How my ex made me fat

Maxtogs:
So about 150 pounds and a year or so I was dating a bigger girl, and me being fit with abs but we both were into feederism but her only getting fed it worked great at first she was gaining a lot of weight and we were happy

Around 3 or 4 months in I notice her wanting to order in instead of going out (I thought it was because she was fat) which caused me to gained around 30lbs I didn’t mind at first


But then around 6 months she starts loving it more than me and makes me “diet shakes which were her weight gain at this point I had lost control I ate more than her and was gaining rapidly


We ended things not related to that but to this day I’m still fat asss hell


Did you know those diet shakes where weight gain shakes? If not, that is a crime.
2 years

Red pill or blue pill ?

Doughboy90:
Oh no, no no no that was a a typo It was supposed to say it wouldn’t hurt me to lose the weight right now for my own personal health that kind of deal I got to see you I’m in no danger.

I do apologize if I caused any type of stress or heartache right now.


Nah, you're good. Glad you are okay.
2 years

Red pill or blue pill ?

Doughboy90:
I would take the blue pill reason being not a whole lot would change, but it would hurt him for me to be a little healthier and not affect my happiness one bit


Hurt him? Are you safe right now? Do you need help?
2 years

Feedism in movies

Enas:
That's wonderful, but it is revolved about love then!

Munchies:
That was an idea that I cooked up in like ... 5 minutes. I read a lot of romance, so romance comes naturally to me. But it doesn't have to be romance. In fact, if you scroll up a little ways, you will see some other themes I mentioned.

There are three main categories that media fall into regarding social impact: positive, negative, and neutral. Most things will fall into the neutral category. Why? Because most people use media as a form of escapism, and media companies want money. They do not want to alienate people from the movie because that means less money in their pockets.

With this in mind, you'll realize that most films with negative social impacts do not mean to be. A misogynistic movie is made because there were no diverse voices and no one realized something was misogynistic until the reviews rolled in. Production started years ago, so a line that was innocent at the time is now charged with meaning. And most common offender is that they tried to make a film with a positive social impact and messed it up.

Enas:
I kinda understand what you're trying to say but i whould look it from a different perspective
Yes, the people that work on a movie might want to have that, but profits come always before the positive impact, you can figure this out when in their effort to minimize costs the employers don't hire enough people to have all these different opinions that are needeed. And they often themselves have no idea about this because they're in business to make profit. Nothing else at all!

They often try to make it look like it has been made to have a positive impact, at times purely for marketing! It's no wonder they fail miserably!

Plus a loooooot of media get it completely wrong. In they hyperindividualistic enviroment (because that's what the world is, today) they "empower" people by abstracting them from... love! Empathy! All those thigns that you need to be mature to feel and understand! Those are seen as a weakness!! And what is seen powerful is not someone who has a lot of knowledge either! Instead if you're brute forcing in the dumbest way, now thats what real power is! Are we kidding??


Enas, when was the last time you actually paid attention to your surroundings? And what kind of movies have you been watching for the past 19 years of your life?

Buddy boy, you need to touch some grass. This take doesn't make sense even if you only watch popular movies.

You say you are getting into anarcho-communism, but I am not sure you really understand it. And this is coming from someone who regularly engages in all manner of leftist media.

I will leave it at that because I have no desire to discuss politics with you in any capacity.
2 years

Feedism in movies

BigBellyBurgerBoy1:
Okay everyone, let's chat, shall we?

If there's going to be a movie where the main character gets fat (either by accident, or on purpose), what is it we're looking for?

Do we want a movie ABOUT feederism, where the characters have the fetish in question, and the plot ensues from there, or do we just want a movie with weight gain IN it, with no acknowledgement of the fetish whatsoever (save for, perhaps, behind the camera, with the director, writers, maybe even the actors)?

Personally I could go either way, beggers can't be choosers, after all. But what do you think?

Enas:
Weeeellll...
There is porn! If it was to be a feederism movie it whould basically be porn. Plus a few extras.

If you want to make an actual movie revolved around feederism ,then you trully need to look around you and see how people are suffering. Because if you trully want to make an actual movie, you should also make one of its goals, the betterment of society. Because it takes human effort and it's for other people to see.

If you want to make people dumber (in the sense that they can't think on an intellectual level) then present them with loud, empty media! And making a feederism movie whould be kinda like this! (just like the FEED - 2005 was a terrible movie!)

So yeah! Bad idea to make a movie revolved around feederism, there is little point to have it even on some corner of the film, let's say. It might be useful, but.. Who knows!

Just do a porn movie xD

Munchies:


A creative you are not.

Good media does not have to have to better society or preach a message to be good. There are plenty of examples of media that try to do that and suck. You also do not need to make porn to make a feedist story. That's a very narrow way to explore sexuality.

For example, you can make a story about a long-term feedist couple and their love story.

The two meet in early adulthood. The one is a business school graduate working as a server in a restaurant. The other is a line cook who wants to be a famous chef with a line of cookbooks. The two get together and try to make the line cook's dream a reality. The business graduate is the manager and taste tester, while the line cook crafts the recipes and makes the dishes.

They fall into a feedist relationship over time. The chef cooks and the manager eats. Food and a metaphor for love would work well here. Bonus points if the manager gets fatter the more successful the chef gets.

Enas:
That's wonderful, but it is revolved about love then!


That was an idea that I cooked up in like ... 5 minutes. I read a lot of romance, so romance comes naturally to me. But it doesn't have to be romance. In fact, if you scroll up a little ways, you will see some other themes I mentioned.

There are three main categories that media fall into regarding social impact: positive, negative, and neutral. Most things will fall into the neutral category. Why? Because most people use media as a form of escapism, and media companies want money. They do not want to alienate people from the movie because that means less money in their pockets.

With this in mind, you'll realize that most films with negative social impacts do not mean to be. A misogynistic movie is made because there were no diverse voices and no one realized something was misogynistic until the reviews rolled in. Production started years ago, so a line that was innocent at the time is now charged with meaning. And most common offender is that they tried to make a film with a positive social impact and messed it up.
2 years

Big bellies a sign of power?

Cactusrager:
It’s riches.


A good point. They don't call them "fat cats" for nothing.
2 years

Feedism in movies

MickRidem:
You'd also need to find actors willing to gain weight for the role, assuming you have a character with a starting weight and end-of-movie weight.

We've been rewatching Always Sunny and the season where "Mac gets fat" ... fat by Hollywood standards?? He looks SO much better I think but...😏

You'd be running into fat suit usage if you want to show a gain larger than what, 20lbs? 😝

Unless you did a documentary??


A documentary of the day in the life of a feedee - staring MickRidem.
2 years

Feedism in movies

BigBellyBurgerBoy1:
Okay everyone, let's chat, shall we?

If there's going to be a movie where the main character gets fat (either by accident, or on purpose), what is it we're looking for?

Do we want a movie ABOUT feederism, where the characters have the fetish in question, and the plot ensues from there, or do we just want a movie with weight gain IN it, with no acknowledgement of the fetish whatsoever (save for, perhaps, behind the camera, with the director, writers, maybe even the actors)?

Personally I could go either way, beggers can't be choosers, after all. But what do you think?

Enas:
Weeeellll...
There is porn! If it was to be a feederism movie it whould basically be porn. Plus a few extras.

If you want to make an actual movie revolved around feederism ,then you trully need to look around you and see how people are suffering. Because if you trully want to make an actual movie, you should also make one of its goals, the betterment of society. Because it takes human effort and it's for other people to see.

If you want to make people dumber (in the sense that they can't think on an intellectual level) then present them with loud, empty media! And making a feederism movie whould be kinda like this! (just like the FEED - 2005 was a terrible movie!)

So yeah! Bad idea to make a movie revolved around feederism, there is little point to have it even on some corner of the film, let's say. It might be useful, but.. Who knows!

Just do a porn movie xD

Munchies:


A creative you are not.

Good media does not have to have to better society or preach a message to be good. There are plenty of examples of media that try to do that and suck. You also do not need to make porn to make a feedist story. That's a very narrow way to explore sexuality.

For example, you can make a story about a long-term feedist couple and their love story.

The two meet in early adulthood. The one is a business school graduate working as a server in a restaurant. The other is a line cook who wants to be a famous chef with a line of cookbooks. The two get together and try to make the line cook's dream a reality. The business graduate is the manager and taste tester, while the line cook crafts the recipes and makes the dishes.

They fall into a feedist relationship over time. The chef cooks and the manager eats. Food and a metaphor for love would work well here. Bonus points if the manager gets fatter the more successful the chef gets.

Bobaberry:
Honestly, I'd love a film in which the feedist aspect was more metaphorical or a subplot. Makes it easer to place it in other genres; the metaphorical route also makes it, for a lack of a better term, easier for an audience outside of the kink to digest (no pun intended).


You are 100%. Food as a metaphor for love is my go-to for feedist stuff, but other things can work too. Rejecting society to embrace your true self, exploring the subjectivity of beauty, and reclaiming power and control over your life are also good options.
2 years

Being a better ally to fat(ter) people

ForeverFFA:
Hey everyone,

I just wanted to create a thread where people can discuss experiences of being confronted for having, or preferring to have, fat(ter) partners. How did you handle these remarks, and how do you think responses could be even more constructive and kind?

I want this thread to be a respectful and judgement free zone for people to learn from their mistakes. My hope is also that anyone who is denying their preferences will come to realize that it shouldn't matter what anyone else thinks of them for it.

I've been pretty fortunate in my life to be surrounded by people who are open-minded and nonchalant about who I like and choose to date. However, I still had one family member who wouldn't stop making fat jokes about some of the guys I liked. I also had an uncomfortable experience where this same person thought it would be funny to call out my preferences to the rest of my family in the middle of a movie by saying they bet I liked one of the characters because he was chubby. Everyone else laughed and looked uncomfortable, and I was so mortified at the time that I didn't say anything. Now I know better that this person was just embarrassing themselves by being rude and invasive, and I wish I had a better comeback.

Munchies:
Except for my first and third boyfriends, I've always gone for bigger guys. No one cared, for the most part - except for my mother.

My mother is fatphobic. She called me fat when I went from 115 lbs (underweight for my height of 5'7"smiley to 120 (the low end of a normal weight). So she always had something to say about the actually fat people I dated.

Her one saving grace is that she never did it to their face. Instead, she'd come to me and make "jokes" or comments about their size.

I didn't really know what to do. I knew what she was doing was wrong, but I was too afraid to confront her. Plus, she was abusive to me, and I was afraid of the backlash.

For a while, I'd say, "He's sensitive about that," and left. But she'd always say something later. Then, one day, I got so fed up that I said, "Gossip is a sin."

My mom is super religious, so that startled her. But it did get an apology out of her.

Eventually, once I could stand up for myself, it was easier to stand up for my partners and love interests. Now, all I have to do is glare at her and say, "Mother."

ForeverFFA:
I'm really sorry you had that from your own mother. My parents were fatphobic in their own right but never wanted me to be unhealthily thin. They also never really concerned themselves much with who I dated, so I was off the hook in that department.

For me it was a much older sibling who was insecure and discovered early on that it was "cool" to make jokes at others' expenses. It had nothing to do with my romantic interests' weight at all and everything to do with looking for cheap laughs. That's usually what it's about imo.

Anyway, I'm glad you found the strength to stand up for yourself in the end.


Thanks, love.

It was a doozy. Thankfully, that's in the past now. My mother was abusive out of a skewed view of love. So when she finally realized that she would lose me forever, she started to atone for everything she did. She's still got a ways to go, but she's a lot better than she used to be. Even gave me an apology.
2 years

Feedism in movies

BigBellyBurgerBoy1:
Okay everyone, let's chat, shall we?

If there's going to be a movie where the main character gets fat (either by accident, or on purpose), what is it we're looking for?

Do we want a movie ABOUT feederism, where the characters have the fetish in question, and the plot ensues from there, or do we just want a movie with weight gain IN it, with no acknowledgement of the fetish whatsoever (save for, perhaps, behind the camera, with the director, writers, maybe even the actors)?

Personally I could go either way, beggers can't be choosers, after all. But what do you think?

Enas:
Weeeellll...
There is porn! If it was to be a feederism movie it whould basically be porn. Plus a few extras.

If you want to make an actual movie revolved around feederism ,then you trully need to look around you and see how people are suffering. Because if you trully want to make an actual movie, you should also make one of its goals, the betterment of society. Because it takes human effort and it's for other people to see.

If you want to make people dumber (in the sense that they can't think on an intellectual level) then present them with loud, empty media! And making a feederism movie whould be kinda like this! (just like the FEED - 2005 was a terrible movie!)

So yeah! Bad idea to make a movie revolved around feederism, there is little point to have it even on some corner of the film, let's say. It might be useful, but.. Who knows!

Just do a porn movie xD




A creative you are not.

Good media does not have to have to better society or preach a message to be good. There are plenty of examples of media that try to do that and suck. You also do not need to make porn to make a feedist story. That's a very narrow way to explore sexuality.

For example, you can make a story about a long-term feedist couple and their love story.

The two meet in early adulthood. The one is a business school graduate working as a server in a restaurant. The other is a line cook who wants to be a famous chef with a line of cookbooks. The two get together and try to make the line cook's dream a reality. The business graduate is the manager and taste tester, while the line cook crafts the recipes and makes the dishes.

They fall into a feedist relationship over time. The chef cooks and the manager eats. Food and a metaphor for love would work well here. Bonus points if the manager gets fatter the more successful the chef gets.
2 years