I'm not saying you can't be fat. I'm a feeder, after all. I'm just saying you gotta be smart about it. I have seen many a gainer and feedee have to stop gaining completely because their gaining methods screwed up their health. The same can be said about the slow and steady gainers.

I don't think you wanna go from a yo-yo dieter to someone who cannot gain under pain of death.

The best thing anyone can do is know what they eat - fetish or not. If you are eating fast food, you can find the details on the website.

Many people don't look at the nutritional labels on food because they don't feel a need to. Meanwhile, many feedists are afraid to look because they feel guilty for "ruining" their bodies.

Both views aren't wise. You wouldn't build a house without checking the materials. You should do the same with the food you eat.

That's a good start. But remember, not all calories are created equal. If tracking calories is working for you, that's fine. But it's also good to be mindful of the foods you eat. For example, foods high in sodium can cause excess water retention. This would make you appear to be fatter than you are.

This is a very simple fix. Eat fewer calories.

The average person eats about 2,000 to 2,500 calories a day. You are trying to eat twice that. No wonder you are feeling ill.

Start with an amount you can comfortably consume, and slowly increase your intake over time. This is a marathon, not a race.

It's very annoying. Every time I see an outsider talk about feedism, it's always "men getting off on fattening up women." The heteronormativity is strong.

In most media, men only want a fat woman because of control reasons. He's not attracted to her so much as he thinks a "lesser woman" is more willing to put up with his bullshit than a "conventional woman." Meanwhile, the media shows women going after fat men as gold diggers. After all, who'd want a fat man unless he was super rich or had some social capital?

The only exception to this thinking is if the people involved are a specific kind of POC, like a black person or Polynesian. The thinking there is, "Well, of course, they want a fatty. They're all lazy and gluttonous. It makes perfect sense." But that's less about kink and more about fatphobia having a strong racial component to it as well.


That said, I think the biggest reason why the media thinks the way it does hearkens back to an earlier time in the community. As bad as the female FA/feeder representation is now, it used to be a lot worse. The popular feedist spaces were male-dominated and adhered to very rigid gender roles. There wasn't even a lot of bhm content unless you went into gay spaces. There were some FFA/BHM spaces, but they were hardly as popular.

We as a community have done a piss poor job at improving the representation too. I remember coming across an interview earlier this year where a podcast interviewed a female feedee to get more insight into the community. And while it was an overall good interview, the feedee explicitly stated that men where feeders and women are feedees.

Are you keeping a food journal? You should keep track of what you eat and make note of things. That way you can see where you need to make changes.

It's also possible that your metabolism is getting slower.

You'll gain where you gain. Nothing you can do about it. Some people get a fat face. Some people don't. It is what it is. If you don't like it, there are surgeries for that.

[quote]7ofclubs:
to all female feeders, share with us your fattening fantasies!

Since I have a feedee, I don't really have fantasies anymore. But there are some things I'd like to try at least once.

- My partner lays flat in a table with his limbs chained or tied to it. The table is about 4 feet high with a hole big enough for his belly to go though. Every day, I'll stuff and funnel feed him until his belly touches the floor.

- Fatten my partner up until his navel is about two fingers deep. Then I'll pound it with a strap and watch how it jiggles and shakes.

- Cover myself with food and have him lick me clean.

- Stuff him until he can hardly breathe. Then make him waddle about wearing a pregnancy belt.

- Have him eat 20k - 30k calories in a day.

Female feeders don't stay here long. But everyone should know why at this point.

If you want to be a visible female feeder online, you also have to be a special kind of crazy. It's the only way you can have peace.

You get harrassed by the male feedees, and the male feeders try to convert you into their feedee. I've seen a handful of female feeders since I've joined the site. The majority leave after a month or two just to escape the crazy.

And the lesbians have it worse than have heterosexual feeders. I've heard some stories where guys think that they can turn a lesbian straight if he woos her enough. It's just sad.