Celiamarie:
For myself, I think a lot of what I enjoy with my feedee inherently comes with the fattening. While I enjoy watching her eat, it's the fact that I know that every bite is making her fatter that gets me.

Sphys:
Cycles?

PrimitiveDesires:
Definitely don't have to grow or fatten someone to be a feeder. Most of my jobs have been in kitchens for the simple fact that I love to cook food and sharing it with others. Not even in a sexual way it's just satisfying to feed people, to hear what flavors or textures they like and watching then enjoy their food.

Granted when it comes to a partner or an individual whom I find very attractive, then sure I'm full of deeper desires to fatten them up and play into the other sides of being a feeder.

Sphys:
As the subject says, I'm new, so I don't really know how stuff works and I thought I might as well ask a couple of here rather than trying to figure out what exactly to google.

On that note, first is something every new guy probably asks; is there any sort of relatively healthy way to gain? I know that after a point the weight itself will cause issues unavoidably, but is it possible to get someone to reach large sizes, maybe say a range of 300+ or 400 or something for example, without such a concern for diabetes or such? Or is that a pipe dream you'll only see in fiction?

If there isn't such a safe way to go about it, then what's generally considered the best way? Does using muscle shakes work fine or does that cause problems I forgot to consider? Since I dunno how diet stuff works

Thanks for anyone that helps, I might have other questions but that's what comes to mind for now

Morbidly A Beast:
what the heck is consensual non-consent

PolyPinoyPuppy:
There are hundreds of articles that can explain it better within more traditional BDSM contexts. Within feederism it would be something like tying your struggling feedee to the bed as you fill their stomach with gainer shake as they protest being "force-fed,"maybe with some kidnapping roleplay, but where you both agree to the activity beforehand, because the feedee would get off to that kind of domination, and have tools like safewords and pre-negotiated hard-boundaries to avoid actually violating the feedee's consent.

Bax99:
what do you mean by "he couldn't handle the weight"?
however I'm interested in knowing how much weight a gainer can gain in about a month and what are the best foods

Morbidly A Beast:
100 pounds is a lot of weight and if your body isn’t strong enough you will struggle heaving yourself around.

There’s no magic food that will make you gain weight fast, you just have to consistently stuff yourself full of food. You can add calories with shakes and stuff if needed.

S67:
So, I've seen a lot of definitions on the internet about the term "feeder", stressing the fact that they merely want to fatten someone up. But I don't know, I think being a feeder is just so much more than that. Don't you agree?

I mean, should we not emphasize what is exciting for a feeder during the meal, including the behavior of the person eating?

For example:
- the fact that they unbutton their pants and/or loosen their belt to breathe better/be more comfortable?
- the fact that they massage their belly to relieve their stomachache and/or to show that they are full?
- the sleepy look (especially after a rich, heavy meal)?
- the compliments about the meal?
- the belly that becomes round and firm after a heavy meal?
- the slow, jerky breathing?
- believing that they have eaten enough because of the amount of food they have ingested and yet they ask for more?
- the little remarks at the end of the meal such as "Is there more?", "I ate too much", "It was delicious"?

Are those examples part of what makes you a feeder, too?

RobbyP:
My mind is what one would call "dominant masochist".

Essentially, it is pleased with a sense of invincibility, neither pushed by pain nor pulled by bait. Respect for one's partner is paramount, as always.

Cheers.

FAsasquatch:
You heard right, I don’t know what god I appeased and how I did it, but I managed to find a healthy relationship with a feedee. She doesn’t want my money, she doesn’t want a rescuer, she wants to be taken care of ofc but she’s willing to help out and work if she needs to until we’re making enough money that she doesn’t need to. She wants a family and we’re currently working on getting her down here to visit. I was hesitant to post anything, anywhere because I didn’t want to be like “never mind 😭” 3 days later, but it’s been like 3 months now and it’s been amazing. She gushes over me non stop, we’re into all the same kinks, she’s even awakened some I didn’t know about lol 😂, she’s the only girlfriend I’ve ever had that can keep up with my sex drive 😩, she’s exactly my type, loves to eat, and get HUUUUUUGE AF!!!!!!

We have our arguments now and then, but she’s been a bastion of support while I was out of work during a depressive episode that forced me to quit my job. Even when we fight we both sit down and have a reasonable discussion afterwards where we communicate our feelings about each other’s actions and come to a compromise. This is actually the healthiest relationship I’ve ever had. Like I guess a degree in communication and 4 years of therapy helps, but still. She’s been there through every mood swing and shitty thing I’ve said when everything hurts and I can’t help it. And she thinks she’s the lucky one lol 😂

But I’m kinda just reaching out here for advice. Budget gaining foods? Good weight gain shakes?

I’m also wondering if there are any feedism couples here that want friends lol 😂