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Ideally the feeder pays for all the food. But of course that's not always practical.

Surely if you can sincerely recite the Glutton's Pledge you're one...but that's raising the bar pretty high. What are the minimal criteria?

I just chatted with a woman who told me of her bad experiences with feeders. She's learned:

1. Don't bother with feeders who don't praise your body.

2. Don't bother with feeders who don't ever buy you food.

Can anyone add to this list? Or describe signs of a GOOD feeder?

Not to toot my own horn, but "How to Get Fat" on my site that has helped some: askdrfeeder.dyndns.org/htgf.html

I don't know, he sounds selfish and manipulative. It's your body...if you don't want to gain he should respect that.

How about a video? Here's an example. These gals are quite big but have hardly any tummy. What's the verdict?

Interesting. So it's just in there so that if someone goes to a therapist all worried about it the therapist can look it up and say "It's not a mental illness...don't worry about it. That'll be $90."?

There are lots of downsides to gaining (especially starting where your husband already is!). Just because the idea turns him on does not mean he should do it. Also it can be a slippery slope...even a little stuffing and gaining might lead to him gaining a lot more than he wants.

A frank talk about his concerns might help. Maybe if you can help him gain in a careful manner (contrary to your inclination I'm sure!) he'd be more open to it.

As far as I can determine, psychologists consider feedism a "paraphilia" (en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_paraphilias), not a mental illness. Of course they often disagree about what is and what isn't a mental illness (e.g. homosexuality was once considered an illness).

I'm not a psychologist but it seems to me there's a clear evolutionary explanation for feedism:

Traditional societies often had/have periodic food shortages. Some of these societies developed the custom of gorging themselves during times of plenty to gain enough fat to get through the lean times. In such a society, feedism would be adaptive, since it would help encourage people to eat enough during those times of plenty. Thus there would be evolutionary pressure for people to have feedist tendencies.

Depending on your particular ancestry, you may or may not inherit this tendency and if so it may or may not be triggered by your own particular environment. So some people are feedists and some aren't.

So I wouldn't call this a sickness. You could call it an "atavism" since modern societies don't have periodic food shortages. Nowadays food is shipped and stored, which is much more practical than gaining fat.