Morbidly A Beast:
Once a glutton always a glutton takes a lot of work to get out of those habits.

J8o8h8n:
Honestly, it's kind of exciting that the initial intentional stuffings are sometimes turning into genuine cravings and it feels so good to give in and satisfy the cravings. Honestly a part of me is still slightly worried about gaining and not being able to stop, but I find myself worrying less and less about it and I've even had the thought to keep gaining after the 30 day challenge is over and continue to satisfy my cravings and expand them until my next doctor's appointment in November 😅

Munchies:
It's all about balance. Of course, it will take a little time to find your balance. But the end goal should be indulging your cravings without screwing up your health so much that you have to stop. The last thing any gainer wants is to gain a mere 40 lbs and get too sick to continue.

J8o8h8n:
That's very true. It's part of why on days where I feel like I've overdone it, I try to eat a bit healthier (which I do, but I still end up sneaking a few treats in to push myself over the typical recommended calorie count for the average person). Like today I'm definitely not downing almost 3000 calories worth of shake like I did yesterday with my 1500 calories dinner, but I did end up having 4 Minibons with a mostly healthy rest of the day (pushing my overall calorie count to about 2500 on a day where I wasn't trying to gain).

J8o8h8n:
After about 2.5 weeks of my gaining challenge and about 10 pounds gained, I realize that if I decide to keep gaining after my 30 day challenge, I have a lot of work to do to catch up with and surpass some of my fat friends. Anyone have any experience going from one of the thin friends to being one of the fatter ones? What was it like and how'd you manage to pull it off?

Strongerthanyou:
It's definitely a sign of submission in my eyes... Don't see how a round soft tire of around your waist can be perceived as powerful

Munchies:
It really depends. For some, being big means being powerful. They get to literally throw their weight around. Have you ever heard of squashing? It's a kink where someone bigger than you crushes you under their weight. You see it more on Dimensions than on FF.

Then you have dominant feedees with submissive feeders. The feeders wait on the feedee hand and foot while the feedee indulges as much as they want.

Sweetfattie:
That's me! I love it when a partner is considerably slimmer than me, especially when they want me to squash them. I also like it when they're shorter than me- short kings, take note. I want to be large and in charge.

Not sure if I'll ever find a submissive feeder, since they seem to be even more rare than feeders in general. But that would be the dream. A feeder serving my every whim while I laze around and gorge myself.

Kimllyy:
Maybe related, but on days I’m not overeating I get a headache and have low energy. I need to stuff myself with fatty and sugary foods.

Morbidly A Beast:
Once a glutton always a glutton takes a lot of work to get out of those habits.

J8o8h8n:
Honestly, it's kind of exciting that the initial intentional stuffings are sometimes turning into genuine cravings and it feels so good to give in and satisfy the cravings. Honestly a part of me is still slightly worried about gaining and not being able to stop, but I find myself worrying less and less about it and I've even had the thought to keep gaining after the 30 day challenge is over and continue to satisfy my cravings and expand them until my next doctor's appointment in November 😅

Finish8000:
I can absolutely understand that. I have a medical background and at least can observe the do's and don'ts. But then again, there's nothing that beats experience, and you've got that in spades, making you a great go-to for information about feedism.

Munchies:
Why thank you.

There was a withdrawal aspect to it. Some of it was due to his stomach needing time to shrink up a bit. But a big part of it was withdrawls.

Plus, if you get a good feeder, it makes the experience a thousand times better. He says he prefers it when I stuff him compared to when he stuffs himself.

Finish8000:
So what do you recommend when starting a feedee's gain? Usually, I'd think going towards grazing, increasing their capacity and calorie intake over time before going towards anything more extensive like heavy cream.

Munchies:
First and foremost, I think every feedist (especially feeders) needs to have a basic understanding of biology. You don't need to be an expert, but you should have a working knowledge of it. I've spoken to a lot of people on this site that have some ... interesting ideas on how the body works. And this ignorance leads to people getting hurt.

But to the actual gaining, slow and steady is best. As sexy as rapid gains are, they are not sustainable. If you do rapid gains, it's best to do them in short spurts with long stretches of downtime. Also, make sure not to skip doctor's appointments. It's best to monitor your health when you gain. And don't live off of heavy cream, fast food, and junk food. You need some healthy food in there too so you can function.

Don't be afraid to exercise. You need it to function.

Tentacles:
Are people perhaps fantasizing more than genuinely believing it?

Munchies:
Why thank you.

There was a withdrawal aspect to it. Some of it was due to his stomach needing time to shrink up a bit. But a big part of it was withdrawls.

Plus, if you get a good feeder, it makes the experience a thousand times better. He says he prefers it when I stuff him compared to when he stuffs himself.

Finish8000:
So what do you recommend when starting a feedee's gain? Usually, I'd think going towards grazing, increasing their capacity and calorie intake over time before going towards anything more extensive like heavy cream.

MVP76:
I feel this as someone who has suffered from food addiction and binge eating disorder. It's incredibly hard to stop and I did try over eaters anonymous, etc. Ultimately, I was forced to make changes due to health issues.