Jboabfe:
I’m definitely heavy in the butt, I realized I was uncomfortable in just about every pair of jeans and ended up upsizing the pants. I think I might jump up another size, since even the new upsized pants (largest at the store I was shopping at) are JUST comfortable.
Glitter Jelly:
My boyfriend is bottom curvaceous (thicker thighs, round butt and wider hips) but he definitely wouldn't be considered fat here.
He's autistic and hates crowds so when shopping for pants he compares the width of the waist with his forearm to gauge so he doesn't have to try them on.
When he was heavier he used so wear size 34-36 so he thought the size 32 pants he had found would definitely fit.
He tried them once he got home and, to his dismay, they were tight in the legs and when he managed to pull them past his hips it became obvious there was no way he'd be able to button them.
He's a student and the last months have been very stressful for him so it's likely that he gained a bit of weight but you wouldn't know that by looking at his hollow cheeks and protruding collarbones.
Since then, he seems more self conscious, eats less at meals and somewhat reduced his sugar intake (he usually has ice-cream or pastries before bed). He's expressed that he doesn't feel good in his skin.
I'm trying to reassure him that he's not fat and nothing's wrong with his body. Thrift store clothes sometimes fit smaller or larger depending on how they were cared for and whether or not they got stretched with time. I suggested to him to look at the labels and avoid pants unless they have at least 5% stretchy fibers.
Munchies:
I learned this trick from my grandma. Take whatever clothes you want and hold them against your body. For wants, do the front and back. She had to do this when it was illegal for black people to try on clothes in stores. Not as great as trying on the clothes, but it's the next best thing.
Glitter Jelly:
That's kind of what he does, but maybe there's some discrepancy between how big he thinks he is and how big he actually is.
I personally wouldn't buy non stretchy pants as they are unlikely to fit me well. It makes sense as every body is shaped differently.
Body dysmorphia is a bitch. I have it, but my problem is I see myself bigger than I am. So I have a lot of baggy pants that aren't supposed to be baggy.
3 months
Munchies:
Are you in treatment for your bipolar and ED?
Elis137:
So I’m currently working with both a therapist and a psychiatrist (which both are aware of this situation lol). We are also in the process of adjusting my medications for bipolar disorder. They’ve also brought up the option of me getting help from an actual eating disorder clinic/center but that decision is ultimately up to me. Also I’m not for sure how to reply I’m so sorry.[/quote]
If your lack of balance is due to your bipolar and ED, I'd focus on getting those worked on. Bipolar and ED are both very treatable, and there are numerous people in this community that have one or both of these things.
3 months
Elis137:
Hi everyone,
I’m really struggling right now. I have had this fetish for a long time, and it becomes especially overwhelming when I’m slightly manic and worse when I’m fully manic (I have bipolar disorder). During those times, I fully give into it and obsess over it. But once the mania is over, my eating disorders takes over (I struggle with bulimia and anorexia). It feels like I’m constantly stuck in a tug-of-war between these parts of myself. I’ve tried doing some bloats (with water and diet soda) but it just isn’t hitting right. So I was just curious if anyone else deals with anything like this and how can I figure out a happy middle ground.
Are you in treatment for your bipolar and ED?
3 months
Jboabfe:
I’m definitely heavy in the butt, I realized I was uncomfortable in just about every pair of jeans and ended up upsizing the pants. I think I might jump up another size, since even the new upsized pants (largest at the store I was shopping at) are JUST comfortable.
Glitter Jelly:
My boyfriend is bottom curvaceous (thicker thighs, round butt and wider hips) but he definitely wouldn't be considered fat here.
He's autistic and hates crowds so when shopping for pants he compares the width of the waist with his forearm to gauge so he doesn't have to try them on.
When he was heavier he used so wear size 34-36 so he thought the size 32 pants he had found would definitely fit.
He tried them once he got home and, to his dismay, they were tight in the legs and when he managed to pull them past his hips it became obvious there was no way he'd be able to button them.
He's a student and the last months have been very stressful for him so it's likely that he gained a bit of weight but you wouldn't know that by looking at his hollow cheeks and protruding collarbones.
Since then, he seems more self conscious, eats less at meals and somewhat reduced his sugar intake (he usually has ice-cream or pastries before bed). He's expressed that he doesn't feel good in his skin.
I'm trying to reassure him that he's not fat and nothing's wrong with his body. Thrift store clothes sometimes fit smaller or larger depending on how they were cared for and whether or not they got stretched with time. I suggested to him to look at the labels and avoid pants unless they have at least 5% stretchy fibers.
I learned this trick from my grandma. Take whatever clothes you want and hold them against your body. For wants, do the front and back. She had to do this when it was illegal for black people to try on clothes in stores. Not as great as trying on the clothes, but it's the next best thing.
3 months
Morbidly A Beast:it’s tough but I’m still around just thought it might keep me from overeating but I can’t seem to stop
Munchies:Well, do you have a plan in place?
Morbidly A Beast:Was good for a few days actually did like 2 days with a fast then broke yesterday and today but I went and got some stuff for salads and chicken. I did go to physical therapy, which was good. I don’t really know where to start
Munchies:I'd start by noting your strengths, weaknesses, and short-, medium-, and long-term goals to get your bearings on this. Play to your strengths, and devise a plan to deal with your weaknesses.
Morbidly A Beast:I’ll try that thank you. probably gonna take it easy within reason this weekend. But even my splurges yesterday and Tuesday were moderate relative to normal. I haven’t been on a scale at all but I doubt much has changed.
I wouldn't worry too much about hoping on a scale yet. I'd keep my focus on transitioning to a normal appetite. Once you got a handle on that, then you can start worrying about everything else.
3 months
Morbidly A Beast:it’s tough but I’m still around just thought it might keep me from overeating but I can’t seem to stop
Munchies:Well, do you have a plan in place?
Morbidly A Beast:Was good for a few days actually did like 2 days with a fast then broke yesterday and today but I went and got some stuff for salads and chicken. I did go to physical therapy, which was good. I don’t really know where to start
I'd start by noting your strengths, weaknesses, and short-, medium-, and long-term goals to get your bearings on this. Play to your strengths, and devise a plan to deal with your weaknesses.
3 months
Morbidly A Beast:it’s tough but I’m still around just thought it might keep me from overeating but I can’t seem to stop
Well, do you have a plan in place?
3 months
Loch5555:
So idk if this is the place for this, and I am sorry if it isn’t. But I literally just saw my mom on feabie, she had posts with her belly out and feederism stuff all over her profile. Idk what to think or feel about this. If anyone has an advice or experience in this then I’d really appreciate it. ……….
This is brining up so many conflicting feelings and idk how to feel about any of this anymore.
Honestly seeing her belly like that just… idk I don’t even know what to feels
Personally, I'd delete my account and pretend I saw nothing.
Maybe get some therapy too. I'm sorry, man
3 months
JustAFatGirlNotAFeedee:
How to you feel when famous people talk about fighting obesity ?
Such as wanting to lower the obesity rate.
Like when such talk comes from health experts, celebrities, pro athletes, or politicians
Tbh, I don't care unless they are promoting dangerous shit like drinking salt cabbage water. (Iykyk)
There are legitimate issues that need to be addressed sure as malnutrition, food deserts, poverty, poor health, etc. Of course, you can be fat and healthy, but that does not negate the people who are fat, unhealthy, and not wanting to be fat.
3 months
JustAFatGirlNotAFeedee:
Can someone explain fat fetishism and/or feederism to an "ordinary" fat girl ?
I'm a 20 year old woman at 341 lb. I had only discovered the term feederism like a month ago.
I don't get it so explain to me like I'm 5.
Fat fetishists find fat sexy - either on them or on someone else.
Feedism (not feederism) - is a sexual practice involving feeding someone else. Many commonly associate it with weight gain, but that is not strictly true. There are non-gaining feedists.
3 months
