Bbwomg:
I notice that mutual gaining in general is very divisive, some people love it, some are open to it, for others its a flatout no, whats everyones opinion on the matter?

BlackjackandBerries:
I was wondering how bigger people cope with mental health or medical professionals feigning concern & bringing up weight gain. I have had social workers/doctors/friends/etc, point out my "round face" and my recent weight gain, and I'm downright insulted by it. What really upsets me is the fake concern and being treated like an incapable broken human.

How would you deal with a medical professional asking you "Would you like to see an ED clinic?"- even if you're fortunate enough to not have an ED? I've found reassuring them I'm OK and don't need that kind of help makes them push more and more. They would force me if they had reasonable suspicions and it feels like sometimes they want to force things.

I understand people being concerned and comments always come up as you gain, but how do you go about telling these people "I'm ok! This fat is healthy fat! I want to be fat! I'm not disordered."

Because saying that outright just makes me sound unhinged.

I am not a "fat" person just yet, but I consider myself between chubby and midsize and I intend to grow a little bigger slowly while remaining super active at the gym. I'm 170lbs, running or walking 5k's weekly and lifting a lot, yet I have been grilled by mental health professionals about an "ED" that doesn't exist.

Like I know it's because of a fatphobic society and women's bodies are constantly judged no matter what we do, but I want to be a bigger woman, and I am enjoying making myself like this. I am enjoying a balance not just for the sake of fat fetishism/feedism.

(In my particular situation these same mental health professionals in my life also were concerned with my gym habits and every single decision Ive made for myself was scrutinized in some way so it could just be where I am and who I work with causing this stress. )

Tldr: How do you cope with medical or mental health professionals being concerned with your weight gain?

Theimpatientfeeder:
I’m only a few days in on my journey as a gain, and plan to gain several hundred pounds. I was wondering about the people that have been open about being a feedee. Can you tell me your story? When you opened up to your friends and family how did they take it? I’d like to be open about it, but another part of me isn’t sure it’s a good idea to share.

CuppaJoe:
I was lucky enough to date a woman who enjoyed letting go and piled on a bunch of weight while we were together. She gained everywhere except her chest, so she had a beautiful pear shape with an adorable belly and nice thick hips, but would sometimes lament that her breasts never benefited from all of the extra calories.

I thought she was SMOKING hot at every size of our relationship, including her chest, and tried to always show her how attractive I felt she was.

I know she appreciated the attention and often mentioned how much she loved just being "free" with food and her weight, but no matter what I said or did - she still was unhappy with her chest. I could never fully convince her otherwise.

And I came to learn - that was her right. She was completely entitled to feel however she wanted to feel about herself, no matter how much I wished she would see herself the way that I saw her - stunning in every way.

So, I continued to compliment her but I gave up trying to change her mind about her chest. It was a matter of genetics and mindset.

To answer your question - I think that any person who consents to gain because they enjoy it and feel good about how it makes them feel is FAR more attractive on the whole than any singular body part that does or doesn't fatten up as a result of their choice.

Hispanicbbw:

YumNom:
Wanted to douse yourself with chocolate syrup, caramel, and sprinkles and let you SO just go to town?

MickRidem:
For the first time since I purposely put on more weight (since the knee injury) I went for a walk on our treadmill at home. This is part of my physio, but I do want to stay heart healthy.

My thighs rub now. 😁 My shorts rode up and stayed up. 😳 Thank goodness for boxer briefs. 😂

I do go to a public gym, too. I want to maintain a musclechub balance of strong and fat. 🏋️ What do I do then? Sweatpants make me WAY too hot. Do I... Let them ride up and ignore it?

What if I'm able to jog a bit again some day? 🏃Any solutions?

Angy523:
I'll ask a question here so I won't start another topic. Long story short, I have some problems with dieting (as can be seen on this topic). I lost some weight and I started eating like a pig again and I need help before it won't be too late.

So, the question: Is there anyone who is available to talk in private to give me some support and hold me accountable? In return, I can play the feeder role or idk, we can talk about anything or I can support you with something you need

AnonLovesBlubber:
Lol this toxic thread needs to be deleted. This is an awful mentality, saying all men are creeps and blah blah muh safe space

Refeed:
It's s double standard. I'm a creep without one but women can be like this even though I feel nervous about doing it. I always get the so what? Answer, so like most things it depends on the people involved.

Mikig1:
What do you think about it when woman is quite chubby it fat with big belly, thighs and fat ass but still very small boobs?
It happened to my girlfriend, she always has small boobs, gained quite a lot, doubled the weight but boobs didn't grow almost at all. She doesn't like the gain and boobs make it even worse for her unfortunately but I like her boobs very much so she feels better being appreciated all the time ❤️
Did you have such experience?