Is there any appetite here for a thread to get into more in-depth constructive criticism of some of the stories here? I was reading the comments of a story today that had a critique and it seemed to me that this might be a more organized format for technical criticism like that.

Could also just take a book club format where we all read one short story a week or longer story a month?

Any interest?