californiabay:
When the weight really started to show in me the negativity I got from my family was epic! I remember one Thanksgiving my weight gain seemed to be the sole topic of dinner. I believe my family just imagined I was subjecting myself to a life of loneliness and sadness. I believe the best response is living your life to the fullest. I always remind them of the shows, concerts and vacations with friends I take. I have also traveled the world more than any of them. Despite their criticism I live a live that shows being fat is not synonymous with apathy.
Exactly. Most families take on the cultural norms of the overall society because for our parents; making successful children who follow the norms becomes paramount. They don't realize that there is more than one way to be successful. The fatter I got, the more I traveled. You are correct and you have to live your life and love them from afar
5 years
FattyFat25:
How long will it take for people to notice weight gain in a thinner person?
Kik: fathog1234
During this quarantine, in about a month especially if the person is not so tall.
5 years
Feedeeboy:
I don’t see my family very often (every few months), but the last time I saw them was the first time they seen me since I dedicated my body to weight gain.. needless to say they were disgusted with my fat body and they picked me to pieces and really let me have it. I did gain around 30 pounds or so since last time I seen them so it obviously was a surprise to them but I’m just wondering if anybody’s been in the same position with family? I was very upset with how my family treated me for being a little overweight but when I got home and surrounded myself with good food and treats I managed to block all the negativity. If I’m ever going to go near my family again I need to be prepared to be judged I feel like there’s no way around it
TheWhipHand:
It's hard for family to adjust. When my husband started fattening up his family was relentless. It took a long time for them to stop asking him "to go on a walk" or bike ride. It's going to take a while, but they will get the message eventually.
It is a situation by situation basis. Truth is, most folks want to obey social norms because it is a form of status and when you have a lifestyle outside that it will allow your family to say things under the facade that they love you. I say, let them be and create and find those who reciprocate immediately and can comprehend your journey. You can't help whom you are born to but you can help those whom you hang around the most....
5 years
Bigdaddyjack:
I find that being a death feedist is strange. If I find a bbw to feed it would be for feeder/feedee relationship. Feeding someone to death SCARES me.
JackSteven:
Death is not the point. The point is that death is the only limit.
Very interesting
5 years
Ditzy:
When I was really skinny in high school I was attracted to the fattest guys in school.
I usually had to ask them if they had a girlfriend or if they wanted to go out on a date.
Very seldom did they ask me out first.
What is crazy about this is that one I was more in shape no female spoke to me even as an athlete but once I got over three hundred pounds women who were way smaller than I came out of the woodwork.
5 years
glutton:
You're not alone. My family are very anti fat and consequently judgmental. It's not easy I know ((hugs))
This is the life of us Fatties. I remember reading a story years ago about how some fat folks had family members who did the same thing so they started going out to find like minded folks and this applies here. Sometimes you had to seek out those to build a family and let your own kin be who they are and love them from afar....
5 years
I went through the same thing about twelve years ago. I moved about four to six hours away and got me a place off to myself and I met an older female who taught me to experience the whole feeder experience and two years later I was at four hundred and my family tried to destroy my sense if self but when I got back; I had to own that I control how I feel about me and that is what matters. I had to be like the hell with my family and so I went out and only dealt with folks who were on the same page as I am on. I blocked my family off of Facebook and they could only call or text me. The truth is, the fat life will ostracize you from most people so you have to learn how to make friends who support you beyond the fat too because there are plenty of folks who will try to get off with just having that fat guy around. The hardest part is finding folks who get it like you get it...
5 years
becomingoverweight:
As someone who cares immensely about health, I find all this extremely disturbing. Not sure how you guys feel the pro of living this sexual fantasy outweighs death itself.
Bigdaddyjack:
I find that being a death feedist is strange. If I find a bbw to feed it would be for feeder/feedee relationship. Feeding someone to death SCARES me.
Yeah, the death aspect is a bit to psychopathological for me. I can see feeding someone or yourself to excess but to kill them is a bit too much....
5 years
OpenUp:The idea of death doesn't turn me on, no, but the idea of being rolled into the ER...put on oxygen, EKG pads slapped on my body, possibly defibrillated, while the thin nurses sneer at my body...now that's hot to me
Agreed. There is something about being mad fun of like that is hot.
5 years
markus202:
The sexual pleasure will totally be worth it. Social stigmas about you and your size can’t beat the pleasure..in fact- they can be very erotic and exciting one you get used to being an object of scrutiny in public. 😈
I agree with this totally. When I was younger, I would get self conscious and mad but when I got huge the scrutiny became a turn on because of the looks of amazement and disgust of how can a handsome guy have a hanging gut like I had. It was amazing....
5 years
