Quoted for emphasis. I am think you said it perfectly

Clothes can only do so much, although dressing slightly fancier than you usually would for the occasion could help?

But what worked best for my wife and I with my family is leading with activity. They are in town, so we'll bike there, or in response to a bow are things type question bring up a recent walk or bike ride or something. It seems to pull a lot of the anti fat wind out of their sails :-)

There is never an excuse to do that to a partner or a friend. I'm pissed with the both of them, without knowing them!

Also so that you were treated so shabbily. This really isn't a fat thing, this is people (them) being selfish and hurtful, and sadly it does happen way too much :-( (a thin friend of my wife went through close to exactly the same experience).

I'm a long time Fantasy fan, although I eventually burned out on the big, save the world, epic Fantasy trilogies and stories. There is nothing wrong with them, I just went through too many of them too fast and got tired of them.

Coincidentally it was book two of the Wheel of Time series that finished me off (again nothing against it, it was more like getting sick of some food that you loved and ate ALL the time).

If you ever feel like something quite different, I'll suggest anything by Patricia McKillip, or Lois McMaster Bujold's Curse of Chalion and sequels.

Happy reading

Understandable!

Without knowing your situation and what you have been doing, it is hard to suggest much. The one thing I can say is that it sounds like your appetite is well aligned with your body right now, so you don't easily gain.

It may take some discipline -- a gaining diet instead of a reducing diet -- to overrule your appetite. That could be:
- planning your meals and snacks out the day before, then following it
- counting calories (figure out what you are eating, add several hundred, and try to hit that each day)
- Add a couple of snacks each day, but be very careful to eat what you normally would as well.

But it is hard to over rule your appetite -- and think hard before you decide to do so.

Maybe for now just enjoy that you can eat all you want without gaining? Almost for sure the day will come where that is not the case!

You have about ten days, and are only looking for 3+ pounds, you should be able to do it with some work, but hopefully it is the fun sort of work!

Obviously you need to eat a lot, and you would know best how this happens best for you. What I'd do, based on what works for me, is aim to eat each meal twice: eat your regular breakfast, then have another of some sort on the way to work, eat a bagged lunch at work and take a walk to pick up another modest meal. Grab a take out supper on the way home, then cook a good sized and healthy supper once you are home. Part of why this works for me is variety, spreading apart the meals some, and the naughty thrill of letting others only see me eat normally, but knowing that I'm doubling up.

But if what works for you is to sit down to watch a movie in the evening and eat as much cheesecake as you can manage, or to pack a bunch of of snacks and set an alarm to go off every hour to remind you to eat, go with that :-)

ETA in other words, you can't rely on hunger to lead you to eat enough to gain that quickly. You need a plan that keeps you eating more, but it will be easier if you make a game or story out of it, and do it in ways that is exciting and fun for you beyond the food itself. Odds on your body will lose a lot of appetite as you go on, so there needs to be other positive feedback.

I think it depends a lot on why you are stuffing. To dain, I'd say ease off on how much, but keep up the frequency. To feel stuffed and/or see your belly swollen up I'd ease back a bit on the quantity of food, and how often-- but top off the food with more to drink. Can finish swelling up on liquid, but it absorbs faster, so doesn't disrupt the rest of your digestive track as much. At least in my experience.

Sounds like a perfectly reasonable plan, but bodies don't all behave the same way. It is like having a plan for how you will deal with a child--plan may be great in the abstract, but not for that kid.

What now? I'd experiment. Fasting for the first part of the day didn't seem to do it, so maybe start going for big breakfasts? Maybe working on building muscle mass will make your body chill out about gaining mass in general? Maybe create a snacking schedule to help you pack in maximum calories per day?

I don't have answers, but I don't think anyone can say for certain "this will work for you."

Do keep in mind that flexibility, strength, endurance, and general health can all play a role in what is possible and enjoyable when it comes to sex. Depending on how you eat and what you do, a few pictures festyle changes could open up possibilities.

On the mental level, depression can hit both libodo and how much one enjoys anything, even sex. (Your profiledoes mention depression, don't know if it is hitting you currently) The general health stuff can help some people with how hard their depression is, so can have a double whammy.

On the other hand, what do you want that you aren't getting? Or don't you know, it just isn't doing it for you?