Miachu:
I will say this,
I don't think some men realise just how much women have to put up with. From having to deal with in real life harassment to online also. heck i got assaulted by a man the other day, simply for doing my job
So many guys message us, asking for pics, because they want to know what you look like. When you decline them, they then instead of respecting your decision, beginning to question you, asking why? Making you feel like you need to justify yourself to them.
And same goes when they ask to message somewhere else, you respectfully say no, but then they begin to ask you why, and try and purswade you to message some place else.
I think a start to having a safe space, would to let people learn how to be a bit more respectable towards women as a whole, seeing us more as something they can maybe hook up with, the amount of random guys on here who have asked me out not long into a convo is beyond silly now, and even just recently, a guy telling me these "scenarios" if we where to date and stuff like that. It's honestly beginning to become so draining at this point, that I mostly just ignore men now on here, because 90% of the time, it's something I've experienced before from them. Just pushing stuff onto you, without you asking them to
It's just time we all have to learn some manors and respect
Horror Doll:
Exactly!
This is why we need a safe space for women, enbies and gender non conforming with no men whatsoever!
Even good men won't be allowed because they should know how people like us suffer from creepy men!
Only question would be now is if transgender men would be allowed?
A couple of other people mentioned this, but I want to say my piece.
I also find it problematic to exclude people by gender. Not only is it impractical, but I find the ethics questionable.
A few scenarios to consider:
A woman who came to this safe space discovers that she is actually trans. If he comes out, he would lose his safe space
Transwomen who are early into their transition, cannot afford to medically transition, or choose not to medically transition, could not enjoy the safe space.
This safe space would be riddled with TERFs.
Masculine-aligned non-binary people would be excluded - especially if they were amab.
Gender non-conforming amab people could not enjoy the safe space.
It would require people to prove their gender. This means you would need to have government documents to join a fetish site. Plus, not everyone is able to provide that - especially the poor.
People attracted to women or feminine presenting people could safely enjoy the dating/hook up culture on this site. People attracted to men would have to go elsewhere - defeating the purpose of the site.
I hope you can understand my position.
